Such as; Jungle fever, Zebra stripes, and etc. But no movies (that I ever heard of) that document the life and burdens of a mixed person?
From my personal experience, society can be just as cruel to a mixed person, as any one in an interracial relationship.Why are there so many movies that display the life and burdens of interracial relationships?
What about Mr. Spock? Or Hondo? Both ';half-bred'; stories.
Art, I think the reason Hollywood doesn't delve too often into the subject is because it isn't one that immediately cuts to an identifiable stereotype or cultural shorthand.
All movies deal with a visual language that the audience doesn't have to think hard about. Think about a ';buddy movie'; one is a slob, the other a prig, ala the ';Odd Couple';. Think cop movies where the Chief is always trying to keep the maverick cop hemmed in, ala ';Beverly Hills Cop'; or ';Heat of the Night'; or any number of other films. See glasses on a girl ... she's smart; see a snotty blonde she is a soroity sister. See Halle Berry, she is just fine, ... goodness.
For your situation, there isn't a ready visual stereotype that folks can look at and immediately understand.
However, there is one film that deals with the theme you're asking about. I can't recall the name of it, but it is from the late '60s or early '70s. It starred Godfrey Cambridge and it dealt with a racist white guy who woke up black one day. His wife freaks, his kids freak and he freaks.
You might want to check it out. It deals with how this racist guy eventually deals with his situation.
I should backtrack a tad. Back in the olden days, there was an ';Urban Legend'; that if you had a drop of black blood in your veins, you could be white one day and black the next.
Another film that touches on your issue stars James Earl Jones and Robert Duval as brothers. Robert Duval is a cracker who discovers after his mother dies, that his father was black, and that he has a half brother living in Chicago.
Duval leaves his Cracker-World and heads to Chicago ...Why are there so many movies that display the life and burdens of interracial relationships?
Imitation of Life-1959, but it's a black girl that looks white
Deep in my Heart - it's all about a mixed woman's problems sort of. particularly w/ her maternal figures: a white rape victim who gives her up, a black foster mother who she's taken from and a white adoptive mother who she disconnected with.
If that helps!
Because it is the Jew run media trying to stuff diversity down our throats so that they can weaken the white man's place in this world. I don't wath much TV or movies. I prefer a good book. It is much more intelligent.
I agree. I've been in a relationship with my bf for over 3 years (he's black and I'm asian) I haven't dealt with any hardships except my parents getting used to the idea. lol
Media brainwashing the masses.
Racism is for the weak.
try the movie ';crash';
I totally know what you mean!
I know what u mean...and I agree
Friday, November 25, 2011
Why do abusive men stay in relationships with women they hate?
There's a lot of answers about why women stay in abusive relationships but I wonder why the abusive men do? I mean if their moody all the time and their either verbally or phsyically abusive to their partner, why stay in a relationship that makes you want to hit out?Why do abusive men stay in relationships with women they hate?
Being an abuser is not about love or hate for them. It is only about control. These men (and women) tend to have been abused themselves or have witnessed spousal abuse as children. They start out with an unhealthy view of relationships and a huge hit to their self esteem. This is what they know. Being abusive gives them a sense of control over overwhelming feelings of fear and insecurity. The fear of losing their partner is what drives this. As a health professional and one who has been in an abusive relationship, I can speak from experience on this issue.
Now to the issue of control. All of us feel the need to control some aspects of our lives because our nature and our operating program tells us that we have to do whatever it takes to avoid pain and seek pleasure. The anger and need to control that is part of the abuser's operating system is his/her way of avoiding pain...the pain of loss in situations of abuse.
I have included some links on human nature and what relationships should look like from a spiritual perspective. Hope you find them interesting.
Best WishesWhy do abusive men stay in relationships with women they hate?
Asking the question implies that the reason they're abusive is because the other person makes them miserable and its they're fault the person is abusive. THAT isn't what abuse is about. People who abuse have a need to manipulate and control, trust me...no matter what you do, it will not please an abusive person.
Reason why people abuse is because they aren't happy with themselves. But instead of making changes to themselves they blame everyone else and/or manipulate/control others with negativity to make themselves feel better.
Perhaps they have a sadistic love.They expressed their love by hurting their wives.Weird is not it? but that is how a Sadist man loves - that is through hurting the one he love...You Know if this abusive man does not love their wives they better just leave or file a divorce...but they stay..it only means they do also love their wives but are just sadistic in loving them.
A drug dealer needs addicts, and abusers need victims. The dealer and the abuser both thrive on controlling their subjects.
If the addict and victim choose not to break this bond, they might just as well put a gold ring on their controllers finger, because it lasts for life.
It is their intent to keep you that way, it's their euphoric high, they will not leave you and may even increase the amount of control they have over you. Your pain and suffering is music to their ears, that's why they stay.
Good Luck - Bless You
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If a man finds out he can domanate a woman and still have her while he does whats he wants to do, he will keep her around. Due to when things do not go his way he comes back and has his ice cream and cake. She is a fall back girl, some a man can fall back to when things go sour in another relationship he has on the side.
I have no idea and have never thought about it that way. I have never hit a woman and I do not like violence at all. I think those that do hit are in it for control. They like to control women. Nuts huh? I feel so badly for the women who end up with asssholes like that.
They stay because they can CONTROL their wife! They are to insecure to take their anger out on other men. If a guy were to come up to them wanting to fight, these jerks would run with their tail tucked under their legs.The Wives are their victim because they are the only ones they can control.
Because they enjoy having the power and control over their partner, and most abusive men were abused when they were younger, so they see nothing wrong with it.....as far as some of them are concerned, its normal.
Becaus they know a quality, sane woman would never want them. Please, stop putting up with abuse %26amp; become a quality, sane woman again!
It's kind of like a war lord that conquers villages and countries. This land is mine. She's property, a most loyal vicitm that he can take everything out on.
Power that is all it is plus someone to wait on then , but remember abuse is done by big brave men?
thay are abusive, thay abuse all woman that will let them if thay got another woman thay would try to do them the same way,
they dont hate them. they just want to control something. them.
It's not that they hate the woman. In fact, they may very well love her, or at the least need her. Believe it or not, people who have anger problems don't sit there and choose to be abusive. It could be just because of their abrasive personality, or more likely, with the way the were raised and or some traumatic event in their childhood. Personally, as a woman, I have anger issues as well. I'm not physically abusive, but I find when I get very angry it is VERY difficult to stop myself from yelling, screaming, and overreacting. Now, I have realized this about myself and am working to change it. Believe me though, it's actually very difficult. I know that my anger problems are very trivial compared to some, and it is EXTREMELY hard to change. You can't truly understand it unless you have problems yourself. With enough dedication and will power, you can start to act better, but you can never control those impulses. They are always there. In a lot of instances with abusive relationships, they don't truly hate the person. In fact, they often love them. They just do not know how to control or stop their anger and persistent rages. This is not an excuse for their behavior, but it is an explanation. For those who do not truly love their partner, they are often using them. Whenever they find someone who is actually willing to tolerate their hanger, they cling to it as hard as they can. If ever they feel they might be losing their hold on that person, they will often turn ';sweet'; for a little while and rope them back in.
I'm not justifying their actions, but I try not to judge because it really is a very difficult transformation to change. It's not like a drug addiction where once it's out of your system you can try and forget about it. Those rage impulses are ALWAYS there, no matter how long you try and control them. Now, someone who is truly mastering their change can control these impulses, but it's difficult and quite exhausting to be honest.
Being an abuser is not about love or hate for them. It is only about control. These men (and women) tend to have been abused themselves or have witnessed spousal abuse as children. They start out with an unhealthy view of relationships and a huge hit to their self esteem. This is what they know. Being abusive gives them a sense of control over overwhelming feelings of fear and insecurity. The fear of losing their partner is what drives this. As a health professional and one who has been in an abusive relationship, I can speak from experience on this issue.
Now to the issue of control. All of us feel the need to control some aspects of our lives because our nature and our operating program tells us that we have to do whatever it takes to avoid pain and seek pleasure. The anger and need to control that is part of the abuser's operating system is his/her way of avoiding pain...the pain of loss in situations of abuse.
I have included some links on human nature and what relationships should look like from a spiritual perspective. Hope you find them interesting.
Best WishesWhy do abusive men stay in relationships with women they hate?
Asking the question implies that the reason they're abusive is because the other person makes them miserable and its they're fault the person is abusive. THAT isn't what abuse is about. People who abuse have a need to manipulate and control, trust me...no matter what you do, it will not please an abusive person.
Reason why people abuse is because they aren't happy with themselves. But instead of making changes to themselves they blame everyone else and/or manipulate/control others with negativity to make themselves feel better.
Perhaps they have a sadistic love.They expressed their love by hurting their wives.Weird is not it? but that is how a Sadist man loves - that is through hurting the one he love...You Know if this abusive man does not love their wives they better just leave or file a divorce...but they stay..it only means they do also love their wives but are just sadistic in loving them.
A drug dealer needs addicts, and abusers need victims. The dealer and the abuser both thrive on controlling their subjects.
If the addict and victim choose not to break this bond, they might just as well put a gold ring on their controllers finger, because it lasts for life.
It is their intent to keep you that way, it's their euphoric high, they will not leave you and may even increase the amount of control they have over you. Your pain and suffering is music to their ears, that's why they stay.
Good Luck - Bless You
.
If a man finds out he can domanate a woman and still have her while he does whats he wants to do, he will keep her around. Due to when things do not go his way he comes back and has his ice cream and cake. She is a fall back girl, some a man can fall back to when things go sour in another relationship he has on the side.
I have no idea and have never thought about it that way. I have never hit a woman and I do not like violence at all. I think those that do hit are in it for control. They like to control women. Nuts huh? I feel so badly for the women who end up with asssholes like that.
They stay because they can CONTROL their wife! They are to insecure to take their anger out on other men. If a guy were to come up to them wanting to fight, these jerks would run with their tail tucked under their legs.The Wives are their victim because they are the only ones they can control.
Because they enjoy having the power and control over their partner, and most abusive men were abused when they were younger, so they see nothing wrong with it.....as far as some of them are concerned, its normal.
Becaus they know a quality, sane woman would never want them. Please, stop putting up with abuse %26amp; become a quality, sane woman again!
It's kind of like a war lord that conquers villages and countries. This land is mine. She's property, a most loyal vicitm that he can take everything out on.
Power that is all it is plus someone to wait on then , but remember abuse is done by big brave men?
thay are abusive, thay abuse all woman that will let them if thay got another woman thay would try to do them the same way,
they dont hate them. they just want to control something. them.
It's not that they hate the woman. In fact, they may very well love her, or at the least need her. Believe it or not, people who have anger problems don't sit there and choose to be abusive. It could be just because of their abrasive personality, or more likely, with the way the were raised and or some traumatic event in their childhood. Personally, as a woman, I have anger issues as well. I'm not physically abusive, but I find when I get very angry it is VERY difficult to stop myself from yelling, screaming, and overreacting. Now, I have realized this about myself and am working to change it. Believe me though, it's actually very difficult. I know that my anger problems are very trivial compared to some, and it is EXTREMELY hard to change. You can't truly understand it unless you have problems yourself. With enough dedication and will power, you can start to act better, but you can never control those impulses. They are always there. In a lot of instances with abusive relationships, they don't truly hate the person. In fact, they often love them. They just do not know how to control or stop their anger and persistent rages. This is not an excuse for their behavior, but it is an explanation. For those who do not truly love their partner, they are often using them. Whenever they find someone who is actually willing to tolerate their hanger, they cling to it as hard as they can. If ever they feel they might be losing their hold on that person, they will often turn ';sweet'; for a little while and rope them back in.
I'm not justifying their actions, but I try not to judge because it really is a very difficult transformation to change. It's not like a drug addiction where once it's out of your system you can try and forget about it. Those rage impulses are ALWAYS there, no matter how long you try and control them. Now, someone who is truly mastering their change can control these impulses, but it's difficult and quite exhausting to be honest.
LGBT: When it comes to personal relationships, do you have the right to discriminate?
I would never judge someone by their looks, gender nationality or sexual orientation, but when it comes to a up close and personal relationship, I think you have a right to discriminate. What do you think?LGBT: When it comes to personal relationships, do you have the right to discriminate?
We do have the right to choose whom we want to associate with. If you mean friendships, personally, I don't care about gender, ethnicity, age, etc. But if you mean a romantic relationship, then I am guided by what appeals to me. Some people like blonds, some don't. Some like tall guys, some don't. Some like guys with facial hair, some don't. You can only be attracted to that which attracts you. You can't pretend to be attracted and have it work out over the long term.LGBT: When it comes to personal relationships, do you have the right to discriminate?
When it comes to personal relationships, it's not discrimination. It's choice.
I mean no one, but no one, has a ';right'; to demand a personal relationship.
No i dont think that you should discriminate against that person because you don't know how that person truly and honestly feel for you so why would you do something like that and turn that person away not knowing if this is the right person for you.
I really don't think so, but that's just me...
We do have the right to choose whom we want to associate with. If you mean friendships, personally, I don't care about gender, ethnicity, age, etc. But if you mean a romantic relationship, then I am guided by what appeals to me. Some people like blonds, some don't. Some like tall guys, some don't. Some like guys with facial hair, some don't. You can only be attracted to that which attracts you. You can't pretend to be attracted and have it work out over the long term.LGBT: When it comes to personal relationships, do you have the right to discriminate?
When it comes to personal relationships, it's not discrimination. It's choice.
I mean no one, but no one, has a ';right'; to demand a personal relationship.
No i dont think that you should discriminate against that person because you don't know how that person truly and honestly feel for you so why would you do something like that and turn that person away not knowing if this is the right person for you.
I really don't think so, but that's just me...
Why do people associate jealousy with relationships so often?
Sometimes there is a general question about jealousy with no mention of a relationship and yet the answers usually focus on relationships
There are so many issues people get jealous over - why are we not concerned as much about other issues?Why do people associate jealousy with relationships so often?
Jealousy, over time became synonymous with relationships.
Anything else it tends to called envy, even though Webster's defines it similar to jealousy along with an additional component.
I think because with jealousy and relationships, there is a fear of loss involved.
Fear of loss can do some strange things to people.
I knew a girl who broke up with a guy, an abusive jerk in fact. 2 weeks later she found out he was dating someone else, so she uncharacteristically beat that girl up and went back with that guy.
I don't understand the logic, but emotions don't always make sense, do they?Why do people associate jealousy with relationships so often?
Jealousy naturally accompanies relationships because the mating game is highly competitive. We usually don't pair up randomly or indiscriminately. Most often, we compete with each other for a subset of the mates with the highest perceived fitness. Jealousy helps provide motivation to outdo the opposition and protect our mates once we've hooked them.
I'm not sure. I actually get jealous when my best friend hangs out with someone else haha or if my mom gives my brothers girlfriend alot of attention instead of me. or when the guy i like likes my friend.stupid, but jealousy is a human emotion that effects all different situations.
The main problem in a relationship is jealousy caused by your lover paying attention to a third person whom you see as a rival. That really causes your heart racing with rage and fear of losing your lover.
Because personal relationships are where jealousy is most often seen. When we open ourselves to others we feel vulnerable and this then reveals our insecurities.
There are so many issues people get jealous over - why are we not concerned as much about other issues?Why do people associate jealousy with relationships so often?
Jealousy, over time became synonymous with relationships.
Anything else it tends to called envy, even though Webster's defines it similar to jealousy along with an additional component.
I think because with jealousy and relationships, there is a fear of loss involved.
Fear of loss can do some strange things to people.
I knew a girl who broke up with a guy, an abusive jerk in fact. 2 weeks later she found out he was dating someone else, so she uncharacteristically beat that girl up and went back with that guy.
I don't understand the logic, but emotions don't always make sense, do they?Why do people associate jealousy with relationships so often?
Jealousy naturally accompanies relationships because the mating game is highly competitive. We usually don't pair up randomly or indiscriminately. Most often, we compete with each other for a subset of the mates with the highest perceived fitness. Jealousy helps provide motivation to outdo the opposition and protect our mates once we've hooked them.
I'm not sure. I actually get jealous when my best friend hangs out with someone else haha or if my mom gives my brothers girlfriend alot of attention instead of me. or when the guy i like likes my friend.stupid, but jealousy is a human emotion that effects all different situations.
The main problem in a relationship is jealousy caused by your lover paying attention to a third person whom you see as a rival. That really causes your heart racing with rage and fear of losing your lover.
Because personal relationships are where jealousy is most often seen. When we open ourselves to others we feel vulnerable and this then reveals our insecurities.
What influence does behaviour have on relationships between people with disabilities?
Does behaviour ...of a challenging nature... impact the development of relationships between people who experience disability? If so, can such behaviour work to strengthen bonds between people ...or does it simply inhibit relationships?What influence does behaviour have on relationships between people with disabilities?
It takes a kind of special person that can cope with some one that has a disability, and not have that I feel sorry for you because you have a disability.I order to really cope with it you have to be in it for the long haul because it will wear you down and put a strain on a relationship, I know for a fact because I have been a wheel chair now for over a year and I have heard my spouse say I wish he wasn't in the damn thing.What influence does behaviour have on relationships between people with disabilities?
I am not sure. I am still learning about this one. My brother, who is learning disabled, recently ran off and married a woman he met on the internet. I am still waiting to see how this is going to turn out. I would think that on his part it would strengthen it, but it could just as easily inhibit it. Especially if they have a difficulty understanding each other. You didn't mention whether you were talking about mental or physical disabilities.
well im in a wheel chair and i have had plenty of relationships in my life off of which are with normal men and its not once been a problem ive been married now for 6 years and my husband doent even think about the wheel chair. so i would say it makes no difference unless the handicapped person is opcest with it. and they are always puting a guilt trip on the other person.
in general terms, others may have pre-concieved notions that disabilities means being incapacitated in every sense of the word, not having the knowledge of the word itself. ignorance (w/ no fault in particular) can manifest into a dark underworld of denials.
one has to be open to the world of possibilities that disabilities doesnt simply inhibit relationships rather, it can and will enhance it once itself embrace and accept it. u ask a deep question........i like that!
I think behavior plays a key role in the development of a handicap person. I say this because my youngest son has Cystic Fibrosis, when we started out with a negative behavior ( like it was a tragedy happening to him) then we had a negative effect and he was more self conscious of having to do the things that help him survive. Although when we changed our attitude towards his disability to lets fight through this, and this is started doing all his treatments as just something that needs to be done, and we quit making a big deal out of it. He no longer has to stay in the hospital, and the effect it had on him rubbed of on the way he was treated by his peers. When we had the its no big deal attitude, so did his friends. And yes I do believe it does strengthen bonds between people.
Your question is confusing me
It takes a kind of special person that can cope with some one that has a disability, and not have that I feel sorry for you because you have a disability.I order to really cope with it you have to be in it for the long haul because it will wear you down and put a strain on a relationship, I know for a fact because I have been a wheel chair now for over a year and I have heard my spouse say I wish he wasn't in the damn thing.What influence does behaviour have on relationships between people with disabilities?
I am not sure. I am still learning about this one. My brother, who is learning disabled, recently ran off and married a woman he met on the internet. I am still waiting to see how this is going to turn out. I would think that on his part it would strengthen it, but it could just as easily inhibit it. Especially if they have a difficulty understanding each other. You didn't mention whether you were talking about mental or physical disabilities.
well im in a wheel chair and i have had plenty of relationships in my life off of which are with normal men and its not once been a problem ive been married now for 6 years and my husband doent even think about the wheel chair. so i would say it makes no difference unless the handicapped person is opcest with it. and they are always puting a guilt trip on the other person.
in general terms, others may have pre-concieved notions that disabilities means being incapacitated in every sense of the word, not having the knowledge of the word itself. ignorance (w/ no fault in particular) can manifest into a dark underworld of denials.
one has to be open to the world of possibilities that disabilities doesnt simply inhibit relationships rather, it can and will enhance it once itself embrace and accept it. u ask a deep question........i like that!
I think behavior plays a key role in the development of a handicap person. I say this because my youngest son has Cystic Fibrosis, when we started out with a negative behavior ( like it was a tragedy happening to him) then we had a negative effect and he was more self conscious of having to do the things that help him survive. Although when we changed our attitude towards his disability to lets fight through this, and this is started doing all his treatments as just something that needs to be done, and we quit making a big deal out of it. He no longer has to stay in the hospital, and the effect it had on him rubbed of on the way he was treated by his peers. When we had the its no big deal attitude, so did his friends. And yes I do believe it does strengthen bonds between people.
Your question is confusing me
What is the point of homosexual relationships?
The whole point to relationships is reproduction.
Heterosexual relationships are only good for keeping populations from dying out, and so homosexual relationships defeat the entire purpose of relationships altogether.What is the point of homosexual relationships?
There are so many answers before me, I'm sure that I wouldn't be able to add any new perspective to this...
...so I'll just say this. HAVE A WONDERFUL DAY! =PWhat is the point of homosexual relationships?
The first statement is where you are completely incorrect.
Relationships are not about reproduction. Many heterosexuals get married, and don't have children. The point of a relationship is loving someone for who they are. And infact, you should want the population of the world to die out. Why, because there are a limited amount of jobs, and forigners are going to be taking our jobs because the boss will have them work for less pay. Also, because with more people, more funding is needed. So that includes more taxes.
You are an ignorant homophobic bastard.
The point of them is to be happy with the person you love. Human society has turned from needing reproduction to needing a stable family, and if you can find happiness in being in a relationship with the same gender and maintain a good relationship as anyone else would, then you can't change, it's how you were born! Wouldn't that also mean that condoms and birth control were useless, and that children should be having sex underage to make children earlier? That seems sick to me, well, the second one, atleast. Besides, homosexuals CAN adopt and raise children. Sure, it doesn't bring someone new into the world, but it gives someone a home, isn't that all that matters? (completely pro-gay marriage)
The world is already overpopulated, so i don't think EVERY person in the world needs to have a child. And the whole point to relationships is not reproduction. If that's the case, why don't straight people just live in testing facilities and be breeders, and the rest of us will be living our lives. The point is, not everyone is parent material. Have you seen some of the airheads in relationships? Do you really think they should have kids? A guy who is a jock and wears hollister, and a dumb blonde who is a cheerleader and probably is a closet drinker. Oh yeah, their children would be wonderful. What about two druggies that are in a relationship? Should they have kids? You need to think about what your saying here. And what if man and woman could not make a kid? Would ALL sexual relationships be shunned at that point?
Wow, I bet you get lots of ladies into bed with that line. ';Hey baby, the whole point of a relationship is to reproduce. So come on up to my room and we'll get straight to the point.';
No, the point of a man ejaculating inside a woman is to reproduce. The point of a relationship is love, support, and affection, all of which humans need to properly survive. And you can get it from a man, OR a woman.
If everyone thought that way, our world would be even more overpopulated than it is already.
More famine, war, and pollution.
THE HUMAN POPULATION IS NOT DYING OUT.
What about sterile heterosexual couples? They can't reproduce, I'm sure you've heard that a thousand times, but do they not have the right to pair up?
the point of a homosexual relationship is this
THEY WANNA FREAKIN BE TOGETHER!! GEEZ!!!
duh! there dnt have to be a point to be with someone. If there is someone that likes you and you like them back and they wanna be with you and you wanna be with them.... what is there to do?????
BE WITH THEM
uhhh there is no point to a relationship....
the point of sex is to reproduce....
but since there is much entertainment in sex it can also be used as a general activity.
Since some people are attracted to the same sex it wouldn't make sense to say that the only point sex is to reproduce....besides...i believe condoms and birth control kill your logic.
your question is like asking ';what is the point of love?';
There are plenty of way to reproduce in the world now days, so you point is invalid. Its about who you are attracted to and who you love? Not about let me just go have kids to increase the world's population.
Just because we are gay doesn't mean that we don't want someone to spend the rest of our lives with. Relationships are more about having a companion and not so much as for reproduction. If that were true, why are half the pregnancies caused by one night stands?
I would say the point if looked at from a biological point of view is to stop the population from spiralling out of control.
However the real point which applies to all relationships, is one of love. Just love...
because everyone wants to have love in their life.. what the point of having heterosexual relations if you don't plan on having children, if the wife got her ovaries taken out or if the man got a lil snip snip and cant produce sperm anymore...
That is a complete load of rubbish. If all relationships are to you is a means to reproduce I feel very sorry for you. Haven't you ever heard of love, warmth, compassion etc? You must be a very sad person.
It's just who you go well with who you're attracted to and then you end up in a relationship with them. It isn't what you think over. It just is how you feel best comfortable in.
So...if the only point to relationships is reproduction, then infertile people should be single, and old couples should divorce.
Got it. I'll send out the memo immediately.
What is the point of you asking the question for a second time and just receiving the same answer over and over again?
If the whole point to relationships is reproduction, I really feel sorry for anyone who dates you.
It's nothing to do with a ';point';. It's whomever you are sexually attracted to. Not about gender, but about love.
The only reason straight couples have sex is to make babies?? Not because it feels so good or just because they love each other?? Who knew??
It's questions like this that make me wonder if the anti-queer crowd is really, really bad at sex and hate their partners.
Homosexuals are here not as a test of their virtue but rather as a test of yours on how well you treat your fellow man.
to ensure no more ignorant uneducated people like you EVER come into existance - again.
and guess what - it's working.
ha, what a sad life u must have if u think THATS the purpose of a relationship lol
YOU are so IGNORANT!
go back into the pickle bottle you pickled-brain @sswipe!
So what? Get over it
love and the need to share
i disagree, some people should not reproduce! lol! regardless
Boy, I bet your wife just LOVES you. LOL
i bet youre gay and in disguiseeye makeup pictures
Heterosexual relationships are only good for keeping populations from dying out, and so homosexual relationships defeat the entire purpose of relationships altogether.What is the point of homosexual relationships?
There are so many answers before me, I'm sure that I wouldn't be able to add any new perspective to this...
...so I'll just say this. HAVE A WONDERFUL DAY! =PWhat is the point of homosexual relationships?
The first statement is where you are completely incorrect.
Relationships are not about reproduction. Many heterosexuals get married, and don't have children. The point of a relationship is loving someone for who they are. And infact, you should want the population of the world to die out. Why, because there are a limited amount of jobs, and forigners are going to be taking our jobs because the boss will have them work for less pay. Also, because with more people, more funding is needed. So that includes more taxes.
You are an ignorant homophobic bastard.
The point of them is to be happy with the person you love. Human society has turned from needing reproduction to needing a stable family, and if you can find happiness in being in a relationship with the same gender and maintain a good relationship as anyone else would, then you can't change, it's how you were born! Wouldn't that also mean that condoms and birth control were useless, and that children should be having sex underage to make children earlier? That seems sick to me, well, the second one, atleast. Besides, homosexuals CAN adopt and raise children. Sure, it doesn't bring someone new into the world, but it gives someone a home, isn't that all that matters? (completely pro-gay marriage)
The world is already overpopulated, so i don't think EVERY person in the world needs to have a child. And the whole point to relationships is not reproduction. If that's the case, why don't straight people just live in testing facilities and be breeders, and the rest of us will be living our lives. The point is, not everyone is parent material. Have you seen some of the airheads in relationships? Do you really think they should have kids? A guy who is a jock and wears hollister, and a dumb blonde who is a cheerleader and probably is a closet drinker. Oh yeah, their children would be wonderful. What about two druggies that are in a relationship? Should they have kids? You need to think about what your saying here. And what if man and woman could not make a kid? Would ALL sexual relationships be shunned at that point?
Wow, I bet you get lots of ladies into bed with that line. ';Hey baby, the whole point of a relationship is to reproduce. So come on up to my room and we'll get straight to the point.';
No, the point of a man ejaculating inside a woman is to reproduce. The point of a relationship is love, support, and affection, all of which humans need to properly survive. And you can get it from a man, OR a woman.
If everyone thought that way, our world would be even more overpopulated than it is already.
More famine, war, and pollution.
THE HUMAN POPULATION IS NOT DYING OUT.
What about sterile heterosexual couples? They can't reproduce, I'm sure you've heard that a thousand times, but do they not have the right to pair up?
the point of a homosexual relationship is this
THEY WANNA FREAKIN BE TOGETHER!! GEEZ!!!
duh! there dnt have to be a point to be with someone. If there is someone that likes you and you like them back and they wanna be with you and you wanna be with them.... what is there to do?????
BE WITH THEM
uhhh there is no point to a relationship....
the point of sex is to reproduce....
but since there is much entertainment in sex it can also be used as a general activity.
Since some people are attracted to the same sex it wouldn't make sense to say that the only point sex is to reproduce....besides...i believe condoms and birth control kill your logic.
your question is like asking ';what is the point of love?';
There are plenty of way to reproduce in the world now days, so you point is invalid. Its about who you are attracted to and who you love? Not about let me just go have kids to increase the world's population.
Just because we are gay doesn't mean that we don't want someone to spend the rest of our lives with. Relationships are more about having a companion and not so much as for reproduction. If that were true, why are half the pregnancies caused by one night stands?
I would say the point if looked at from a biological point of view is to stop the population from spiralling out of control.
However the real point which applies to all relationships, is one of love. Just love...
because everyone wants to have love in their life.. what the point of having heterosexual relations if you don't plan on having children, if the wife got her ovaries taken out or if the man got a lil snip snip and cant produce sperm anymore...
That is a complete load of rubbish. If all relationships are to you is a means to reproduce I feel very sorry for you. Haven't you ever heard of love, warmth, compassion etc? You must be a very sad person.
It's just who you go well with who you're attracted to and then you end up in a relationship with them. It isn't what you think over. It just is how you feel best comfortable in.
So...if the only point to relationships is reproduction, then infertile people should be single, and old couples should divorce.
Got it. I'll send out the memo immediately.
What is the point of you asking the question for a second time and just receiving the same answer over and over again?
If the whole point to relationships is reproduction, I really feel sorry for anyone who dates you.
It's nothing to do with a ';point';. It's whomever you are sexually attracted to. Not about gender, but about love.
The only reason straight couples have sex is to make babies?? Not because it feels so good or just because they love each other?? Who knew??
It's questions like this that make me wonder if the anti-queer crowd is really, really bad at sex and hate their partners.
Homosexuals are here not as a test of their virtue but rather as a test of yours on how well you treat your fellow man.
to ensure no more ignorant uneducated people like you EVER come into existance - again.
and guess what - it's working.
ha, what a sad life u must have if u think THATS the purpose of a relationship lol
YOU are so IGNORANT!
go back into the pickle bottle you pickled-brain @sswipe!
So what? Get over it
love and the need to share
i disagree, some people should not reproduce! lol! regardless
Boy, I bet your wife just LOVES you. LOL
i bet youre gay and in disguise
How might living in foster homes positively impact a childs ability to build relationships with others?
How might living in foster homes positively impact a childs ability to build relationships with others?How might living in foster homes positively impact a childs ability to build relationships with others?
To trust nobody and be self-sufficientHow might living in foster homes positively impact a childs ability to build relationships with others?
Knowing that really no one wants them. Not having permanancy in their lives. Knowing that they can only depend on themselves. Knowing at a real early age, that adults can be idiots. Having adults lie to them all the time. Being labled at a young age as being defective. Moving around so much they are unable to have meaningful relationships. Having no one in your corner rooting for you. Not understanding the concept of unconditional live. Equating parental love with abuse. Oh yeah, all kids should be foster kids. Oh lets not forget, being booted out of a home when you are 18, with a couple hundred dollars and being told ';your on your own'; Ueah I get all warm and fuzzy inside think about that one.
They will learn to become more independent, but they will also learn to become more outgoing and be better at making new friends. (in some cases, anyway)
To trust nobody and be self-sufficientHow might living in foster homes positively impact a childs ability to build relationships with others?
Knowing that really no one wants them. Not having permanancy in their lives. Knowing that they can only depend on themselves. Knowing at a real early age, that adults can be idiots. Having adults lie to them all the time. Being labled at a young age as being defective. Moving around so much they are unable to have meaningful relationships. Having no one in your corner rooting for you. Not understanding the concept of unconditional live. Equating parental love with abuse. Oh yeah, all kids should be foster kids. Oh lets not forget, being booted out of a home when you are 18, with a couple hundred dollars and being told ';your on your own'; Ueah I get all warm and fuzzy inside think about that one.
They will learn to become more independent, but they will also learn to become more outgoing and be better at making new friends. (in some cases, anyway)
What are some other symbiotic relationships besides mutualism, commensalism, and parasitism?
Please verify your answer with several links.What are some other symbiotic relationships besides mutualism, commensalism, and parasitism?
There's ectosymbiosis, in which one organism lives on the surface (inner or outer) of another organism. Usually it's classified either as mutualistic or commensualistic. (1) (2)
Also there's endosymbiosis, in which one organism lives internally in another. (3) This could be the reason why some organisms evolved. (Lynn Margulis (4))
Also, there is the example of malaria (parasite) which forced the development of the sickle cell gene. As I'm sure you know, the population that was heterozygous for the gene could survive malaria, but was weakened by the single copy of the gene. (5) (6) Those with no sickle gene or who were homozygous died. I don't know if it has a different name than just parasitism.What are some other symbiotic relationships besides mutualism, commensalism, and parasitism?
I think that just about covers it. If you're a symbiont you can either help the host, harm them, or be indifferent. There isn't much else in between.
There's ectosymbiosis, in which one organism lives on the surface (inner or outer) of another organism. Usually it's classified either as mutualistic or commensualistic. (1) (2)
Also there's endosymbiosis, in which one organism lives internally in another. (3) This could be the reason why some organisms evolved. (Lynn Margulis (4))
Also, there is the example of malaria (parasite) which forced the development of the sickle cell gene. As I'm sure you know, the population that was heterozygous for the gene could survive malaria, but was weakened by the single copy of the gene. (5) (6) Those with no sickle gene or who were homozygous died. I don't know if it has a different name than just parasitism.What are some other symbiotic relationships besides mutualism, commensalism, and parasitism?
I think that just about covers it. If you're a symbiont you can either help the host, harm them, or be indifferent. There isn't much else in between.
Why is the consideration of relationships important in the study of interpersonal communication?
What is the importance of knowing the stages of relational development and deterioration to the student of interpersonal communications?
What are the advantages and disadvantages to having interpersonal relationships?
What is the advantage of considering relational violence in a study of interpersonal communicationWhy is the consideration of relationships important in the study of interpersonal communication?
This e-book is free to download and I really think you should read it. It's called 97 steps to a happy relationship. Check it out!
What are the advantages and disadvantages to having interpersonal relationships?
What is the advantage of considering relational violence in a study of interpersonal communicationWhy is the consideration of relationships important in the study of interpersonal communication?
This e-book is free to download and I really think you should read it. It's called 97 steps to a happy relationship. Check it out!
Why is the consideration of relationships important in the study of interpersonal communication?
What is the importance of knowing the stages of relational development and deterioration to the student of interpersonal communications?
What are the advantages and disadvantages to having interpersonal relationships?
What is the advantage of considering relational violence in a study of interpersonal communicationWhy is the consideration of relationships important in the study of interpersonal communication?
This e-book is free to download and I really think you should read it. It's called 97 steps to a happy relationship. Check it out!
What are the advantages and disadvantages to having interpersonal relationships?
What is the advantage of considering relational violence in a study of interpersonal communicationWhy is the consideration of relationships important in the study of interpersonal communication?
This e-book is free to download and I really think you should read it. It's called 97 steps to a happy relationship. Check it out!
Can birth order effect your relationships with people?
I've noticed that oldest child or only child people are more bossy. Then the younger tends to be more self centered and impulsive and the middle child goes with the flow.
Are these true observations and why?Can birth order effect your relationships with people?
Birth order influences personality, and your personality affects your relationships. There are a lot of variables to consider, however -- particularly age gaps and being raised in the same environment.
You'll find the following web sites of interest.
Are these true observations and why?Can birth order effect your relationships with people?
Birth order influences personality, and your personality affects your relationships. There are a lot of variables to consider, however -- particularly age gaps and being raised in the same environment.
You'll find the following web sites of interest.
Is it true that Swedish girls are excessively liberal in their attitudes towards relationships?
I keep hearing this from some British friends I have. Maybe some Europeans could help me out as I've never been to Sweden myself and thus all I have is hearsay. Thank you.Is it true that Swedish girls are excessively liberal in their attitudes towards relationships?
That kinda depends from person to personIs it true that Swedish girls are excessively liberal in their attitudes towards relationships?
Swedish in general, are more mature about sexuality than people in our country. Their laws reflect their open nature.
P.S. Always use protection....eye makeup pictures
That kinda depends from person to personIs it true that Swedish girls are excessively liberal in their attitudes towards relationships?
Swedish in general, are more mature about sexuality than people in our country. Their laws reflect their open nature.
P.S. Always use protection....
Who in the public eye has spoken out about immigration and/or interracial relationships?
I know of Bridget Bordot but that's about all i can think of.Who in the public eye has spoken out about immigration and/or interracial relationships?
All the pre-Mandela leaders of South Africa.
All the pre-Mandela leaders of South Africa.
What is the importance of relationships in your life?
I don't mean to get into peoples' business or offend anyone. I have to write an essay which I have to interview many people. I'd appreciate it if you would answer this question. ThanksWhat is the importance of relationships in your life?
Nobody Lives Alone and Exist Alone in the world,even in heavens,God is not alone,he has angels and messengers he has of course relationship with them. Imagine living Alone in a Solitary world.
As the popular saying says ';nobody is an island';...Relationships are needed for us to exist as part of being created being.To show who we are.Is not it,in order for us to know who we are We Need a Mirror?
Relationship are Mirrors to ourselves to get to know who we are.What is the importance of relationships in your life?
my reality XP! haha haha haha unique and amazing stories.
no money to survive but die die die must help the good for nothing Singapore Government Doggies to survive and her useless people in the country.
be a government informer of your partner even u know no money to survive and full of shlt DEBTS! hahaa haha
e.g. HDB resales 30 years leasehold are one of them from my ideas not doggies. if their ideas, why so LATE? haha hahaha hahaa
What kind of relationships? Lover/partner or friends? Siblings? Different types of relationships have different kinds of importance. Please clarify.
they exist to remind you once in a while that you still belong to the SAME world as theirs.
Nobody Lives Alone and Exist Alone in the world,even in heavens,God is not alone,he has angels and messengers he has of course relationship with them. Imagine living Alone in a Solitary world.
As the popular saying says ';nobody is an island';...Relationships are needed for us to exist as part of being created being.To show who we are.Is not it,in order for us to know who we are We Need a Mirror?
Relationship are Mirrors to ourselves to get to know who we are.What is the importance of relationships in your life?
my reality XP! haha haha haha unique and amazing stories.
no money to survive but die die die must help the good for nothing Singapore Government Doggies to survive and her useless people in the country.
be a government informer of your partner even u know no money to survive and full of shlt DEBTS! hahaa haha
e.g. HDB resales 30 years leasehold are one of them from my ideas not doggies. if their ideas, why so LATE? haha hahaha hahaa
What kind of relationships? Lover/partner or friends? Siblings? Different types of relationships have different kinds of importance. Please clarify.
they exist to remind you once in a while that you still belong to the SAME world as theirs.
Is it true that great relationships are often built on great friendships?
Many people say that a lot of great relationships are often built on great friendships. Would you agree with this assessment? If so, why? If not, why not?
All advice and opinion are welcome. Thank you so much in advance.Is it true that great relationships are often built on great friendships?
Yes that statement is true to a point.
I feel you cant get sucked into a good friendship before a relationship though. At the beginning there has to be that friendship that builds, whereas a great friendship that blossoms into a relationship can just put a lot of pressure on both parties.
For example.. when first dating a girl, i make it a point for her not to divulge her entire life to me, i dont want to become someone she can vent too, but as things start to build, that understanding there can defenitley start to be more opening up on both parties.Is it true that great relationships are often built on great friendships?
Some may say that a great relationship is built on great friendship, while others disagree, because in reality it rarely happens and you don't quite see it. My opinion is just that I think it's best that all relationships tend to work out, because of such great friendship with that someone. Then other times I think the relationship will fall apart due to not wanting to lose a good friendship, so i'm in the no-win situation, just in the middle of both.
I can't say for sure from personal experience and am definitely hoping it is true (see my question: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AnZ3xvMA3Hlp.q8Ti06jyyjsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20090830130706AAjAWDC ) However, judging from my closest friends, including the one I've fallen for, it has been true. There will always be cases for scenarios each way (Built off great friendship and built from scratch) but its all about the people and whether they could fall for a close friend
all i can say is not in high school, high school gfs are abt showing how bad *** YOU are, not about relationships
All advice and opinion are welcome. Thank you so much in advance.Is it true that great relationships are often built on great friendships?
Yes that statement is true to a point.
I feel you cant get sucked into a good friendship before a relationship though. At the beginning there has to be that friendship that builds, whereas a great friendship that blossoms into a relationship can just put a lot of pressure on both parties.
For example.. when first dating a girl, i make it a point for her not to divulge her entire life to me, i dont want to become someone she can vent too, but as things start to build, that understanding there can defenitley start to be more opening up on both parties.Is it true that great relationships are often built on great friendships?
Some may say that a great relationship is built on great friendship, while others disagree, because in reality it rarely happens and you don't quite see it. My opinion is just that I think it's best that all relationships tend to work out, because of such great friendship with that someone. Then other times I think the relationship will fall apart due to not wanting to lose a good friendship, so i'm in the no-win situation, just in the middle of both.
I can't say for sure from personal experience and am definitely hoping it is true (see my question: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AnZ3xvMA3Hlp.q8Ti06jyyjsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20090830130706AAjAWDC ) However, judging from my closest friends, including the one I've fallen for, it has been true. There will always be cases for scenarios each way (Built off great friendship and built from scratch) but its all about the people and whether they could fall for a close friend
all i can say is not in high school, high school gfs are abt showing how bad *** YOU are, not about relationships
How often does a romantic relationships between friends work out?
That is a REALLY difficult question, and there really is no way to determine the actual number of relationships that work out. I, however, was best friends with a guy for 2 years, he was great and listened about all my boyfriends etc. etc. We started dating and have been together for over 2 years with no plans on breaking up. It can be a very good thing, but it only works for certain types of friends... if you give me specifics i might be able to give you a better opinion.How often does a romantic relationships between friends work out?
well it really does matter how old you are and how serious the relationship will get. I am about to marry my best friend so I am a pretty big supporter. BUT I know not all people work out, some people are just mean't to be friends. I knew right away i was going to be with him for the rest of my life.
The second I realized I had feelings for him I knew he was it.
The older you are the more mature you are about the relationship, the less you take it for granted.
How often does a romantic relationships between friends work out?
hmm.... im going thur this right now. it can and does happen. just be careful! make sure of these things before you do anything: 1- make sure the person likes you the same way 2-make sure they dnt like your best frined or anyone else for that matter, because if they end up going out, u will most likley be the one they coe to for relationship advice. been there, done that.... long story short: not fun! and lastly make sure that you have a really close frinedshhip with this person. if you have knon eachother for at least a couple months to a year, it can toally work. but only a few weeks, it's possible. again, be cautious, because if you dnt flirt even a litle, they might fall for someone else because thye dnt know how you feel. again, been there done that. well, good luck! and remeber, there's always hope. it can and will work if you fight for what you know can complete you. best of luck! -- Mer Mer
My ex ex and me were best friends before we went out. And my current girlfriend and me were best friends before we went out. It is good. I just think relationships depend on much OTHER things for them to 'work out.'
its working wonderfully for me, and its long distance. were both 16, and were going on 5 months :) it works if youre determined :)
6 out of ten
50% of the time
aka friends with benefits.... not that long
its okay.. because you know already how he is like
id prolly rate it about 3 out of 10
well it really does matter how old you are and how serious the relationship will get. I am about to marry my best friend so I am a pretty big supporter. BUT I know not all people work out, some people are just mean't to be friends. I knew right away i was going to be with him for the rest of my life.
The second I realized I had feelings for him I knew he was it.
The older you are the more mature you are about the relationship, the less you take it for granted.
How often does a romantic relationships between friends work out?
hmm.... im going thur this right now. it can and does happen. just be careful! make sure of these things before you do anything: 1- make sure the person likes you the same way 2-make sure they dnt like your best frined or anyone else for that matter, because if they end up going out, u will most likley be the one they coe to for relationship advice. been there, done that.... long story short: not fun! and lastly make sure that you have a really close frinedshhip with this person. if you have knon eachother for at least a couple months to a year, it can toally work. but only a few weeks, it's possible. again, be cautious, because if you dnt flirt even a litle, they might fall for someone else because thye dnt know how you feel. again, been there done that. well, good luck! and remeber, there's always hope. it can and will work if you fight for what you know can complete you. best of luck! -- Mer Mer
My ex ex and me were best friends before we went out. And my current girlfriend and me were best friends before we went out. It is good. I just think relationships depend on much OTHER things for them to 'work out.'
its working wonderfully for me, and its long distance. were both 16, and were going on 5 months :) it works if youre determined :)
6 out of ten
50% of the time
aka friends with benefits.... not that long
its okay.. because you know already how he is like
id prolly rate it about 3 out of 10
Why is it okay for straight people to be grossed out by gay relationships, but not the opposite situation?
I hear tons of straight people saying that they are ';grossed out'; by gay relationships and the idea of two men/two women kissing, and it's considered generally acceptable. But when a gay person says they are grossed out by the idea of a man kissing a woman, they are labelled as an intolerant heterophobe.
Have you experienced this?Why is it okay for straight people to be grossed out by gay relationships, but not the opposite situation?
Nope, but I'm in favor of everybody kissing everybody elseWhy is it okay for straight people to be grossed out by gay relationships, but not the opposite situation?
it's a double standard like Why? (Cry Havoc)[Play Havoc] said.
i think it's also because some people aren't used to seeing it..heterosexual relationships have been around longer and i think they've advanced to the point where people are used to seeing it. now they think nothing of seeing a few heterosexual sex scenes (or implied sex scenes) in a movie.
i'm not sure where i'm going with that point, and i could be wrong, but i'm not sure.
yes, i've experienced it, some guys called me and a past girlfriend dykes for hugging after school once.
but i've also experienced the vice-versa version (if that's what you'd call it): as in, i had a friend attack me and call me ashamed of my sexuality and (previous) relationship for not wanting to kiss my girlfriend in public.
even if i were straight, i wouldn't participate in PDA. i don't feel comfortable with it at all.
i'm not sure how to end this..so..yeah.
I don't have a problem with people who are homosexual unless they are (1) Trying to come on to me or (2) Trying to come on to my family.
I am grossed out by gay relationships, but I won't make it an issue because people are free to do what they want and think what they want.
Therefore, the same should apply to any group, including gay people. If they are grossed out by straight relationships, let them be as it is their opinion.
I have an issue when someone of either orientation starts labeling others ';homophobe'; or ';hesterphobe'; because that is forcing an opinion. That is wrong.
I have been called a homophobe because I do not agree with homosexuality, and it irritated me because I do not force my own opinion like that.
I don't like either.
People should be able to date whoever they want to date, without condemnation from from their surroundings.
..Of course, I think it is very understandable if a straight person says *they* would be grossed out by doing stuff with a person of the same gender. Same goes for gay people being grossed out about doing stuff with a person of the opposite gender. That is all okay!
..But there is a huge difference between saying: ';*I* would never want to do that';, and ';Ugggggh, YOU people are all disgusting for doing it!!!';. ..If you see what I'm getting at.
If you don't want anal sex, that is fine, you don't have to participate in it. But at the same time, you should not condemn other people for doing it if THEY want to!
Whose rules are you playing by here, T.S. Badass?
It's OK for anybody to be ';grossed out'; by anything they want, but other people have no obligation to respect their prejudices.
I've heard people say they were grossed out by eating yougurt, seeing fat people, riding a bus, and all kinds of other things that don't bother most of us, but that doesn't mean anybody else needs to agree with them or feel bad about whatever is bothering them.
If you're grossed out at the idea that I kiss women (or men), you're within your rights, but that isn't going to make me stop doing it.
It's ok for LGBT people to say they are grossed out by straight relationships, but because we're LGBT, our opinion isn't as scarring. They often look down on us, so they don't take it to heart. It only hurts to hear something like that when it's from somewhere you care about, or rather, someone whose opinion you care about.
Most people have even str8 ppl by their str8 friends, some people are prudes, some don't give two hoots who your kissing, but we really need to break down the ';Us'; versus ';Them'; thinking.
Everyone has a purpose and it is not making more babies for our overpopulated planet.. %26lt;- if people can agree on that then its a start.
Very good point. Very, very good point :-) Thank you for raising this. I've noticed that too.
It's like they immediately think we should think like them come hell or high water. It's okay for them to be all eeewwww yuk to us but have this need for us to be all hunky dory with them.
These people minds you can't change, though.
I don't understand straight people. I just can't see myself ever being with the opposite sex. I just can't fathom that being attractive or feeling good.
Uh, Kinda?
Double standards are double standards, We have them everywhere, Now just to get rid of them.
I KNOW HOW YA FEEL SISTA!
peace :P
But seriously, that's so messed up, calling our love gross and theirs is just fine to be shoved into our faces.
yes... i tell my mother that all the time,,, eewww!
yea.eye makeup pictures
Have you experienced this?Why is it okay for straight people to be grossed out by gay relationships, but not the opposite situation?
Nope, but I'm in favor of everybody kissing everybody elseWhy is it okay for straight people to be grossed out by gay relationships, but not the opposite situation?
it's a double standard like Why? (Cry Havoc)[Play Havoc] said.
i think it's also because some people aren't used to seeing it..heterosexual relationships have been around longer and i think they've advanced to the point where people are used to seeing it. now they think nothing of seeing a few heterosexual sex scenes (or implied sex scenes) in a movie.
i'm not sure where i'm going with that point, and i could be wrong, but i'm not sure.
yes, i've experienced it, some guys called me and a past girlfriend dykes for hugging after school once.
but i've also experienced the vice-versa version (if that's what you'd call it): as in, i had a friend attack me and call me ashamed of my sexuality and (previous) relationship for not wanting to kiss my girlfriend in public.
even if i were straight, i wouldn't participate in PDA. i don't feel comfortable with it at all.
i'm not sure how to end this..so..yeah.
I don't have a problem with people who are homosexual unless they are (1) Trying to come on to me or (2) Trying to come on to my family.
I am grossed out by gay relationships, but I won't make it an issue because people are free to do what they want and think what they want.
Therefore, the same should apply to any group, including gay people. If they are grossed out by straight relationships, let them be as it is their opinion.
I have an issue when someone of either orientation starts labeling others ';homophobe'; or ';hesterphobe'; because that is forcing an opinion. That is wrong.
I have been called a homophobe because I do not agree with homosexuality, and it irritated me because I do not force my own opinion like that.
I don't like either.
People should be able to date whoever they want to date, without condemnation from from their surroundings.
..Of course, I think it is very understandable if a straight person says *they* would be grossed out by doing stuff with a person of the same gender. Same goes for gay people being grossed out about doing stuff with a person of the opposite gender. That is all okay!
..But there is a huge difference between saying: ';*I* would never want to do that';, and ';Ugggggh, YOU people are all disgusting for doing it!!!';. ..If you see what I'm getting at.
If you don't want anal sex, that is fine, you don't have to participate in it. But at the same time, you should not condemn other people for doing it if THEY want to!
Whose rules are you playing by here, T.S. Badass?
It's OK for anybody to be ';grossed out'; by anything they want, but other people have no obligation to respect their prejudices.
I've heard people say they were grossed out by eating yougurt, seeing fat people, riding a bus, and all kinds of other things that don't bother most of us, but that doesn't mean anybody else needs to agree with them or feel bad about whatever is bothering them.
If you're grossed out at the idea that I kiss women (or men), you're within your rights, but that isn't going to make me stop doing it.
It's ok for LGBT people to say they are grossed out by straight relationships, but because we're LGBT, our opinion isn't as scarring. They often look down on us, so they don't take it to heart. It only hurts to hear something like that when it's from somewhere you care about, or rather, someone whose opinion you care about.
Most people have even str8 ppl by their str8 friends, some people are prudes, some don't give two hoots who your kissing, but we really need to break down the ';Us'; versus ';Them'; thinking.
Everyone has a purpose and it is not making more babies for our overpopulated planet.. %26lt;- if people can agree on that then its a start.
Very good point. Very, very good point :-) Thank you for raising this. I've noticed that too.
It's like they immediately think we should think like them come hell or high water. It's okay for them to be all eeewwww yuk to us but have this need for us to be all hunky dory with them.
These people minds you can't change, though.
I don't understand straight people. I just can't see myself ever being with the opposite sex. I just can't fathom that being attractive or feeling good.
Uh, Kinda?
Double standards are double standards, We have them everywhere, Now just to get rid of them.
I KNOW HOW YA FEEL SISTA!
peace :P
But seriously, that's so messed up, calling our love gross and theirs is just fine to be shoved into our faces.
yes... i tell my mother that all the time,,, eewww!
yea.
How family relationships affect one's approach to other relationships?
That's the topic that I have to do my research on. I can also choose a similar topic - ';How family relationships affect one's sense of self';. So basically, I'd like to learn about the psychology of relationships between parents and their children and between siblings.
At any rate, can you guys suggest any reading material like website, magazine, journal, or book that I can use to conduct my research? I would greatly appreciate it.How family relationships affect one's approach to other relationships?
Any of:
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At any rate, can you guys suggest any reading material like website, magazine, journal, or book that I can use to conduct my research? I would greatly appreciate it.How family relationships affect one's approach to other relationships?
Any of:
http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?i鈥?/a>
Why are girls in abusive relationships afraid to leave their boyfriends?
I'm writing a story about a girl who is with an abusive boyfriend, but I can't think of too many reasons why girl would be afraid to leave a guy with such bad behavior. What are some real reasons girls don't leave right away? And what are some signs of a potentially or abusive boyfriend? Thanks guys, I really appreciate the help.Why are girls in abusive relationships afraid to leave their boyfriends?
I was in a really bad relationship before.. Abusive mentally and semi physically.. and there are a few reasons why I stayed as long as I did.
One being the fact that we have a child together. I wanted to work things out for our son's sake.
Second being that he was abusive to the point where I did not have a job, he would not allow me to work, and I did not have the finances to just walk out.
Third being that I honestly loved him and believed him when he said he would change,
and the Fourth and final reason why I stayed was I did not want to be alone. It took finding another man to finally push me to take that step out of the relationship.Why are girls in abusive relationships afraid to leave their boyfriends?
and some believe that when they hit them the first time and they get over it and say sorry, they believe that they wont do it again.. the boyfriend makes them feel guilty and like its there fault so they dont feel as if they need to leave.
They believe no one else would want them.
They love them.....and therefore forgive them.
The guy has tore down her self esteem so only they give them what they need.
She is dependant on him for drugs, etc.
She believes he'll get better.
She keeps hoping he'll change and doesn't want to left him before it happens. She also gets used to it, it's a part of her reality and she feel like she needs him.
Because girls are afraid their boyfriends will find them and do somethin real bad to them.
people who are very demanding or overprotective can be potentially abusive.
They don't believe they'll be able to get a real boyfriend so they feel stuck. And they just plain outright are scared of their boyfriend.
insecurities, low self esteem issues, fear, self loathing..
cuz dey feel dey r nt gud enuf for a better boyfren ,or for sum reason dey r still madly in love wif dem
look up stockhome syndrome...
1. Does your partner tease you in a hurtful way in private or in public?
2. Does your partner call you names such as ';stupid'; or ';*****';?
3. Does your partner act jealous of your friends, family, or co-workers?
4. Does your partner get angry about clothes you wear or how you style your hair?
5. Does your partner check-up on you by calling, driving by, or getting someone else to?
6. Has your partner gone places with you or sent someone just to ';keep an eye on you';?
7. Does your partner insist on knowing who you talk with on the phone?
8. Does your partner blame you for his problems or his bad mood?
9. Does your partner get angry so easily that you feel like you're ';walking on eggshells';?
10. Does your partner hit walls, drive dangerously, or do other things to scare you?
11. Does your partner often drink or use drugs?
12. Does your partner insist that you drink or use drugs with him?
13. Have you lost friends or no longer see some of your family because of your partner?
14. Does your partner accuse you of being interested in someone else?
15. Does your partner read your mail, go through your purse, or other personal papers?
16. Does your partner keep money from you, keep you in debt, or have ';money secrets?';
17. Has your partner kept you from getting a job, or caused you to lose a job?
18. Has your partner sold your car, made you give up your license, or not repaired your car?
19. Does your partner threaten to hurt you, your children, family, friends, or pets?
20. Does your partner force you to have sex when you do not want to?
21. Does your partner force you to have sex in ways that you do not want to?
22. Does your partner threaten to kill you or himself if you leave?
23. Is your partner like ';Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde,'; acting one way in front of other people and another way when you are alone?
For more information, see www.health-first.org
If you answered yes to one or more of these questions, then you may be at risk for domestic violence. Seek assistance from National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 (www.ndvh.org)
I was in a really bad relationship before.. Abusive mentally and semi physically.. and there are a few reasons why I stayed as long as I did.
One being the fact that we have a child together. I wanted to work things out for our son's sake.
Second being that he was abusive to the point where I did not have a job, he would not allow me to work, and I did not have the finances to just walk out.
Third being that I honestly loved him and believed him when he said he would change,
and the Fourth and final reason why I stayed was I did not want to be alone. It took finding another man to finally push me to take that step out of the relationship.Why are girls in abusive relationships afraid to leave their boyfriends?
and some believe that when they hit them the first time and they get over it and say sorry, they believe that they wont do it again.. the boyfriend makes them feel guilty and like its there fault so they dont feel as if they need to leave.
They believe no one else would want them.
They love them.....and therefore forgive them.
The guy has tore down her self esteem so only they give them what they need.
She is dependant on him for drugs, etc.
She believes he'll get better.
She keeps hoping he'll change and doesn't want to left him before it happens. She also gets used to it, it's a part of her reality and she feel like she needs him.
Because girls are afraid their boyfriends will find them and do somethin real bad to them.
people who are very demanding or overprotective can be potentially abusive.
They don't believe they'll be able to get a real boyfriend so they feel stuck. And they just plain outright are scared of their boyfriend.
insecurities, low self esteem issues, fear, self loathing..
cuz dey feel dey r nt gud enuf for a better boyfren ,or for sum reason dey r still madly in love wif dem
look up stockhome syndrome...
1. Does your partner tease you in a hurtful way in private or in public?
2. Does your partner call you names such as ';stupid'; or ';*****';?
3. Does your partner act jealous of your friends, family, or co-workers?
4. Does your partner get angry about clothes you wear or how you style your hair?
5. Does your partner check-up on you by calling, driving by, or getting someone else to?
6. Has your partner gone places with you or sent someone just to ';keep an eye on you';?
7. Does your partner insist on knowing who you talk with on the phone?
8. Does your partner blame you for his problems or his bad mood?
9. Does your partner get angry so easily that you feel like you're ';walking on eggshells';?
10. Does your partner hit walls, drive dangerously, or do other things to scare you?
11. Does your partner often drink or use drugs?
12. Does your partner insist that you drink or use drugs with him?
13. Have you lost friends or no longer see some of your family because of your partner?
14. Does your partner accuse you of being interested in someone else?
15. Does your partner read your mail, go through your purse, or other personal papers?
16. Does your partner keep money from you, keep you in debt, or have ';money secrets?';
17. Has your partner kept you from getting a job, or caused you to lose a job?
18. Has your partner sold your car, made you give up your license, or not repaired your car?
19. Does your partner threaten to hurt you, your children, family, friends, or pets?
20. Does your partner force you to have sex when you do not want to?
21. Does your partner force you to have sex in ways that you do not want to?
22. Does your partner threaten to kill you or himself if you leave?
23. Is your partner like ';Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde,'; acting one way in front of other people and another way when you are alone?
For more information, see www.health-first.org
If you answered yes to one or more of these questions, then you may be at risk for domestic violence. Seek assistance from National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 (www.ndvh.org)
How to make long distance relationships easier?
How can i make my long distance relationship easier? It's so hard and so painful at times. Especially when it seems like the other person is having an easier time.How to make long distance relationships easier?
They are tough, and unfortunately, more times than not, they fail. Since your still committed to trying, you can try ';care packages';. Just basically mail a shoebox full of stuff that she really digs. You can send an old school letter, as opposed to email. Just mix it up as best you can. Good luck.How to make long distance relationships easier?
it's the worst possible type of relationship. i had 1 year of LTR and then one day he tells me that he doesn't love me anymore. that waiting does not seem like a reasonable thing to do
but i think about him every damned day... and i have no idea when i can move on (or when i will want to move on)
because i still haven't located the OFF button for my love for him :/
but to really make it easier - get busy. start working, go to courses (not boring ones though), eliminate free time. don't hang around doing nothing, kick happy couples in the stomach for being vulgar and cuddling while you're around and other things like that. but most of all the time planning - if you have stressful job, it will lead to not thinking about your significant other like a psychomaniac
I know how you feel, it does get hard and heartbreaking at times. You have to really look into it. Ask yourself, is this person really worth the pain? If so, then talk to them about this, communicate more, perhaps move closer if that is possible. If not, then maybe you should just let them go, and move on.
Good luck!
I think you should tell him him/her to vist you or you could either go visit or move with him/her.
be loyal, loving and caring. nothingelse u have to do to make yr relationship lasts forever, but u have to get ready/prepare for it honestly first. as the other one is far away, keep in contact. talk through phone, messenger, pc-pc and keep send sms to let the person know how much u love and care.
use these urls to keep the relationship alive:
http://www.oovoo.com
http://www.justvoip.com
http://www.paltalk.com
lots of free sms service available now, just search in google.
all the best!
Long distance relationships can work, but they're a lot more work than you may realize. It will never be easy. If you want closeness, you obviously can't get it from someone who lives far away. If you really love this person, you should move closer to. Otherwise, you'll be more lonely than you can ever imagine.
my sister was in a long dstance relationship when she met her bf she got through it and they now live together
If you havent been together long, I wouldnt even try.
If they sound like there having a good time. They probably are.... :/
If its a longer realtionship and you really have feelings for eachother.
Just talk to them everyday!
Maybe send them some pictures or cute short notes sometimes.
Still think of the little things.
Maybe they will to.
Maybe they have a webcam that would be nice.
move to where he/she is
I have spent 3 years in a long distance relationship. Now we have lived together for 2. You just need to find alot that you guys can talk about. We would talk on the computer alot and the phone. Just make sure that you guys have an understanding that some times the other one wants to do stuff and that they aren't trying to be mean. Just some times it is nice to get out of the house. Save money for plane tickets. Just be thoughtful of one another also.
dont have one!!!! duh
I understand what you're going through. My boyfriend and I have been going to different schools and I've always felt that he was taking the distance a lot easier than I was. We have made a few adjustments and are about to celebrate 4 years together! Have daily conversations. Communication is essential in any kind of relationship, especially long distance ones. Try and have a good conversation each day, whether it be 15 minutes long or 3 hours long. Invest in a web cam if you don't have one and have some of your conversation via video chat. I use skype...just seeing the person helps a lot. Try extra hard not to get into fights, its makes things so much worse. Be positive. If you feel like you two can do this, then there is nothing stopping you. Good luck and I really hope this helps.
I love a girl but she lives in New Mexico and I live in California. She says she loves me to, but i really wish i could see her. I guess talking on the phone helps, cause you get to talk to her everyday. but yeah, i dont know how to make it easier. hope it goes well between you two.
yeah, I've been in a similar situation for a while now - we were together for 2 years and now a year and a half hundreds of miles apart. Skype is a lifesaver - great to chat face-to-face every now and then.
Ultimately, things will settle only as you learn to trust each other more. It hurt me intensely the first time she had to go. Even when you're willing to say you trust somebody completely, it's only time together and time apart that will really help you to understand how you feel. She's just on the bus home right now, which isn't easy for me - but it's something I'm also strangely comfortable with, simply because we know each other better than anybody. I'm not worried about her, and she's not worried about me. It's just time to tick away, and it goes faster than you'd ever be willing to believe.
just have you meet this person once and a while.
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Every night phone calls help. Also, email each other daily about your day. It worked for me. Long distant for 6 months, then married her.
They are too painful for my heart. Too unhealthy.
I know exactly what you mean. Every time I talk to him I can tell that he is having an easier time.
It does hurt a lot but I can't give up
never give up on eachother ! Talk constantly and always know they love you
i dont think there is a way to make it easier. sorry to say this but i dont think it would work. what can you do in long distance relationships? talk on the phone, myspace. allll boring. but thats just my opinion.
always know that you will be together sometime and tell her that
LOTS OF COMMUNICATION
availability
if u can call him/her anytime and talk for longer then 10-15 min then its all good
visit often
talk to eachother as much as possible and try to make an arrangement for when you two can meet up and be together. It gives you guys something to look forward to.
maybe get webcams?
regular visits.
regular phone convos.
basically they suck..
Love each other unconditionally is the best advice
Move closer.
Trust each other, and think whether you really need it! I DO believe that this kind of relationship can work out, but one has to try hard! Talk to each other, chat, send NORMAL letters not e-mails. It'll make it easier!
short distance
They are tough, and unfortunately, more times than not, they fail. Since your still committed to trying, you can try ';care packages';. Just basically mail a shoebox full of stuff that she really digs. You can send an old school letter, as opposed to email. Just mix it up as best you can. Good luck.How to make long distance relationships easier?
it's the worst possible type of relationship. i had 1 year of LTR and then one day he tells me that he doesn't love me anymore. that waiting does not seem like a reasonable thing to do
but i think about him every damned day... and i have no idea when i can move on (or when i will want to move on)
because i still haven't located the OFF button for my love for him :/
but to really make it easier - get busy. start working, go to courses (not boring ones though), eliminate free time. don't hang around doing nothing, kick happy couples in the stomach for being vulgar and cuddling while you're around and other things like that. but most of all the time planning - if you have stressful job, it will lead to not thinking about your significant other like a psychomaniac
I know how you feel, it does get hard and heartbreaking at times. You have to really look into it. Ask yourself, is this person really worth the pain? If so, then talk to them about this, communicate more, perhaps move closer if that is possible. If not, then maybe you should just let them go, and move on.
Good luck!
I think you should tell him him/her to vist you or you could either go visit or move with him/her.
be loyal, loving and caring. nothingelse u have to do to make yr relationship lasts forever, but u have to get ready/prepare for it honestly first. as the other one is far away, keep in contact. talk through phone, messenger, pc-pc and keep send sms to let the person know how much u love and care.
use these urls to keep the relationship alive:
http://www.oovoo.com
http://www.justvoip.com
http://www.paltalk.com
lots of free sms service available now, just search in google.
all the best!
Long distance relationships can work, but they're a lot more work than you may realize. It will never be easy. If you want closeness, you obviously can't get it from someone who lives far away. If you really love this person, you should move closer to. Otherwise, you'll be more lonely than you can ever imagine.
my sister was in a long dstance relationship when she met her bf she got through it and they now live together
If you havent been together long, I wouldnt even try.
If they sound like there having a good time. They probably are.... :/
If its a longer realtionship and you really have feelings for eachother.
Just talk to them everyday!
Maybe send them some pictures or cute short notes sometimes.
Still think of the little things.
Maybe they will to.
Maybe they have a webcam that would be nice.
move to where he/she is
I have spent 3 years in a long distance relationship. Now we have lived together for 2. You just need to find alot that you guys can talk about. We would talk on the computer alot and the phone. Just make sure that you guys have an understanding that some times the other one wants to do stuff and that they aren't trying to be mean. Just some times it is nice to get out of the house. Save money for plane tickets. Just be thoughtful of one another also.
dont have one!!!! duh
I understand what you're going through. My boyfriend and I have been going to different schools and I've always felt that he was taking the distance a lot easier than I was. We have made a few adjustments and are about to celebrate 4 years together! Have daily conversations. Communication is essential in any kind of relationship, especially long distance ones. Try and have a good conversation each day, whether it be 15 minutes long or 3 hours long. Invest in a web cam if you don't have one and have some of your conversation via video chat. I use skype...just seeing the person helps a lot. Try extra hard not to get into fights, its makes things so much worse. Be positive. If you feel like you two can do this, then there is nothing stopping you. Good luck and I really hope this helps.
I love a girl but she lives in New Mexico and I live in California. She says she loves me to, but i really wish i could see her. I guess talking on the phone helps, cause you get to talk to her everyday. but yeah, i dont know how to make it easier. hope it goes well between you two.
yeah, I've been in a similar situation for a while now - we were together for 2 years and now a year and a half hundreds of miles apart. Skype is a lifesaver - great to chat face-to-face every now and then.
Ultimately, things will settle only as you learn to trust each other more. It hurt me intensely the first time she had to go. Even when you're willing to say you trust somebody completely, it's only time together and time apart that will really help you to understand how you feel. She's just on the bus home right now, which isn't easy for me - but it's something I'm also strangely comfortable with, simply because we know each other better than anybody. I'm not worried about her, and she's not worried about me. It's just time to tick away, and it goes faster than you'd ever be willing to believe.
just have you meet this person once and a while.
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
Every night phone calls help. Also, email each other daily about your day. It worked for me. Long distant for 6 months, then married her.
They are too painful for my heart. Too unhealthy.
I know exactly what you mean. Every time I talk to him I can tell that he is having an easier time.
It does hurt a lot but I can't give up
never give up on eachother ! Talk constantly and always know they love you
i dont think there is a way to make it easier. sorry to say this but i dont think it would work. what can you do in long distance relationships? talk on the phone, myspace. allll boring. but thats just my opinion.
always know that you will be together sometime and tell her that
LOTS OF COMMUNICATION
availability
if u can call him/her anytime and talk for longer then 10-15 min then its all good
visit often
talk to eachother as much as possible and try to make an arrangement for when you two can meet up and be together. It gives you guys something to look forward to.
maybe get webcams?
regular visits.
regular phone convos.
basically they suck..
Love each other unconditionally is the best advice
Move closer.
Trust each other, and think whether you really need it! I DO believe that this kind of relationship can work out, but one has to try hard! Talk to each other, chat, send NORMAL letters not e-mails. It'll make it easier!
short distance
What is your opinion on relationships whereby the male is less than a year younger than the female?
There may be strong opinions (or not) to relationships whereby the age gap is much larger but can these be justified for significantly smaller age differences?
And opinions for larger age gaps?
With thanks in advance.What is your opinion on relationships whereby the male is less than a year younger than the female?
age doesnt matter if the couple are together because they love each other...What is your opinion on relationships whereby the male is less than a year younger than the female?
Makes not a bit of difference in my opinion. If the couple are happy and content that is the crux of the matter
Age has no relevance its the attitude of the individuals that count. Some young people are old before their time, some old people want to grow old disgracefully, good on them!!
It don't matter
No problems with less than a year age gap.
I think the only problem is when one partner is very young (or immature).
People should really butt out of other peoples relationships unless there is a risk of abuse etc.
I don't think there would be a problem with a male being a year or less younger than the female in a relationship. After that it would depend on the factors in each situation although anything can be overcome if two people are committed enough.
For example, if a man in his twenties wanted to settle down and have children, it probably wouldn't be the best choice for him to marry a woman who is at the end of her fertility life. Yes they can adopt and there is always medical intervention, but those come at a price emotionally and financially that not every one is prepared to pay.
Then there is the fact that after 10 years or so, you have both grown up in different times - you might remember the Power Rangers and she remembers the Flintstones. You might like grunge and she likes the Rolling Stones. You might have grownup with computers and she's clueless.
Again, if two people are committed to making a relationship work, it can be done against all odds, but it's just easier to love someone that has grown up around the same time period as yourself.
People are [people, reguardless of age, however.... before taking on a decision like that, you should both be consenting adults.Depending on charecteristics of the couple, things can work out reguardless of age gaps. There can be legal complications if one is under age. There are complications in any relationships, and it is more difficult if you can not relate to day to day things like music, attitudes, etc.
age doesn't matter, as long as your happy it don't matter what the gap! theres 5 years between me and my girlfriend and we couldn't be happier! as long as both people are happy thats all that counts!
iv no preferences... my boyfriend is just three months younger than me... i think the whole thing is due to the fact that it goes against evolutionary expectations of males and females as a whole (males supposed to go around speading their ';seeds'; and females are supposed to settle down as young as possible) so in that respect thats the only reason i believe that it could ever be justified as wrong
personally i dont mind...
x
My opinion is that it is a good and healthy relationship - where the male is younger.
Few years difference is not a big deal.
When you are looking at 20+ more years older then I hope for the best that it will work out.
I do see more negative outcomes than positive ones.
I don't have an opinion, in general.
My ex was 2.5 years older than me.
My present wife is 5 years older whilst
My girlfriend is 25 years 'younger' than me.
Hope this helps you?
Sash.
My husband is almost 4 months younger than me. Its just a number. If you have a large age difference then it seems to hurt the relationship only because of the differences in interests. The older person may try to be the ';boss'; or thing the other is immature. But for us, its only a few months. Not a big deal or important.
ehh, I dont think age is that big of an issue as long as the two are mature. Heck, my husband is 28, I'm 21. And we've been together 4 years.
SEEMS LIKE THEY WILL HAVE A LOT IN COMMON. MOST LIKELY ENJOY SAME SORT OF FILMS, MUSIC, ETC WILL ALWAYS BE ON THE SAME WAVELENGTH. BUT MY HUSBAND WAS 11 MONTHS YOUNGER THAN ME AND WEVE SPLIT, SO WOT DO I KNOW1
I'm 8/9 months the junior of my wife, we are in our thirties, their is absolutely no issue nor has their ever been one.
Their are far more important issues to worry about.
With greater gaps, life experience is important, I would never consider any one who hadn't moved out from home (even if they were older than me).
I think age is just a number, as long as he a mature adult and both are comfortable with each other , i dont see a problem. Then again i might be biased, as my b/f is 3yrs younger than me :)
Age does not matter if you click, are in love or just get on together, and if you are planning a long relationship, a woman should chose a younger man as they normally die earlier, us blokes are not all we crack our selves up to be.
Age does matter! A few years is not an issue as long as the couple are in their late thirties and up. Younger people should not be in relationships until they have passed their mid 20's. If you have a large age gap the people will be in different phases of their life. My .02
All that matters is love
And opinions for larger age gaps?
With thanks in advance.What is your opinion on relationships whereby the male is less than a year younger than the female?
age doesnt matter if the couple are together because they love each other...What is your opinion on relationships whereby the male is less than a year younger than the female?
Makes not a bit of difference in my opinion. If the couple are happy and content that is the crux of the matter
Age has no relevance its the attitude of the individuals that count. Some young people are old before their time, some old people want to grow old disgracefully, good on them!!
It don't matter
No problems with less than a year age gap.
I think the only problem is when one partner is very young (or immature).
People should really butt out of other peoples relationships unless there is a risk of abuse etc.
I don't think there would be a problem with a male being a year or less younger than the female in a relationship. After that it would depend on the factors in each situation although anything can be overcome if two people are committed enough.
For example, if a man in his twenties wanted to settle down and have children, it probably wouldn't be the best choice for him to marry a woman who is at the end of her fertility life. Yes they can adopt and there is always medical intervention, but those come at a price emotionally and financially that not every one is prepared to pay.
Then there is the fact that after 10 years or so, you have both grown up in different times - you might remember the Power Rangers and she remembers the Flintstones. You might like grunge and she likes the Rolling Stones. You might have grownup with computers and she's clueless.
Again, if two people are committed to making a relationship work, it can be done against all odds, but it's just easier to love someone that has grown up around the same time period as yourself.
People are [people, reguardless of age, however.... before taking on a decision like that, you should both be consenting adults.Depending on charecteristics of the couple, things can work out reguardless of age gaps. There can be legal complications if one is under age. There are complications in any relationships, and it is more difficult if you can not relate to day to day things like music, attitudes, etc.
age doesn't matter, as long as your happy it don't matter what the gap! theres 5 years between me and my girlfriend and we couldn't be happier! as long as both people are happy thats all that counts!
iv no preferences... my boyfriend is just three months younger than me... i think the whole thing is due to the fact that it goes against evolutionary expectations of males and females as a whole (males supposed to go around speading their ';seeds'; and females are supposed to settle down as young as possible) so in that respect thats the only reason i believe that it could ever be justified as wrong
personally i dont mind...
x
My opinion is that it is a good and healthy relationship - where the male is younger.
Few years difference is not a big deal.
When you are looking at 20+ more years older then I hope for the best that it will work out.
I do see more negative outcomes than positive ones.
I don't have an opinion, in general.
My ex was 2.5 years older than me.
My present wife is 5 years older whilst
My girlfriend is 25 years 'younger' than me.
Hope this helps you?
Sash.
My husband is almost 4 months younger than me. Its just a number. If you have a large age difference then it seems to hurt the relationship only because of the differences in interests. The older person may try to be the ';boss'; or thing the other is immature. But for us, its only a few months. Not a big deal or important.
ehh, I dont think age is that big of an issue as long as the two are mature. Heck, my husband is 28, I'm 21. And we've been together 4 years.
SEEMS LIKE THEY WILL HAVE A LOT IN COMMON. MOST LIKELY ENJOY SAME SORT OF FILMS, MUSIC, ETC WILL ALWAYS BE ON THE SAME WAVELENGTH. BUT MY HUSBAND WAS 11 MONTHS YOUNGER THAN ME AND WEVE SPLIT, SO WOT DO I KNOW1
I'm 8/9 months the junior of my wife, we are in our thirties, their is absolutely no issue nor has their ever been one.
Their are far more important issues to worry about.
With greater gaps, life experience is important, I would never consider any one who hadn't moved out from home (even if they were older than me).
I think age is just a number, as long as he a mature adult and both are comfortable with each other , i dont see a problem. Then again i might be biased, as my b/f is 3yrs younger than me :)
Age does not matter if you click, are in love or just get on together, and if you are planning a long relationship, a woman should chose a younger man as they normally die earlier, us blokes are not all we crack our selves up to be.
Age does matter! A few years is not an issue as long as the couple are in their late thirties and up. Younger people should not be in relationships until they have passed their mid 20's. If you have a large age gap the people will be in different phases of their life. My .02
All that matters is love
Do you think Dating and relationships category should be split into two ago specific?
Ok seriously i enjoy answering questions for people in that category however ive noticed theres two distinctions in that section. Little middle/high schoolers asking does this boy like me! am i old enough to be intimate! and then all the other questions that have a mild semblance of maturity. Do you think they should split the catagory in age specific so we dont have to deal with teen angst if we dont want to, and only work with real relationship issues?Do you think Dating and relationships category should be split into two ago specific?
Perhaps,but they have no difference about the issue of an adult dating and relationship problems.Some adults may ask also similar questions ,mostly those who are still or are first-timers in a relationship ..Do you think Dating and relationships category should be split into two ago specific?
It wouldnt work because all the teen-angsty ';does he like me'; or ';can I do him'; questions would still end up in the ';mature'; category, because they think they are mature or they want adult answers...or some crap.
Perhaps,but they have no difference about the issue of an adult dating and relationship problems.Some adults may ask also similar questions ,mostly those who are still or are first-timers in a relationship ..Do you think Dating and relationships category should be split into two ago specific?
It wouldnt work because all the teen-angsty ';does he like me'; or ';can I do him'; questions would still end up in the ';mature'; category, because they think they are mature or they want adult answers...or some crap.
How often is it appropriate to talk with your friends about your romantic relationships?
Does it change, depending on whether your friend knows your partner or not?How often is it appropriate to talk with your friends about your romantic relationships?
I have no clue.
But my friend always pulls everything out of me (no pun intended).
It's kind of annoying, he asks about everything, then I just give up and tell him so he'll f**k off.eye makeup pictures
I have no clue.
But my friend always pulls everything out of me (no pun intended).
It's kind of annoying, he asks about everything, then I just give up and tell him so he'll f**k off.
Any good sources on interracial relationships between black and white people during slavery times?
i'm doing a research paper for my dual enrollment class; books and websites would be preferred. Thanks.Any good sources on interracial relationships between black and white people during slavery times?
I dont know of any, sorry.
I dont know of any, sorry.
I need some help with how I could start my thesis on how relationships is essential to our well-being?
through our relationships we are sustained by our personal growth and developement. The family we interact with can in turn contribute to our well being.
I need help with a thesis for the importance of human relationships on our well being?I need some help with how I could start my thesis on how relationships is essential to our well-being?
Having an emotional attachment to someone else is an Essential part of life. It has been proven to extend the lives of older people . You should look at the AOL news for 3/9/09 there was an article about a gay male couple that was interviewed regarding gay marriage . They had been together 40 +Years and had met in the MIlitary. Recently I also read something on the importance of sex in a marriage to extend the lifespan of the individuals involved. This was on the ABC news website I think. It went into the biology of why sex is important to extending peoples lives. Try answers senior section. Good Luck
I need help with a thesis for the importance of human relationships on our well being?I need some help with how I could start my thesis on how relationships is essential to our well-being?
Having an emotional attachment to someone else is an Essential part of life. It has been proven to extend the lives of older people . You should look at the AOL news for 3/9/09 there was an article about a gay male couple that was interviewed regarding gay marriage . They had been together 40 +Years and had met in the MIlitary. Recently I also read something on the importance of sex in a marriage to extend the lifespan of the individuals involved. This was on the ABC news website I think. It went into the biology of why sex is important to extending peoples lives. Try answers senior section. Good Luck
Do you find same sex relationships to be acceptable or to be unacceptable, which?
Many people find it impossible to reconcile christianity and homosexuality and so recommend being a christian, or to be entirely fair, being a homosexual. Some other people argue its all good news.Do you find same sex relationships to be acceptable or to be unacceptable, which?
The only thing which is unacceptable is the fact that people feel a need to criticize other people and what they do, so in short same sex relationships are acceptable!Do you find same sex relationships to be acceptable or to be unacceptable, which?
The bible does condone giving your daughter away as a whore to be used by your brethren but it prohibits sodomy.
Not a good guide of how society should deal with these issues.
Christianity has set rules by men who oppose homosexuality. There is no harm to adopt a set of rules by different people. All the other 6 billion humans on the planet who are not Christian have not been smited by their god for being non-believers.
And if I am correct, Nordic god Thor and some of the Roman gods allow homosexuality and actively propmote it.
So pick and choose. The Christians pick and choose what's right, so you are allowed too.
I was raised a Catholic, but stopped participating in the church b/c of their lack of understanding and acceptance of my lifestyle (I am engaged to a woman).
I think there are ways to be both Christian and homosexual - absolutely - if you are ok with how they feel about homosexuality....i, however, am not.
I would rather live my life the way I want and be happy while I'm on this earth than try to live under the ';rules'; of the bible which was written by mere mortal men. I believe fully in God and I think he made me this way and will accept me fully when I meet him.
Depends on who you ask. There are far too many religions in this world to let Christianity deside ones fate. The way I look at it, they all come with a set of beliefs and therefore they cannot all be correct. Maybe none of them are correct. Maybe this religious bit is made up for various reasons such as, to make money, to guide people into a cult, to brainwash people into believing life is to be a certain way, etc. I exercise my own God given logic. It is here that I find my answers because I came into this world with this logic and it was not taught by a religious family or group waiting for me to get old enough to pass their beliefs onto me.
i accept homosexuality!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i am a christian and i hate my church because they don't accept homosexuality...i mean if the preachers son is gay then wat will he do?...kick his son out just because he is gay...that's so frickin wrong....and i hate it when evryone at church says god says a man is to b wedded to a women and he already has an idea of what we r going to be..and if so then isn't it god to blame that some people r gay and the bible is way contradicting itself and so is the pastors/preachers that tells us about the bible...i mean they all say u should forgive people right?...guess wat the pastors and church ppl don't forgive homosexuality...they discriminate homosexuality..they don't respect it...gosh i am so pissed off and can't think right so i'll leave it at that
I don't care what two adults do in the privacy of their homes but I do get sick of seeing it in the media.
The bible (in leviticus) tells us to stone them to death. It also tells us that pi=3.0 (1 Kings 7:23)
The world would be boring place without gays.
Same sex relations are unacceptable.
The only thing which is unacceptable is the fact that people feel a need to criticize other people and what they do, so in short same sex relationships are acceptable!Do you find same sex relationships to be acceptable or to be unacceptable, which?
The bible does condone giving your daughter away as a whore to be used by your brethren but it prohibits sodomy.
Not a good guide of how society should deal with these issues.
Christianity has set rules by men who oppose homosexuality. There is no harm to adopt a set of rules by different people. All the other 6 billion humans on the planet who are not Christian have not been smited by their god for being non-believers.
And if I am correct, Nordic god Thor and some of the Roman gods allow homosexuality and actively propmote it.
So pick and choose. The Christians pick and choose what's right, so you are allowed too.
I was raised a Catholic, but stopped participating in the church b/c of their lack of understanding and acceptance of my lifestyle (I am engaged to a woman).
I think there are ways to be both Christian and homosexual - absolutely - if you are ok with how they feel about homosexuality....i, however, am not.
I would rather live my life the way I want and be happy while I'm on this earth than try to live under the ';rules'; of the bible which was written by mere mortal men. I believe fully in God and I think he made me this way and will accept me fully when I meet him.
Depends on who you ask. There are far too many religions in this world to let Christianity deside ones fate. The way I look at it, they all come with a set of beliefs and therefore they cannot all be correct. Maybe none of them are correct. Maybe this religious bit is made up for various reasons such as, to make money, to guide people into a cult, to brainwash people into believing life is to be a certain way, etc. I exercise my own God given logic. It is here that I find my answers because I came into this world with this logic and it was not taught by a religious family or group waiting for me to get old enough to pass their beliefs onto me.
i accept homosexuality!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i am a christian and i hate my church because they don't accept homosexuality...i mean if the preachers son is gay then wat will he do?...kick his son out just because he is gay...that's so frickin wrong....and i hate it when evryone at church says god says a man is to b wedded to a women and he already has an idea of what we r going to be..and if so then isn't it god to blame that some people r gay and the bible is way contradicting itself and so is the pastors/preachers that tells us about the bible...i mean they all say u should forgive people right?...guess wat the pastors and church ppl don't forgive homosexuality...they discriminate homosexuality..they don't respect it...gosh i am so pissed off and can't think right so i'll leave it at that
I don't care what two adults do in the privacy of their homes but I do get sick of seeing it in the media.
The bible (in leviticus) tells us to stone them to death. It also tells us that pi=3.0 (1 Kings 7:23)
The world would be boring place without gays.
Same sex relations are unacceptable.
How long do long distance relationships work? Can they last a year if two people are across the globe?
I worked at a summer camp this year and met the greatest guy ever! ....Unfortunately he lives in Israel. He's going to come back next year with a different visa that allows him to stay 12 years. Should I wait?How long do long distance relationships work? Can they last a year if two people are across the globe?
Only you can answer that. You have to decide if it's worth it. If he's the ';greatest guy ever'; then you should probably believe it's worth it.
Military spouses often wait long periods of time while their spouses are deployed overseas. It isn't easy, but you shouldn't necessarily walk away from everything just because it's difficult.How long do long distance relationships work? Can they last a year if two people are across the globe?
You can try, if you want to.
Lind distance relationships are incredibly difficult. My relationship turned long distance about a year ago and stayed that way for six months. But we had a relationship before that for about a year. We loved each other and trusted each other immensely. We were very devoted and very dedicated to one another. And that's what it takes. You have to be WILLING to not see any other person (romantically) until he comes back. And he has to do the same. And you have to trust each other... it's just not ideal for any relationship (in general). And it only works in the best of circumstances.
Depends on what you mean by wait. I don't think you should put your life on hold for somebody you met at a summer camp. If he's the one for you,then you'll feel the same in a year when he comes to visit you. Now if you had a long standing relationship that had lasted years and then you had to be separated for a year then of course you should wait.
Long distance works sometimes but is very difficult for both, especially you have to wait one year. Being alone all the time in a relationship could be unbearable for some. Why don't you go on with your regular life and not think too much about this for now. Fete could bring you two together when the time comes.
if you both try your absolute hardest to make it work for a year and can both manage to be without each other for a year, it could possibly work. i've had about 3 long distance relationships before, but the longest one was about 3 months, even that didn't work. as long as you can trust him to not go off with other girls, then you'll be fine. good luck :]
i would say, it depends on your age. Are you sort of older? Then maybe it could work. As far as ';waiting'; - what - do you have to rush off somewhere? You can go a year without chasing around other guys, can't you? :) If the guy is worth it, why not try it. If in the meantime you meet the one you are going to marry, well then....
So i think it sort of answers itself - in your own heart.
Good Luck.
thet can lasts long for example i have a long distance relationship and its working for me and it can work for you so once in a while send him some gift to make it going
sadly - I suspect you are wasting your time.... but good luck to you. You will need the resolve of a warrier and the ability to resist temptation of a monk.....But it would be one hell of an acheivement if you got it to work....
LDR's can work.... but you have to decide if he's worth waiting for
I think anything can work when the two people really want to be 2gether.
Wait? Well, if she meets someone else while he is away, then it wasn't meant to be in the 1st place.
If you think this guy is really worth the wait why not give it a try right? Just be sure about your feelings for him for a year.
most long distance relationships die within 2 or 3 months.
it depends on how into the guy your are and how the long distance relationship works out until then and if you find somebody else you would rather be with before he gets here.
Can you wait long enough not to feel him, touch him, nor feel his hugs? That is the question you should ask yourself.
if you really like him , you should wait.
they don't work
Only you can answer that. You have to decide if it's worth it. If he's the ';greatest guy ever'; then you should probably believe it's worth it.
Military spouses often wait long periods of time while their spouses are deployed overseas. It isn't easy, but you shouldn't necessarily walk away from everything just because it's difficult.How long do long distance relationships work? Can they last a year if two people are across the globe?
You can try, if you want to.
Lind distance relationships are incredibly difficult. My relationship turned long distance about a year ago and stayed that way for six months. But we had a relationship before that for about a year. We loved each other and trusted each other immensely. We were very devoted and very dedicated to one another. And that's what it takes. You have to be WILLING to not see any other person (romantically) until he comes back. And he has to do the same. And you have to trust each other... it's just not ideal for any relationship (in general). And it only works in the best of circumstances.
Depends on what you mean by wait. I don't think you should put your life on hold for somebody you met at a summer camp. If he's the one for you,then you'll feel the same in a year when he comes to visit you. Now if you had a long standing relationship that had lasted years and then you had to be separated for a year then of course you should wait.
Long distance works sometimes but is very difficult for both, especially you have to wait one year. Being alone all the time in a relationship could be unbearable for some. Why don't you go on with your regular life and not think too much about this for now. Fete could bring you two together when the time comes.
if you both try your absolute hardest to make it work for a year and can both manage to be without each other for a year, it could possibly work. i've had about 3 long distance relationships before, but the longest one was about 3 months, even that didn't work. as long as you can trust him to not go off with other girls, then you'll be fine. good luck :]
i would say, it depends on your age. Are you sort of older? Then maybe it could work. As far as ';waiting'; - what - do you have to rush off somewhere? You can go a year without chasing around other guys, can't you? :) If the guy is worth it, why not try it. If in the meantime you meet the one you are going to marry, well then....
So i think it sort of answers itself - in your own heart.
Good Luck.
thet can lasts long for example i have a long distance relationship and its working for me and it can work for you so once in a while send him some gift to make it going
sadly - I suspect you are wasting your time.... but good luck to you. You will need the resolve of a warrier and the ability to resist temptation of a monk.....But it would be one hell of an acheivement if you got it to work....
LDR's can work.... but you have to decide if he's worth waiting for
I think anything can work when the two people really want to be 2gether.
Wait? Well, if she meets someone else while he is away, then it wasn't meant to be in the 1st place.
If you think this guy is really worth the wait why not give it a try right? Just be sure about your feelings for him for a year.
most long distance relationships die within 2 or 3 months.
it depends on how into the guy your are and how the long distance relationship works out until then and if you find somebody else you would rather be with before he gets here.
Can you wait long enough not to feel him, touch him, nor feel his hugs? That is the question you should ask yourself.
if you really like him , you should wait.
they don't work
How long has same sex relationships been around?
It seems that there are a lot of gay people around now but my brother said that gay people have been around since Cesar's time...I just want to know how far back can same sex relationships be traced. *By the way, I'm not prejudiced just curious.How long has same sex relationships been around?
A very very very long timeHow long has same sex relationships been around?
History shows that bisexuality has been around for a long time. Sadly, it has been recorded more than homosexuality.
The best example I can give you, like the guy above, is ancient greece. Society back then was very divided by gender, boys would only study, talk, socialize with other boys, thus resulting in a lot of bisexuals. It was actually consider normal back then.
Another example close to that time and registered in history is actually,l believe it or not, Sparta. Sparta was a society were men will go alone and live the women behind to fight wars. This, like in greece, also resulted in a lot of bisexuality.
You can look all of this up. Hope it helped.
before cesar actually in ancient egypt
there was
Khnumhotep and Niankhkhnum around 2400BC they shared the title
';Overseer of the Manicurists in the Palace of the King, King's Acquaintance and Royal Confidant.';
meaning that it was acceptable in ancient egypt to have homosexual relationships for they were one of the few allowed to touch the pharaoh and they would not have had the post had homosexuality not been accepted
Niankhkhnum means ';joined to life'; and Khnumhotep means ';joined to 'the blessed state of the dead''; and together the names can be translated as ';joined in life and joined in death';
In the old testament (if you believe what it has to say) The city of Sodom was filled with people having sex with each other, men with men and women with women, the men of sodom even went to rape the angels that came to save Lot. Now whether you believe in the bible or not is really irrelevant. The book of Genesis began as a part of the roughly 900 documents found among the dead sea scrolls dating as far back as 150 BC if not more. Weather you believe the text is true or not there must have been homosexual sex at the time for someone to have written about it.
As long as opposite sex relationships have been around. It's not a matter of society, it's a matter of biology. A percentage of people have been born gay (or bi, pan, trans, etc) throughout history and always will be.
The reason you see it more today is because slowly our culture is becoming more tolerant of these lifestyles and the people living them feel safer displaying who they truly are in public. Let's hope the upward trend continues =]
The evidence goes back as far as the Bronze Age, shortly after the advent of writting, but given that we see same-sex relationships in other species, it is very likely that same-sex relationships are as old as humanity.
same sex relationships are quite common among both human beings and animals, so I guess to answer your question the relationships have been around far before humanity.
The earliest mention in the the Bible of such conduct is found in Genesis 19:5. Other than that...? I've no idea.
As far back as recorded history.
I guarantee there were cavemen who were shacking up together. That's how far back it goes.
Since the beginning of time.
Forever...Even Lincoln was a pole chaser.
Since day one.
in ancient greece, bisexuality was the norm.
most men would have male lovers.
ever since the world started.
A very very very long timeHow long has same sex relationships been around?
History shows that bisexuality has been around for a long time. Sadly, it has been recorded more than homosexuality.
The best example I can give you, like the guy above, is ancient greece. Society back then was very divided by gender, boys would only study, talk, socialize with other boys, thus resulting in a lot of bisexuals. It was actually consider normal back then.
Another example close to that time and registered in history is actually,l believe it or not, Sparta. Sparta was a society were men will go alone and live the women behind to fight wars. This, like in greece, also resulted in a lot of bisexuality.
You can look all of this up. Hope it helped.
before cesar actually in ancient egypt
there was
Khnumhotep and Niankhkhnum around 2400BC they shared the title
';Overseer of the Manicurists in the Palace of the King, King's Acquaintance and Royal Confidant.';
meaning that it was acceptable in ancient egypt to have homosexual relationships for they were one of the few allowed to touch the pharaoh and they would not have had the post had homosexuality not been accepted
Niankhkhnum means ';joined to life'; and Khnumhotep means ';joined to 'the blessed state of the dead''; and together the names can be translated as ';joined in life and joined in death';
In the old testament (if you believe what it has to say) The city of Sodom was filled with people having sex with each other, men with men and women with women, the men of sodom even went to rape the angels that came to save Lot. Now whether you believe in the bible or not is really irrelevant. The book of Genesis began as a part of the roughly 900 documents found among the dead sea scrolls dating as far back as 150 BC if not more. Weather you believe the text is true or not there must have been homosexual sex at the time for someone to have written about it.
As long as opposite sex relationships have been around. It's not a matter of society, it's a matter of biology. A percentage of people have been born gay (or bi, pan, trans, etc) throughout history and always will be.
The reason you see it more today is because slowly our culture is becoming more tolerant of these lifestyles and the people living them feel safer displaying who they truly are in public. Let's hope the upward trend continues =]
The evidence goes back as far as the Bronze Age, shortly after the advent of writting, but given that we see same-sex relationships in other species, it is very likely that same-sex relationships are as old as humanity.
same sex relationships are quite common among both human beings and animals, so I guess to answer your question the relationships have been around far before humanity.
The earliest mention in the the Bible of such conduct is found in Genesis 19:5. Other than that...? I've no idea.
As far back as recorded history.
I guarantee there were cavemen who were shacking up together. That's how far back it goes.
Since the beginning of time.
Forever...Even Lincoln was a pole chaser.
Since day one.
in ancient greece, bisexuality was the norm.
most men would have male lovers.
ever since the world started.
What methods were used to conduct research concerning the localization of behavior/brain relationships?
Which method do you feel is the most effective?What methods were used to conduct research concerning the localization of behavior/brain relationships?
I'd say probably studies that involve MRI's.eye makeup pictures
I'd say probably studies that involve MRI's.
Do you think long distance relationships could work?
If you're in one, explain how you two stay close to one another.
I am talking to this guy on the internet that I havent met yet and he is serious about a potential relationship. Forget the fact that he could be a psycho killer, is it worth giving it a try?Do you think long distance relationships could work?
I really think the worst part in a LDR is missing someone you love so much. Sometimes it's really sad.
But concerning the rest of it, it's very similar to a ';regular'; relationship. You must trust your bf/gf, you must care for each other and for the relationship, you must keep in touch, you can't cheat on them, you must share your things and feelings. No BIG differences at all.
When people live close to their bfs/gfs they tend to have the ';illusion'; that everything is alright and ';under control';. Unfortunately, we know it isn't true. Close or not that close, we always have to make efforts to keep a nice and healthy love relationship, or it fails.
So, don't let distance ruin your relationship, follow your heart (don't listen to losers and jerks), remember love worths it.
I wish you happiness.
:)Do you think long distance relationships could work?
With all the technology out there to keep people connected, long distance relationships work better than they used to, however before getting involved in a relationship, you should really get to know more about a person. If you suspect they could be a psycho killer, then there's a good chance you don't know the person well enough to start a relationship with them. Just keep in mind that anything that sounds too good to be true is, and those ';perfect'; personas you run across are the ones you need to watch out for.
I was in a long distance relationship with someone I meet online and we was together for 4 years. I wouldn't recommend a long distance relationship especially with someone you meet online. I wish I never dated my ex and wasted 4 years on top of that I was young and naive when we started dating but I am telling you don't do it.
It's different if you was dating him and he moved but he doesn't live near you now and y'all haven't started dating I say don't start dating him long distance is hard and people tend to lie and cheat when they are far from their mate.
Yes, they can work, but only under ONE condition: that they will not remain long distance in perpetuity. There HAS to be a way for it to NOT be long distance for too long. You stay close by talking on the phone or chatting on the internet frequently, but more importantly, by sharing similar interests and values. But even then, you have to be together one day, or you are wasting your time.
I would be extra, extra cautious, however, about someone who is specifically looking for a relationship. It usually means they have proven incapable of making a real-life relationship work, or that they have poor social skills. Desperate people seek love online.
But I happen to be proof that online relationships CAN work, but four things:
1. We had VERY similar values and interests.
2. Neither of us was looking for a relationship when we met. It was an accident, and that meant we could be totally honest from the beginning about who we were and what we were like. We were JUST pen pals. One thing just led to another.
3. We spent some time together in person before committing to anything. If you can't do that, you can't tell if you are compatible.
4. And I was at a moment in my life where I was flexible enough to move and make it so our relationship was NOT long distant anymore. We were apart for only about four months. Then I finished my degree and moved to where she lived and we gave it a try!
We've been happily married now for almost nine years.
If you decide to meet the guy, do it in public and with a friend.
Good luck!
Well i've been a couple and it takes lots of work.Its the same as any other relationship; trust and honesty. Talk everyday, reassure them that you care and would never hurt them (and vice versa). But sometimes it just isn't worth it. For me, it wasn't cause he couldn't handle being apart... We ended up drifting apart. It depends on the amount of love you guys have for each other, if he really loves and you really love him. Things could work.
I was in one with a solider, he was stationed elsewhere but I couldn't leave cause I was still in school. He ended up being unfaithful. But thats just us, it truly depends on what he truly feels.
im not actually in a real relationship but me and this guy both really like eachother .. i have known him for 2 years yet never met him.. but he is so not a killer.. its addicting and its hard to let go.. just talk all the time to one another and make sure you keep up the spice and all within the convos.. yes.. give it a try..just be careful.. but its fun :)
I live in So. Cal and was dating my old high school gf who just happened to have established her life in Missouri.
It was good for about a year, but the plane tickets got to be expensive and there was no progression in our relationship as a normal one should.
She and I had an agreement... We would go on dating whomever we wanted, but when it came to us, she and/or I had priority over anybody else. Meaning if I had a date lined up and it turned out she was able to fly in for the weekend, all my plans were canceled and I went to pick her up at the airport and so it was with her too.
Even with an agreement like that, the most self confident person would eventually start to be bothered about hearing about other dates.
But she didn't want to move out here to California and I wasn't going to move to Missouri. Saying goodbye was the hardest thing I ever had to do.
I would suggest you don't go down that path unless one of you is willing to eventually move to be with the other. Oh and also if he's not an axe murderer.
They fail most of the time, but they can work too.
I met my wife online. We talked through IMs for a couple days, then on the phone (sometimes all day long thanks to Skype and unlimited calling plans). Phone / webcam sex kept things from being too dull. I flew to visit her about 3 months later and we clicked in real life just as well as we did online. We rented a house together after a few weeks and I immigrated to her country.
Having money and the freedom to travel / move is a must however.
well im in a long distance relationship and its our 4th month anniversary this sunday but it does help that i met and hung out with him b4 we got together and every channce i get i go and see him ... which is pretty often because my family loves going where he lives..
yes it will work easily .. if u really love him then don't be worry about distance. my friend is in love with pakistani guy and they love to eacother very well and my friend will go to pakistan in end of 2009 to meet him and will get marry .............. so don't be worry it will work if ur love is true
The relationship through the internet is not real it's fake because you didn't know him or see or meet him the real one is when you meet him face to face and be close to him i don't believe in internet relationship
I was in one, ended up marrying her.
Short version of story. We went to the same high school, she moved out of state. We kept in touch, I moved in with her, we got married.
Keeping in touch helps a lot and trust is a must.
I find it quite amusing your asking this question considering your profile states you are a Psychology student and not at all interested in finding True Love over the internet.
i tried that, talked for over a year and then i moved to the area and he never wanted to see me, he got a gf. got my heart broke, didn't know it was possible online but it is.
forget about long distance
don't you want to be next to the person who is suppose
be with you when possible?
It is not a real relationship until you two meet.
Well, I've been in many long distant relationships.
For me, they weren't that bad.
They don't usually work out. no.
no.
give it a go and just see what happens. good luck. xxx
I am talking to this guy on the internet that I havent met yet and he is serious about a potential relationship. Forget the fact that he could be a psycho killer, is it worth giving it a try?Do you think long distance relationships could work?
I really think the worst part in a LDR is missing someone you love so much. Sometimes it's really sad.
But concerning the rest of it, it's very similar to a ';regular'; relationship. You must trust your bf/gf, you must care for each other and for the relationship, you must keep in touch, you can't cheat on them, you must share your things and feelings. No BIG differences at all.
When people live close to their bfs/gfs they tend to have the ';illusion'; that everything is alright and ';under control';. Unfortunately, we know it isn't true. Close or not that close, we always have to make efforts to keep a nice and healthy love relationship, or it fails.
So, don't let distance ruin your relationship, follow your heart (don't listen to losers and jerks), remember love worths it.
I wish you happiness.
:)Do you think long distance relationships could work?
With all the technology out there to keep people connected, long distance relationships work better than they used to, however before getting involved in a relationship, you should really get to know more about a person. If you suspect they could be a psycho killer, then there's a good chance you don't know the person well enough to start a relationship with them. Just keep in mind that anything that sounds too good to be true is, and those ';perfect'; personas you run across are the ones you need to watch out for.
I was in a long distance relationship with someone I meet online and we was together for 4 years. I wouldn't recommend a long distance relationship especially with someone you meet online. I wish I never dated my ex and wasted 4 years on top of that I was young and naive when we started dating but I am telling you don't do it.
It's different if you was dating him and he moved but he doesn't live near you now and y'all haven't started dating I say don't start dating him long distance is hard and people tend to lie and cheat when they are far from their mate.
Yes, they can work, but only under ONE condition: that they will not remain long distance in perpetuity. There HAS to be a way for it to NOT be long distance for too long. You stay close by talking on the phone or chatting on the internet frequently, but more importantly, by sharing similar interests and values. But even then, you have to be together one day, or you are wasting your time.
I would be extra, extra cautious, however, about someone who is specifically looking for a relationship. It usually means they have proven incapable of making a real-life relationship work, or that they have poor social skills. Desperate people seek love online.
But I happen to be proof that online relationships CAN work, but four things:
1. We had VERY similar values and interests.
2. Neither of us was looking for a relationship when we met. It was an accident, and that meant we could be totally honest from the beginning about who we were and what we were like. We were JUST pen pals. One thing just led to another.
3. We spent some time together in person before committing to anything. If you can't do that, you can't tell if you are compatible.
4. And I was at a moment in my life where I was flexible enough to move and make it so our relationship was NOT long distant anymore. We were apart for only about four months. Then I finished my degree and moved to where she lived and we gave it a try!
We've been happily married now for almost nine years.
If you decide to meet the guy, do it in public and with a friend.
Good luck!
Well i've been a couple and it takes lots of work.Its the same as any other relationship; trust and honesty. Talk everyday, reassure them that you care and would never hurt them (and vice versa). But sometimes it just isn't worth it. For me, it wasn't cause he couldn't handle being apart... We ended up drifting apart. It depends on the amount of love you guys have for each other, if he really loves and you really love him. Things could work.
I was in one with a solider, he was stationed elsewhere but I couldn't leave cause I was still in school. He ended up being unfaithful. But thats just us, it truly depends on what he truly feels.
im not actually in a real relationship but me and this guy both really like eachother .. i have known him for 2 years yet never met him.. but he is so not a killer.. its addicting and its hard to let go.. just talk all the time to one another and make sure you keep up the spice and all within the convos.. yes.. give it a try..just be careful.. but its fun :)
I live in So. Cal and was dating my old high school gf who just happened to have established her life in Missouri.
It was good for about a year, but the plane tickets got to be expensive and there was no progression in our relationship as a normal one should.
She and I had an agreement... We would go on dating whomever we wanted, but when it came to us, she and/or I had priority over anybody else. Meaning if I had a date lined up and it turned out she was able to fly in for the weekend, all my plans were canceled and I went to pick her up at the airport and so it was with her too.
Even with an agreement like that, the most self confident person would eventually start to be bothered about hearing about other dates.
But she didn't want to move out here to California and I wasn't going to move to Missouri. Saying goodbye was the hardest thing I ever had to do.
I would suggest you don't go down that path unless one of you is willing to eventually move to be with the other. Oh and also if he's not an axe murderer.
They fail most of the time, but they can work too.
I met my wife online. We talked through IMs for a couple days, then on the phone (sometimes all day long thanks to Skype and unlimited calling plans). Phone / webcam sex kept things from being too dull. I flew to visit her about 3 months later and we clicked in real life just as well as we did online. We rented a house together after a few weeks and I immigrated to her country.
Having money and the freedom to travel / move is a must however.
well im in a long distance relationship and its our 4th month anniversary this sunday but it does help that i met and hung out with him b4 we got together and every channce i get i go and see him ... which is pretty often because my family loves going where he lives..
yes it will work easily .. if u really love him then don't be worry about distance. my friend is in love with pakistani guy and they love to eacother very well and my friend will go to pakistan in end of 2009 to meet him and will get marry .............. so don't be worry it will work if ur love is true
The relationship through the internet is not real it's fake because you didn't know him or see or meet him the real one is when you meet him face to face and be close to him i don't believe in internet relationship
I was in one, ended up marrying her.
Short version of story. We went to the same high school, she moved out of state. We kept in touch, I moved in with her, we got married.
Keeping in touch helps a lot and trust is a must.
I find it quite amusing your asking this question considering your profile states you are a Psychology student and not at all interested in finding True Love over the internet.
i tried that, talked for over a year and then i moved to the area and he never wanted to see me, he got a gf. got my heart broke, didn't know it was possible online but it is.
forget about long distance
don't you want to be next to the person who is suppose
be with you when possible?
It is not a real relationship until you two meet.
Well, I've been in many long distant relationships.
For me, they weren't that bad.
They don't usually work out. no.
no.
give it a go and just see what happens. good luck. xxx
How do women without a father figure usually turn out,in terms of relationships?
How does this affected a woman's love life?Do they become more dominant or the opposite and why?How do women without a father figure usually turn out,in terms of relationships?
You know it really depends on the woman,
my mother grew up with no father figure in he rlife
and she has been happily married for 20 years.
It really depends on the individual and relationships they've had with the other people in their livesHow do women without a father figure usually turn out,in terms of relationships?
How you feel about yourself, your self esteem, your stability is more of an indicator of how well you will pick a partner. Not all women who have not been fathered have dysfunctional relationships. if you have pain around not having a father, deal with that in therapy. the more you can heal up, the better your relationships are.
BMH
There is no one specific way for this to turn out, it depends on the woman and the man she ends up dating. The only thing I would suspect is that, without as much experience dealing with the male mind while growing up, the woman may have to work harder to see eye to eye with her man. Some women who grow up without their father date men older than they are who are more dominant but that is certainly not universally true.
I can't speak for everyone, but I never had a dad and I guess I am a bit more akward around men. But I don't want to generalise, you need a lot more testemony from other women.
She'll be a lot like her mother, whether she likes it or not, and having much less experience with males, she won't be confident in relationships and either won't date at all or will be a bit slutty.
You know it really depends on the woman,
my mother grew up with no father figure in he rlife
and she has been happily married for 20 years.
It really depends on the individual and relationships they've had with the other people in their livesHow do women without a father figure usually turn out,in terms of relationships?
How you feel about yourself, your self esteem, your stability is more of an indicator of how well you will pick a partner. Not all women who have not been fathered have dysfunctional relationships. if you have pain around not having a father, deal with that in therapy. the more you can heal up, the better your relationships are.
BMH
There is no one specific way for this to turn out, it depends on the woman and the man she ends up dating. The only thing I would suspect is that, without as much experience dealing with the male mind while growing up, the woman may have to work harder to see eye to eye with her man. Some women who grow up without their father date men older than they are who are more dominant but that is certainly not universally true.
I can't speak for everyone, but I never had a dad and I guess I am a bit more akward around men. But I don't want to generalise, you need a lot more testemony from other women.
She'll be a lot like her mother, whether she likes it or not, and having much less experience with males, she won't be confident in relationships and either won't date at all or will be a bit slutty.
Long distance relationships: how do you make them work and make them a short distance relationship?
I am from chicago and met the greates girl from Detroit. We will spend the next 5 months togeth but don't know where we will end up after then with eternships and moving. What should we do? She, to me, is the greatest girl anywhere!Long distance relationships: how do you make them work and make them a short distance relationship?
Call her or email her everyday. And let her call you too. Don't forget holidays, try to visit her every so often, and try to laugh a lot! Your sense of humor will improve once you've endured hardship, and it will definitely ease the pain of being apart. Send her cute postcards signed by hunky celebrities to cheer her up and provoke her to reciprocate. And make sure you always tell her what's on your mind. Talking to each other is so important.
Good luck!Long distance relationships: how do you make them work and make them a short distance relationship?
Either you move over or she move over when you guys finish school.. But before that, a lot of communication and being very committed to speak to each other at least once a day. That's what my friends did for 2 years and they fly to see each other whenever possible and now they are married :-)
Call her or email her everyday. And let her call you too. Don't forget holidays, try to visit her every so often, and try to laugh a lot! Your sense of humor will improve once you've endured hardship, and it will definitely ease the pain of being apart. Send her cute postcards signed by hunky celebrities to cheer her up and provoke her to reciprocate. And make sure you always tell her what's on your mind. Talking to each other is so important.
Good luck!Long distance relationships: how do you make them work and make them a short distance relationship?
Either you move over or she move over when you guys finish school.. But before that, a lot of communication and being very committed to speak to each other at least once a day. That's what my friends did for 2 years and they fly to see each other whenever possible and now they are married :-)
Why are kids these days in such a rush to become entangled in relationships?
What is so good about finding a ';significant other?'; The only thing I can think of is sex, but apparently not everyone is interested in sex.
So what is the allure to finding a boyfriend or a girlfriend?Why are kids these days in such a rush to become entangled in relationships?
um, falling in love?
duh.Why are kids these days in such a rush to become entangled in relationships?
you see the movies. Where the guy and girl fall madly in love and are happy all the time. Who doesn't want someone who you love unconditionally and just to be happy. Sex isn't that alluring to most kids, the immature ones yeah but that isn't the main reason why we want a someone to love. Why wouldn't anyone not want someone to love and care for?
someone to turn to when no one else will listen to you. Someone to keep you warm. Someone to talk to when you're board. Someone who will hold you while you cry. Someone to share your life with.
There are many more reasons but they are just a few
-being able to talk to someone about anything
-knowing someone in the world finds you to be attractive
-being loved by that person no matter what
-a feeling of assurance
cuz young kids think theyre so grown up at like age 12 lol.
its so stupid,i dont get it either,i guess they all want to act 17 and most 17 year olds are dating.
the idea of having a BF or GF is an allure itself.
So what is the allure to finding a boyfriend or a girlfriend?Why are kids these days in such a rush to become entangled in relationships?
um, falling in love?
duh.Why are kids these days in such a rush to become entangled in relationships?
you see the movies. Where the guy and girl fall madly in love and are happy all the time. Who doesn't want someone who you love unconditionally and just to be happy. Sex isn't that alluring to most kids, the immature ones yeah but that isn't the main reason why we want a someone to love. Why wouldn't anyone not want someone to love and care for?
someone to turn to when no one else will listen to you. Someone to keep you warm. Someone to talk to when you're board. Someone who will hold you while you cry. Someone to share your life with.
There are many more reasons but they are just a few
-being able to talk to someone about anything
-knowing someone in the world finds you to be attractive
-being loved by that person no matter what
-a feeling of assurance
cuz young kids think theyre so grown up at like age 12 lol.
its so stupid,i dont get it either,i guess they all want to act 17 and most 17 year olds are dating.
the idea of having a BF or GF is an allure itself.
What is the policy for relationships between faculty and students?
Is there any kind of punishment? Is it illegal? Mostly talking about in the UK but any US comments are welcome :o) Good to have diversity! xxxWhat is the policy for relationships between faculty and students?
It happens - so what? No there no punishments. It's all between adults (in the UK) so there really is no problem. This goes for gay and lesbian relationships as much as straight. In one I know of the student was definitely exploiting the lecturer, but didn't gain anything out of it academically, just power tripping I guess.What is the policy for relationships between faculty and students?
In the US....
It's obviously not illegal if you are both adults (I assume we are talking about college here). Policies vary from university to university, but I know that in many cases they are very liberal provided that the relationship isn't going on while the faculty member is in some direct position of authority over the student.
This is actually surprisingly common in graduate school since you are working so closely with faculty. However, it also happens with undergrads and in many cases meaningful relationships result. I personally now a guy who ended marrying one of his professors from his undergrad.
It's not illegal - I'm presuming this is university so the student is of age.
That said, it's a risky business and the uni will NOT approve. If the university finds out then the staff member may run the risk of losing their job.
It's like doctors and nurses having relationships with their patients...it's unprofessional.
It is not illegal in university you are all consenting adults.
In one dept at my uni, I have seen a lot of relationships between tutors and students, usually 40 yr old tutors having affairs with young 18 yr olds whom in turn usually get good marks!!!!!
So no not illegal, but prob very unethical!!
As long as you're over 18 the only bad thing that can happen IF and WHEN you're found out, is the faculty member WILL lose his job.. you can count on that.. but you can't count on being found out... with a bit of discretion you can pull it off if you manage to keep it under wraps untill after you graduate from whatever institution is concerned here
It's usually frowned upon: it's not appropriate for those in a position of power within a university to have personal relationships with their pupils. Punishments could include rustication for the pupil, and disciplinary action for the member of staff concerned.
The university you're attending will have its own policy. It's certainly frowned upon as isn't professional, but I don't think it's actually illegal.
As long as the faculty member is not marking the students work it is not illegal and should not cause any problems.
outside the place it is your buissiness by law.
It happens - so what? No there no punishments. It's all between adults (in the UK) so there really is no problem. This goes for gay and lesbian relationships as much as straight. In one I know of the student was definitely exploiting the lecturer, but didn't gain anything out of it academically, just power tripping I guess.What is the policy for relationships between faculty and students?
In the US....
It's obviously not illegal if you are both adults (I assume we are talking about college here). Policies vary from university to university, but I know that in many cases they are very liberal provided that the relationship isn't going on while the faculty member is in some direct position of authority over the student.
This is actually surprisingly common in graduate school since you are working so closely with faculty. However, it also happens with undergrads and in many cases meaningful relationships result. I personally now a guy who ended marrying one of his professors from his undergrad.
It's not illegal - I'm presuming this is university so the student is of age.
That said, it's a risky business and the uni will NOT approve. If the university finds out then the staff member may run the risk of losing their job.
It's like doctors and nurses having relationships with their patients...it's unprofessional.
It is not illegal in university you are all consenting adults.
In one dept at my uni, I have seen a lot of relationships between tutors and students, usually 40 yr old tutors having affairs with young 18 yr olds whom in turn usually get good marks!!!!!
So no not illegal, but prob very unethical!!
As long as you're over 18 the only bad thing that can happen IF and WHEN you're found out, is the faculty member WILL lose his job.. you can count on that.. but you can't count on being found out... with a bit of discretion you can pull it off if you manage to keep it under wraps untill after you graduate from whatever institution is concerned here
It's usually frowned upon: it's not appropriate for those in a position of power within a university to have personal relationships with their pupils. Punishments could include rustication for the pupil, and disciplinary action for the member of staff concerned.
The university you're attending will have its own policy. It's certainly frowned upon as isn't professional, but I don't think it's actually illegal.
As long as the faculty member is not marking the students work it is not illegal and should not cause any problems.
outside the place it is your buissiness by law.
Why do people with bad relationships come onto yahoo answers and ask really long questions?
Why do people with bad relationships come onto yahoo answers ask us question long as questions which most people will never read and ask us to solve their problems when in reality their problem is themselves and they need extensive therapy. Thanks for answering.Why do people with bad relationships come onto yahoo answers and ask really long questions?
Because they need help or someone to confide in Why do people with bad relationships come onto yahoo answers and ask really long questions?
because they dont want to go to therapy and show their face, whereas over here they can just post and feel relieved they vented it out...
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i dunno...
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Because they need help or someone to confide in Why do people with bad relationships come onto yahoo answers and ask really long questions?
because they dont want to go to therapy and show their face, whereas over here they can just post and feel relieved they vented it out...
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i dunno...
just wanted to get 2 points for answering this question...
How many people in failing relationships stay together for the sake of their kids?
I know the kids are the main priority in life...
But should you sacrifice all your happiness for the sake of the kids, or what???How many people in failing relationships stay together for the sake of their kids?
Kids are like sponges, right from an early age they're learning relationship patterns from you and your partner.
If youre unhappy in your relationship it is honestly better to get the kids out of this atmosphere.
I think that they will be happier and more grounded if youre separate and happy independently. Been there, done that!How many people in failing relationships stay together for the sake of their kids?
There's definitely going to be a sacrifice, and the kids should take top priority. Now the question is, what are you willing to sacrifice for the children's sake? Life style and financial security should not come before the well fare, safety and emotional stability of you and your children.
Ask yourself are you willing to sacrifice your kids for the sake of happiness?
i don't know any statistics but actually i just want to say that i think it's really REALLY unhealthy to stay together ';for the kids';. as long as it's handled properly and after the initial phase of pain and uproar i believe most kids would function a damn sight better with two HAPPY, emotionally stable parents who lived apart than they would in some miserable, crumbling shell of a fake-happy home.
you have to look at your own happiness . Why cause your kids wont be happy seeing there parents fight and argue all the time. Cause a negative impact on your children. Im getting a divorce myself when I get back from my deployment. We worked out unselfishly how child custody would work. Im getting my son for a year and then my wife will get him a year ect.. until he starts school he will stay with his mother and I will get him for 3 months that he is out of school. That will create a balance in things . And of course when the time comes to tell him why you guys arent together anymore . Make the responsible choice and not being bias to who was right and wrong cause that between you and your spouse only.
I stayed in a marriage for the sake of the kids. My ex was a filthy cheating felon...and those were his good qualities. I knew the marriage was a sham months into it but I stayed ten years.
The thing is, my marriage was abusive...it wasn't just ';oh we're not in love any more,'; yet I still stayed. When I finally got the courage to walk out, my life improved ten times over. I married an amazing guy that treats me and my kids very well.
My kids' life is not so great. I share joint custody with the ex. He married a legalistic ';Christian'; who forces her ideas on the kids. She (and the ex) make sure the kids know they will never be worth anything. The kids plead with me to come get them and cry about how much they hate it there. I would never have sacrificed my kids' happiness for my own, had I known he would become a bad father.
Point is...you don't know who/what your ex will expose your children to once you're out of there. If the marriage is just dull...then you should stay with it until the kids are grown. If it is abusive, get out. In my case, the abuse for me was too much. I'm happier now than I could ever have imagined, but I'd be much happier if my kids were happy too.
I didn't.
People really get this twisted.
I left my husband years back as he was violent, and took my 1 year old son. I sorted out access for my ex husband IMMEDIATELY, but this had to be supervised due to the nature of the break up (violence), and my ex accepted this.
It is not wise to stay with someone for the sake of the kids, if you are unhappy. You have to get OUT for the sake of the kids.
I know I have and both my married daughters do. If I had known then what I know now I would have never stayed with him because of the kids. What women fail to realize that babies and children grow up and leave the nest and your stuck with the husband or wife for the rest of your life only for the insurance money from their death.
It may sound horrible but its the truth that many spouses don't want to admit to.
It's important for children to have security and stability. I've seen girlfriends/boyfriends and step parents make life miserable. Your children will likely resent you if you're only thinking about your happiness. Being divorced doesn't guarantee you'll be happy. Think about the consequences before getting divorced. A divorce can never be undone.
i was married for 10 years we have a daughter my ex was emotionally abusive there came a real low point but i decided to keep trying which i did for 7 months for our daughters sake but it didnt work so i left and she came with me i have never stopped her or him seeeing each other. try very hard not to bad mouth him when shes around. its been 6 years now i have a new partner and 2 more children yes there have been hiccups along the way but i am happier and she can see that. if i had stayed she would think that is how realtionships are i did'nt want that.
Definately not!! Why? Because one day your kids will grow up and leave home, then it's just you and your partner. Can you live your life with someone you only stayed with for the kids then? Or do you bite the bullet now, when you're young enough to go out and maybe meet that one person who you are meant to be with? It'll affect the kids whether it happens now or later you know!!!
Too many.
Myself included.
I grew up in a broken home and vowed my kids wouldn't.
I was determined that both Mum and Dad would be together forever.
But self sacrifice isn't always a good thing.
Im just biding my time, waiting to go.
And I dont feel good about that.
But kids are happy.
I stayed in my previous marriage for 15 years for my son. Was it the right choice i can't say for sure. I just knew the turmoil between his mother and me would have caused him a high amount of stress and i didn't want to put him through it.
Depends how old the kids are and how bad the marriage is. You don't want to raise your kids in a hostile environment where you fight and yell at each other on daily basis. Then they are better off with the divorced parents.
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My boyfriend is doing that,and i respect him so much! The kids shouldnt suffer coz of their parents misunderastandings.you should sacrice until the kids are older.
Kids should not be victims of marriage probs
i want to raise my kid in a positive environment. so I wouldn't mind sacrificing which i'm doing it now.
Some people do but I would take my kids and get out. My happiness and my children happiness comes first.
But should you sacrifice all your happiness for the sake of the kids, or what???How many people in failing relationships stay together for the sake of their kids?
Kids are like sponges, right from an early age they're learning relationship patterns from you and your partner.
If youre unhappy in your relationship it is honestly better to get the kids out of this atmosphere.
I think that they will be happier and more grounded if youre separate and happy independently. Been there, done that!How many people in failing relationships stay together for the sake of their kids?
There's definitely going to be a sacrifice, and the kids should take top priority. Now the question is, what are you willing to sacrifice for the children's sake? Life style and financial security should not come before the well fare, safety and emotional stability of you and your children.
Ask yourself are you willing to sacrifice your kids for the sake of happiness?
i don't know any statistics but actually i just want to say that i think it's really REALLY unhealthy to stay together ';for the kids';. as long as it's handled properly and after the initial phase of pain and uproar i believe most kids would function a damn sight better with two HAPPY, emotionally stable parents who lived apart than they would in some miserable, crumbling shell of a fake-happy home.
you have to look at your own happiness . Why cause your kids wont be happy seeing there parents fight and argue all the time. Cause a negative impact on your children. Im getting a divorce myself when I get back from my deployment. We worked out unselfishly how child custody would work. Im getting my son for a year and then my wife will get him a year ect.. until he starts school he will stay with his mother and I will get him for 3 months that he is out of school. That will create a balance in things . And of course when the time comes to tell him why you guys arent together anymore . Make the responsible choice and not being bias to who was right and wrong cause that between you and your spouse only.
I stayed in a marriage for the sake of the kids. My ex was a filthy cheating felon...and those were his good qualities. I knew the marriage was a sham months into it but I stayed ten years.
The thing is, my marriage was abusive...it wasn't just ';oh we're not in love any more,'; yet I still stayed. When I finally got the courage to walk out, my life improved ten times over. I married an amazing guy that treats me and my kids very well.
My kids' life is not so great. I share joint custody with the ex. He married a legalistic ';Christian'; who forces her ideas on the kids. She (and the ex) make sure the kids know they will never be worth anything. The kids plead with me to come get them and cry about how much they hate it there. I would never have sacrificed my kids' happiness for my own, had I known he would become a bad father.
Point is...you don't know who/what your ex will expose your children to once you're out of there. If the marriage is just dull...then you should stay with it until the kids are grown. If it is abusive, get out. In my case, the abuse for me was too much. I'm happier now than I could ever have imagined, but I'd be much happier if my kids were happy too.
I didn't.
People really get this twisted.
I left my husband years back as he was violent, and took my 1 year old son. I sorted out access for my ex husband IMMEDIATELY, but this had to be supervised due to the nature of the break up (violence), and my ex accepted this.
It is not wise to stay with someone for the sake of the kids, if you are unhappy. You have to get OUT for the sake of the kids.
I know I have and both my married daughters do. If I had known then what I know now I would have never stayed with him because of the kids. What women fail to realize that babies and children grow up and leave the nest and your stuck with the husband or wife for the rest of your life only for the insurance money from their death.
It may sound horrible but its the truth that many spouses don't want to admit to.
It's important for children to have security and stability. I've seen girlfriends/boyfriends and step parents make life miserable. Your children will likely resent you if you're only thinking about your happiness. Being divorced doesn't guarantee you'll be happy. Think about the consequences before getting divorced. A divorce can never be undone.
i was married for 10 years we have a daughter my ex was emotionally abusive there came a real low point but i decided to keep trying which i did for 7 months for our daughters sake but it didnt work so i left and she came with me i have never stopped her or him seeeing each other. try very hard not to bad mouth him when shes around. its been 6 years now i have a new partner and 2 more children yes there have been hiccups along the way but i am happier and she can see that. if i had stayed she would think that is how realtionships are i did'nt want that.
Definately not!! Why? Because one day your kids will grow up and leave home, then it's just you and your partner. Can you live your life with someone you only stayed with for the kids then? Or do you bite the bullet now, when you're young enough to go out and maybe meet that one person who you are meant to be with? It'll affect the kids whether it happens now or later you know!!!
Too many.
Myself included.
I grew up in a broken home and vowed my kids wouldn't.
I was determined that both Mum and Dad would be together forever.
But self sacrifice isn't always a good thing.
Im just biding my time, waiting to go.
And I dont feel good about that.
But kids are happy.
I stayed in my previous marriage for 15 years for my son. Was it the right choice i can't say for sure. I just knew the turmoil between his mother and me would have caused him a high amount of stress and i didn't want to put him through it.
Depends how old the kids are and how bad the marriage is. You don't want to raise your kids in a hostile environment where you fight and yell at each other on daily basis. Then they are better off with the divorced parents.
follow your heart...
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read on, please...will give you insight.
My boyfriend is doing that,and i respect him so much! The kids shouldnt suffer coz of their parents misunderastandings.you should sacrice until the kids are older.
Kids should not be victims of marriage probs
i want to raise my kid in a positive environment. so I wouldn't mind sacrificing which i'm doing it now.
Some people do but I would take my kids and get out. My happiness and my children happiness comes first.
Do homosexual relationships deserve the same recognition under the law as heterosexual relationships?
Hello! I am debating next week and my position is pro. Please, help me to find answer which could support that homosexuals deserve the same right as heterosexuals. Please, help me! It is very important debate.Do homosexual relationships deserve the same recognition under the law as heterosexual relationships?
First, we are people too.
Second, we are citizens.
Third, we pay taxes.
Fourth, same-sex couples love each other as much as opposite sex couples.
Fifth, we contribute many things to society.
Sixth, we have skills that we use to help the economy, educate people, and enhance the general welfare.
Seventh, we are from all walks of life - doctors, lawyers, teachers, construction workers, firemen, policemen, etc.
Finally, we have families who need all the things that families of straight people need.
Hope this helps.Do homosexual relationships deserve the same recognition under the law as heterosexual relationships?
I'm on your side. I agree with the one writer who said that, if Britney Spears and her boyfriend can legally get married in this country, there's no reason why 2 guys or 2 gals have been in a committed relationship with each other for months, years, or decades on end shouldn't be allowed to get married.
Yes they do why does gender even matter I'm bisexual technically but I dont look at it that way if i like someone i like them and their gender isnt an issue to me the only thing thats an issue is if its a girl and theyre straight so not interested or equally a boy who just isnt interested!
yes, i believe they do. a relationship is a relationship. if you love someone, why does it matter if its a man or a women?
Depends on what you mean by ';recognition';?
Gays do have the same rights as all Americans.
no they don't
Yes! We're human too, that's the only argument you need.
First, we are people too.
Second, we are citizens.
Third, we pay taxes.
Fourth, same-sex couples love each other as much as opposite sex couples.
Fifth, we contribute many things to society.
Sixth, we have skills that we use to help the economy, educate people, and enhance the general welfare.
Seventh, we are from all walks of life - doctors, lawyers, teachers, construction workers, firemen, policemen, etc.
Finally, we have families who need all the things that families of straight people need.
Hope this helps.Do homosexual relationships deserve the same recognition under the law as heterosexual relationships?
I'm on your side. I agree with the one writer who said that, if Britney Spears and her boyfriend can legally get married in this country, there's no reason why 2 guys or 2 gals have been in a committed relationship with each other for months, years, or decades on end shouldn't be allowed to get married.
Yes they do why does gender even matter I'm bisexual technically but I dont look at it that way if i like someone i like them and their gender isnt an issue to me the only thing thats an issue is if its a girl and theyre straight so not interested or equally a boy who just isnt interested!
yes, i believe they do. a relationship is a relationship. if you love someone, why does it matter if its a man or a women?
Depends on what you mean by ';recognition';?
Gays do have the same rights as all Americans.
no they don't
Yes! We're human too, that's the only argument you need.
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