Such as; Jungle fever, Zebra stripes, and etc. But no movies (that I ever heard of) that document the life and burdens of a mixed person?
From my personal experience, society can be just as cruel to a mixed person, as any one in an interracial relationship.Why are there so many movies that display the life and burdens of interracial relationships?
What about Mr. Spock? Or Hondo? Both ';half-bred'; stories.
Art, I think the reason Hollywood doesn't delve too often into the subject is because it isn't one that immediately cuts to an identifiable stereotype or cultural shorthand.
All movies deal with a visual language that the audience doesn't have to think hard about. Think about a ';buddy movie'; one is a slob, the other a prig, ala the ';Odd Couple';. Think cop movies where the Chief is always trying to keep the maverick cop hemmed in, ala ';Beverly Hills Cop'; or ';Heat of the Night'; or any number of other films. See glasses on a girl ... she's smart; see a snotty blonde she is a soroity sister. See Halle Berry, she is just fine, ... goodness.
For your situation, there isn't a ready visual stereotype that folks can look at and immediately understand.
However, there is one film that deals with the theme you're asking about. I can't recall the name of it, but it is from the late '60s or early '70s. It starred Godfrey Cambridge and it dealt with a racist white guy who woke up black one day. His wife freaks, his kids freak and he freaks.
You might want to check it out. It deals with how this racist guy eventually deals with his situation.
I should backtrack a tad. Back in the olden days, there was an ';Urban Legend'; that if you had a drop of black blood in your veins, you could be white one day and black the next.
Another film that touches on your issue stars James Earl Jones and Robert Duval as brothers. Robert Duval is a cracker who discovers after his mother dies, that his father was black, and that he has a half brother living in Chicago.
Duval leaves his Cracker-World and heads to Chicago ...Why are there so many movies that display the life and burdens of interracial relationships?
Imitation of Life-1959, but it's a black girl that looks white
Deep in my Heart - it's all about a mixed woman's problems sort of. particularly w/ her maternal figures: a white rape victim who gives her up, a black foster mother who she's taken from and a white adoptive mother who she disconnected with.
If that helps!
Because it is the Jew run media trying to stuff diversity down our throats so that they can weaken the white man's place in this world. I don't wath much TV or movies. I prefer a good book. It is much more intelligent.
I agree. I've been in a relationship with my bf for over 3 years (he's black and I'm asian) I haven't dealt with any hardships except my parents getting used to the idea. lol
Media brainwashing the masses.
Racism is for the weak.
try the movie ';crash';
I totally know what you mean!
I know what u mean...and I agree
Friday, November 25, 2011
Why do abusive men stay in relationships with women they hate?
There's a lot of answers about why women stay in abusive relationships but I wonder why the abusive men do? I mean if their moody all the time and their either verbally or phsyically abusive to their partner, why stay in a relationship that makes you want to hit out?Why do abusive men stay in relationships with women they hate?
Being an abuser is not about love or hate for them. It is only about control. These men (and women) tend to have been abused themselves or have witnessed spousal abuse as children. They start out with an unhealthy view of relationships and a huge hit to their self esteem. This is what they know. Being abusive gives them a sense of control over overwhelming feelings of fear and insecurity. The fear of losing their partner is what drives this. As a health professional and one who has been in an abusive relationship, I can speak from experience on this issue.
Now to the issue of control. All of us feel the need to control some aspects of our lives because our nature and our operating program tells us that we have to do whatever it takes to avoid pain and seek pleasure. The anger and need to control that is part of the abuser's operating system is his/her way of avoiding pain...the pain of loss in situations of abuse.
I have included some links on human nature and what relationships should look like from a spiritual perspective. Hope you find them interesting.
Best WishesWhy do abusive men stay in relationships with women they hate?
Asking the question implies that the reason they're abusive is because the other person makes them miserable and its they're fault the person is abusive. THAT isn't what abuse is about. People who abuse have a need to manipulate and control, trust me...no matter what you do, it will not please an abusive person.
Reason why people abuse is because they aren't happy with themselves. But instead of making changes to themselves they blame everyone else and/or manipulate/control others with negativity to make themselves feel better.
Perhaps they have a sadistic love.They expressed their love by hurting their wives.Weird is not it? but that is how a Sadist man loves - that is through hurting the one he love...You Know if this abusive man does not love their wives they better just leave or file a divorce...but they stay..it only means they do also love their wives but are just sadistic in loving them.
A drug dealer needs addicts, and abusers need victims. The dealer and the abuser both thrive on controlling their subjects.
If the addict and victim choose not to break this bond, they might just as well put a gold ring on their controllers finger, because it lasts for life.
It is their intent to keep you that way, it's their euphoric high, they will not leave you and may even increase the amount of control they have over you. Your pain and suffering is music to their ears, that's why they stay.
Good Luck - Bless You
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If a man finds out he can domanate a woman and still have her while he does whats he wants to do, he will keep her around. Due to when things do not go his way he comes back and has his ice cream and cake. She is a fall back girl, some a man can fall back to when things go sour in another relationship he has on the side.
I have no idea and have never thought about it that way. I have never hit a woman and I do not like violence at all. I think those that do hit are in it for control. They like to control women. Nuts huh? I feel so badly for the women who end up with asssholes like that.
They stay because they can CONTROL their wife! They are to insecure to take their anger out on other men. If a guy were to come up to them wanting to fight, these jerks would run with their tail tucked under their legs.The Wives are their victim because they are the only ones they can control.
Because they enjoy having the power and control over their partner, and most abusive men were abused when they were younger, so they see nothing wrong with it.....as far as some of them are concerned, its normal.
Becaus they know a quality, sane woman would never want them. Please, stop putting up with abuse %26amp; become a quality, sane woman again!
It's kind of like a war lord that conquers villages and countries. This land is mine. She's property, a most loyal vicitm that he can take everything out on.
Power that is all it is plus someone to wait on then , but remember abuse is done by big brave men?
thay are abusive, thay abuse all woman that will let them if thay got another woman thay would try to do them the same way,
they dont hate them. they just want to control something. them.
It's not that they hate the woman. In fact, they may very well love her, or at the least need her. Believe it or not, people who have anger problems don't sit there and choose to be abusive. It could be just because of their abrasive personality, or more likely, with the way the were raised and or some traumatic event in their childhood. Personally, as a woman, I have anger issues as well. I'm not physically abusive, but I find when I get very angry it is VERY difficult to stop myself from yelling, screaming, and overreacting. Now, I have realized this about myself and am working to change it. Believe me though, it's actually very difficult. I know that my anger problems are very trivial compared to some, and it is EXTREMELY hard to change. You can't truly understand it unless you have problems yourself. With enough dedication and will power, you can start to act better, but you can never control those impulses. They are always there. In a lot of instances with abusive relationships, they don't truly hate the person. In fact, they often love them. They just do not know how to control or stop their anger and persistent rages. This is not an excuse for their behavior, but it is an explanation. For those who do not truly love their partner, they are often using them. Whenever they find someone who is actually willing to tolerate their hanger, they cling to it as hard as they can. If ever they feel they might be losing their hold on that person, they will often turn ';sweet'; for a little while and rope them back in.
I'm not justifying their actions, but I try not to judge because it really is a very difficult transformation to change. It's not like a drug addiction where once it's out of your system you can try and forget about it. Those rage impulses are ALWAYS there, no matter how long you try and control them. Now, someone who is truly mastering their change can control these impulses, but it's difficult and quite exhausting to be honest.
Being an abuser is not about love or hate for them. It is only about control. These men (and women) tend to have been abused themselves or have witnessed spousal abuse as children. They start out with an unhealthy view of relationships and a huge hit to their self esteem. This is what they know. Being abusive gives them a sense of control over overwhelming feelings of fear and insecurity. The fear of losing their partner is what drives this. As a health professional and one who has been in an abusive relationship, I can speak from experience on this issue.
Now to the issue of control. All of us feel the need to control some aspects of our lives because our nature and our operating program tells us that we have to do whatever it takes to avoid pain and seek pleasure. The anger and need to control that is part of the abuser's operating system is his/her way of avoiding pain...the pain of loss in situations of abuse.
I have included some links on human nature and what relationships should look like from a spiritual perspective. Hope you find them interesting.
Best WishesWhy do abusive men stay in relationships with women they hate?
Asking the question implies that the reason they're abusive is because the other person makes them miserable and its they're fault the person is abusive. THAT isn't what abuse is about. People who abuse have a need to manipulate and control, trust me...no matter what you do, it will not please an abusive person.
Reason why people abuse is because they aren't happy with themselves. But instead of making changes to themselves they blame everyone else and/or manipulate/control others with negativity to make themselves feel better.
Perhaps they have a sadistic love.They expressed their love by hurting their wives.Weird is not it? but that is how a Sadist man loves - that is through hurting the one he love...You Know if this abusive man does not love their wives they better just leave or file a divorce...but they stay..it only means they do also love their wives but are just sadistic in loving them.
A drug dealer needs addicts, and abusers need victims. The dealer and the abuser both thrive on controlling their subjects.
If the addict and victim choose not to break this bond, they might just as well put a gold ring on their controllers finger, because it lasts for life.
It is their intent to keep you that way, it's their euphoric high, they will not leave you and may even increase the amount of control they have over you. Your pain and suffering is music to their ears, that's why they stay.
Good Luck - Bless You
.
If a man finds out he can domanate a woman and still have her while he does whats he wants to do, he will keep her around. Due to when things do not go his way he comes back and has his ice cream and cake. She is a fall back girl, some a man can fall back to when things go sour in another relationship he has on the side.
I have no idea and have never thought about it that way. I have never hit a woman and I do not like violence at all. I think those that do hit are in it for control. They like to control women. Nuts huh? I feel so badly for the women who end up with asssholes like that.
They stay because they can CONTROL their wife! They are to insecure to take their anger out on other men. If a guy were to come up to them wanting to fight, these jerks would run with their tail tucked under their legs.The Wives are their victim because they are the only ones they can control.
Because they enjoy having the power and control over their partner, and most abusive men were abused when they were younger, so they see nothing wrong with it.....as far as some of them are concerned, its normal.
Becaus they know a quality, sane woman would never want them. Please, stop putting up with abuse %26amp; become a quality, sane woman again!
It's kind of like a war lord that conquers villages and countries. This land is mine. She's property, a most loyal vicitm that he can take everything out on.
Power that is all it is plus someone to wait on then , but remember abuse is done by big brave men?
thay are abusive, thay abuse all woman that will let them if thay got another woman thay would try to do them the same way,
they dont hate them. they just want to control something. them.
It's not that they hate the woman. In fact, they may very well love her, or at the least need her. Believe it or not, people who have anger problems don't sit there and choose to be abusive. It could be just because of their abrasive personality, or more likely, with the way the were raised and or some traumatic event in their childhood. Personally, as a woman, I have anger issues as well. I'm not physically abusive, but I find when I get very angry it is VERY difficult to stop myself from yelling, screaming, and overreacting. Now, I have realized this about myself and am working to change it. Believe me though, it's actually very difficult. I know that my anger problems are very trivial compared to some, and it is EXTREMELY hard to change. You can't truly understand it unless you have problems yourself. With enough dedication and will power, you can start to act better, but you can never control those impulses. They are always there. In a lot of instances with abusive relationships, they don't truly hate the person. In fact, they often love them. They just do not know how to control or stop their anger and persistent rages. This is not an excuse for their behavior, but it is an explanation. For those who do not truly love their partner, they are often using them. Whenever they find someone who is actually willing to tolerate their hanger, they cling to it as hard as they can. If ever they feel they might be losing their hold on that person, they will often turn ';sweet'; for a little while and rope them back in.
I'm not justifying their actions, but I try not to judge because it really is a very difficult transformation to change. It's not like a drug addiction where once it's out of your system you can try and forget about it. Those rage impulses are ALWAYS there, no matter how long you try and control them. Now, someone who is truly mastering their change can control these impulses, but it's difficult and quite exhausting to be honest.
LGBT: When it comes to personal relationships, do you have the right to discriminate?
I would never judge someone by their looks, gender nationality or sexual orientation, but when it comes to a up close and personal relationship, I think you have a right to discriminate. What do you think?LGBT: When it comes to personal relationships, do you have the right to discriminate?
We do have the right to choose whom we want to associate with. If you mean friendships, personally, I don't care about gender, ethnicity, age, etc. But if you mean a romantic relationship, then I am guided by what appeals to me. Some people like blonds, some don't. Some like tall guys, some don't. Some like guys with facial hair, some don't. You can only be attracted to that which attracts you. You can't pretend to be attracted and have it work out over the long term.LGBT: When it comes to personal relationships, do you have the right to discriminate?
When it comes to personal relationships, it's not discrimination. It's choice.
I mean no one, but no one, has a ';right'; to demand a personal relationship.
No i dont think that you should discriminate against that person because you don't know how that person truly and honestly feel for you so why would you do something like that and turn that person away not knowing if this is the right person for you.
I really don't think so, but that's just me...
We do have the right to choose whom we want to associate with. If you mean friendships, personally, I don't care about gender, ethnicity, age, etc. But if you mean a romantic relationship, then I am guided by what appeals to me. Some people like blonds, some don't. Some like tall guys, some don't. Some like guys with facial hair, some don't. You can only be attracted to that which attracts you. You can't pretend to be attracted and have it work out over the long term.LGBT: When it comes to personal relationships, do you have the right to discriminate?
When it comes to personal relationships, it's not discrimination. It's choice.
I mean no one, but no one, has a ';right'; to demand a personal relationship.
No i dont think that you should discriminate against that person because you don't know how that person truly and honestly feel for you so why would you do something like that and turn that person away not knowing if this is the right person for you.
I really don't think so, but that's just me...
Why do people associate jealousy with relationships so often?
Sometimes there is a general question about jealousy with no mention of a relationship and yet the answers usually focus on relationships
There are so many issues people get jealous over - why are we not concerned as much about other issues?Why do people associate jealousy with relationships so often?
Jealousy, over time became synonymous with relationships.
Anything else it tends to called envy, even though Webster's defines it similar to jealousy along with an additional component.
I think because with jealousy and relationships, there is a fear of loss involved.
Fear of loss can do some strange things to people.
I knew a girl who broke up with a guy, an abusive jerk in fact. 2 weeks later she found out he was dating someone else, so she uncharacteristically beat that girl up and went back with that guy.
I don't understand the logic, but emotions don't always make sense, do they?Why do people associate jealousy with relationships so often?
Jealousy naturally accompanies relationships because the mating game is highly competitive. We usually don't pair up randomly or indiscriminately. Most often, we compete with each other for a subset of the mates with the highest perceived fitness. Jealousy helps provide motivation to outdo the opposition and protect our mates once we've hooked them.
I'm not sure. I actually get jealous when my best friend hangs out with someone else haha or if my mom gives my brothers girlfriend alot of attention instead of me. or when the guy i like likes my friend.stupid, but jealousy is a human emotion that effects all different situations.
The main problem in a relationship is jealousy caused by your lover paying attention to a third person whom you see as a rival. That really causes your heart racing with rage and fear of losing your lover.
Because personal relationships are where jealousy is most often seen. When we open ourselves to others we feel vulnerable and this then reveals our insecurities.
There are so many issues people get jealous over - why are we not concerned as much about other issues?Why do people associate jealousy with relationships so often?
Jealousy, over time became synonymous with relationships.
Anything else it tends to called envy, even though Webster's defines it similar to jealousy along with an additional component.
I think because with jealousy and relationships, there is a fear of loss involved.
Fear of loss can do some strange things to people.
I knew a girl who broke up with a guy, an abusive jerk in fact. 2 weeks later she found out he was dating someone else, so she uncharacteristically beat that girl up and went back with that guy.
I don't understand the logic, but emotions don't always make sense, do they?Why do people associate jealousy with relationships so often?
Jealousy naturally accompanies relationships because the mating game is highly competitive. We usually don't pair up randomly or indiscriminately. Most often, we compete with each other for a subset of the mates with the highest perceived fitness. Jealousy helps provide motivation to outdo the opposition and protect our mates once we've hooked them.
I'm not sure. I actually get jealous when my best friend hangs out with someone else haha or if my mom gives my brothers girlfriend alot of attention instead of me. or when the guy i like likes my friend.stupid, but jealousy is a human emotion that effects all different situations.
The main problem in a relationship is jealousy caused by your lover paying attention to a third person whom you see as a rival. That really causes your heart racing with rage and fear of losing your lover.
Because personal relationships are where jealousy is most often seen. When we open ourselves to others we feel vulnerable and this then reveals our insecurities.
What influence does behaviour have on relationships between people with disabilities?
Does behaviour ...of a challenging nature... impact the development of relationships between people who experience disability? If so, can such behaviour work to strengthen bonds between people ...or does it simply inhibit relationships?What influence does behaviour have on relationships between people with disabilities?
It takes a kind of special person that can cope with some one that has a disability, and not have that I feel sorry for you because you have a disability.I order to really cope with it you have to be in it for the long haul because it will wear you down and put a strain on a relationship, I know for a fact because I have been a wheel chair now for over a year and I have heard my spouse say I wish he wasn't in the damn thing.What influence does behaviour have on relationships between people with disabilities?
I am not sure. I am still learning about this one. My brother, who is learning disabled, recently ran off and married a woman he met on the internet. I am still waiting to see how this is going to turn out. I would think that on his part it would strengthen it, but it could just as easily inhibit it. Especially if they have a difficulty understanding each other. You didn't mention whether you were talking about mental or physical disabilities.
well im in a wheel chair and i have had plenty of relationships in my life off of which are with normal men and its not once been a problem ive been married now for 6 years and my husband doent even think about the wheel chair. so i would say it makes no difference unless the handicapped person is opcest with it. and they are always puting a guilt trip on the other person.
in general terms, others may have pre-concieved notions that disabilities means being incapacitated in every sense of the word, not having the knowledge of the word itself. ignorance (w/ no fault in particular) can manifest into a dark underworld of denials.
one has to be open to the world of possibilities that disabilities doesnt simply inhibit relationships rather, it can and will enhance it once itself embrace and accept it. u ask a deep question........i like that!
I think behavior plays a key role in the development of a handicap person. I say this because my youngest son has Cystic Fibrosis, when we started out with a negative behavior ( like it was a tragedy happening to him) then we had a negative effect and he was more self conscious of having to do the things that help him survive. Although when we changed our attitude towards his disability to lets fight through this, and this is started doing all his treatments as just something that needs to be done, and we quit making a big deal out of it. He no longer has to stay in the hospital, and the effect it had on him rubbed of on the way he was treated by his peers. When we had the its no big deal attitude, so did his friends. And yes I do believe it does strengthen bonds between people.
Your question is confusing me
It takes a kind of special person that can cope with some one that has a disability, and not have that I feel sorry for you because you have a disability.I order to really cope with it you have to be in it for the long haul because it will wear you down and put a strain on a relationship, I know for a fact because I have been a wheel chair now for over a year and I have heard my spouse say I wish he wasn't in the damn thing.What influence does behaviour have on relationships between people with disabilities?
I am not sure. I am still learning about this one. My brother, who is learning disabled, recently ran off and married a woman he met on the internet. I am still waiting to see how this is going to turn out. I would think that on his part it would strengthen it, but it could just as easily inhibit it. Especially if they have a difficulty understanding each other. You didn't mention whether you were talking about mental or physical disabilities.
well im in a wheel chair and i have had plenty of relationships in my life off of which are with normal men and its not once been a problem ive been married now for 6 years and my husband doent even think about the wheel chair. so i would say it makes no difference unless the handicapped person is opcest with it. and they are always puting a guilt trip on the other person.
in general terms, others may have pre-concieved notions that disabilities means being incapacitated in every sense of the word, not having the knowledge of the word itself. ignorance (w/ no fault in particular) can manifest into a dark underworld of denials.
one has to be open to the world of possibilities that disabilities doesnt simply inhibit relationships rather, it can and will enhance it once itself embrace and accept it. u ask a deep question........i like that!
I think behavior plays a key role in the development of a handicap person. I say this because my youngest son has Cystic Fibrosis, when we started out with a negative behavior ( like it was a tragedy happening to him) then we had a negative effect and he was more self conscious of having to do the things that help him survive. Although when we changed our attitude towards his disability to lets fight through this, and this is started doing all his treatments as just something that needs to be done, and we quit making a big deal out of it. He no longer has to stay in the hospital, and the effect it had on him rubbed of on the way he was treated by his peers. When we had the its no big deal attitude, so did his friends. And yes I do believe it does strengthen bonds between people.
Your question is confusing me
What is the point of homosexual relationships?
The whole point to relationships is reproduction.
Heterosexual relationships are only good for keeping populations from dying out, and so homosexual relationships defeat the entire purpose of relationships altogether.What is the point of homosexual relationships?
There are so many answers before me, I'm sure that I wouldn't be able to add any new perspective to this...
...so I'll just say this. HAVE A WONDERFUL DAY! =PWhat is the point of homosexual relationships?
The first statement is where you are completely incorrect.
Relationships are not about reproduction. Many heterosexuals get married, and don't have children. The point of a relationship is loving someone for who they are. And infact, you should want the population of the world to die out. Why, because there are a limited amount of jobs, and forigners are going to be taking our jobs because the boss will have them work for less pay. Also, because with more people, more funding is needed. So that includes more taxes.
You are an ignorant homophobic bastard.
The point of them is to be happy with the person you love. Human society has turned from needing reproduction to needing a stable family, and if you can find happiness in being in a relationship with the same gender and maintain a good relationship as anyone else would, then you can't change, it's how you were born! Wouldn't that also mean that condoms and birth control were useless, and that children should be having sex underage to make children earlier? That seems sick to me, well, the second one, atleast. Besides, homosexuals CAN adopt and raise children. Sure, it doesn't bring someone new into the world, but it gives someone a home, isn't that all that matters? (completely pro-gay marriage)
The world is already overpopulated, so i don't think EVERY person in the world needs to have a child. And the whole point to relationships is not reproduction. If that's the case, why don't straight people just live in testing facilities and be breeders, and the rest of us will be living our lives. The point is, not everyone is parent material. Have you seen some of the airheads in relationships? Do you really think they should have kids? A guy who is a jock and wears hollister, and a dumb blonde who is a cheerleader and probably is a closet drinker. Oh yeah, their children would be wonderful. What about two druggies that are in a relationship? Should they have kids? You need to think about what your saying here. And what if man and woman could not make a kid? Would ALL sexual relationships be shunned at that point?
Wow, I bet you get lots of ladies into bed with that line. ';Hey baby, the whole point of a relationship is to reproduce. So come on up to my room and we'll get straight to the point.';
No, the point of a man ejaculating inside a woman is to reproduce. The point of a relationship is love, support, and affection, all of which humans need to properly survive. And you can get it from a man, OR a woman.
If everyone thought that way, our world would be even more overpopulated than it is already.
More famine, war, and pollution.
THE HUMAN POPULATION IS NOT DYING OUT.
What about sterile heterosexual couples? They can't reproduce, I'm sure you've heard that a thousand times, but do they not have the right to pair up?
the point of a homosexual relationship is this
THEY WANNA FREAKIN BE TOGETHER!! GEEZ!!!
duh! there dnt have to be a point to be with someone. If there is someone that likes you and you like them back and they wanna be with you and you wanna be with them.... what is there to do?????
BE WITH THEM
uhhh there is no point to a relationship....
the point of sex is to reproduce....
but since there is much entertainment in sex it can also be used as a general activity.
Since some people are attracted to the same sex it wouldn't make sense to say that the only point sex is to reproduce....besides...i believe condoms and birth control kill your logic.
your question is like asking ';what is the point of love?';
There are plenty of way to reproduce in the world now days, so you point is invalid. Its about who you are attracted to and who you love? Not about let me just go have kids to increase the world's population.
Just because we are gay doesn't mean that we don't want someone to spend the rest of our lives with. Relationships are more about having a companion and not so much as for reproduction. If that were true, why are half the pregnancies caused by one night stands?
I would say the point if looked at from a biological point of view is to stop the population from spiralling out of control.
However the real point which applies to all relationships, is one of love. Just love...
because everyone wants to have love in their life.. what the point of having heterosexual relations if you don't plan on having children, if the wife got her ovaries taken out or if the man got a lil snip snip and cant produce sperm anymore...
That is a complete load of rubbish. If all relationships are to you is a means to reproduce I feel very sorry for you. Haven't you ever heard of love, warmth, compassion etc? You must be a very sad person.
It's just who you go well with who you're attracted to and then you end up in a relationship with them. It isn't what you think over. It just is how you feel best comfortable in.
So...if the only point to relationships is reproduction, then infertile people should be single, and old couples should divorce.
Got it. I'll send out the memo immediately.
What is the point of you asking the question for a second time and just receiving the same answer over and over again?
If the whole point to relationships is reproduction, I really feel sorry for anyone who dates you.
It's nothing to do with a ';point';. It's whomever you are sexually attracted to. Not about gender, but about love.
The only reason straight couples have sex is to make babies?? Not because it feels so good or just because they love each other?? Who knew??
It's questions like this that make me wonder if the anti-queer crowd is really, really bad at sex and hate their partners.
Homosexuals are here not as a test of their virtue but rather as a test of yours on how well you treat your fellow man.
to ensure no more ignorant uneducated people like you EVER come into existance - again.
and guess what - it's working.
ha, what a sad life u must have if u think THATS the purpose of a relationship lol
YOU are so IGNORANT!
go back into the pickle bottle you pickled-brain @sswipe!
So what? Get over it
love and the need to share
i disagree, some people should not reproduce! lol! regardless
Boy, I bet your wife just LOVES you. LOL
i bet youre gay and in disguiseeye makeup pictures
Heterosexual relationships are only good for keeping populations from dying out, and so homosexual relationships defeat the entire purpose of relationships altogether.What is the point of homosexual relationships?
There are so many answers before me, I'm sure that I wouldn't be able to add any new perspective to this...
...so I'll just say this. HAVE A WONDERFUL DAY! =PWhat is the point of homosexual relationships?
The first statement is where you are completely incorrect.
Relationships are not about reproduction. Many heterosexuals get married, and don't have children. The point of a relationship is loving someone for who they are. And infact, you should want the population of the world to die out. Why, because there are a limited amount of jobs, and forigners are going to be taking our jobs because the boss will have them work for less pay. Also, because with more people, more funding is needed. So that includes more taxes.
You are an ignorant homophobic bastard.
The point of them is to be happy with the person you love. Human society has turned from needing reproduction to needing a stable family, and if you can find happiness in being in a relationship with the same gender and maintain a good relationship as anyone else would, then you can't change, it's how you were born! Wouldn't that also mean that condoms and birth control were useless, and that children should be having sex underage to make children earlier? That seems sick to me, well, the second one, atleast. Besides, homosexuals CAN adopt and raise children. Sure, it doesn't bring someone new into the world, but it gives someone a home, isn't that all that matters? (completely pro-gay marriage)
The world is already overpopulated, so i don't think EVERY person in the world needs to have a child. And the whole point to relationships is not reproduction. If that's the case, why don't straight people just live in testing facilities and be breeders, and the rest of us will be living our lives. The point is, not everyone is parent material. Have you seen some of the airheads in relationships? Do you really think they should have kids? A guy who is a jock and wears hollister, and a dumb blonde who is a cheerleader and probably is a closet drinker. Oh yeah, their children would be wonderful. What about two druggies that are in a relationship? Should they have kids? You need to think about what your saying here. And what if man and woman could not make a kid? Would ALL sexual relationships be shunned at that point?
Wow, I bet you get lots of ladies into bed with that line. ';Hey baby, the whole point of a relationship is to reproduce. So come on up to my room and we'll get straight to the point.';
No, the point of a man ejaculating inside a woman is to reproduce. The point of a relationship is love, support, and affection, all of which humans need to properly survive. And you can get it from a man, OR a woman.
If everyone thought that way, our world would be even more overpopulated than it is already.
More famine, war, and pollution.
THE HUMAN POPULATION IS NOT DYING OUT.
What about sterile heterosexual couples? They can't reproduce, I'm sure you've heard that a thousand times, but do they not have the right to pair up?
the point of a homosexual relationship is this
THEY WANNA FREAKIN BE TOGETHER!! GEEZ!!!
duh! there dnt have to be a point to be with someone. If there is someone that likes you and you like them back and they wanna be with you and you wanna be with them.... what is there to do?????
BE WITH THEM
uhhh there is no point to a relationship....
the point of sex is to reproduce....
but since there is much entertainment in sex it can also be used as a general activity.
Since some people are attracted to the same sex it wouldn't make sense to say that the only point sex is to reproduce....besides...i believe condoms and birth control kill your logic.
your question is like asking ';what is the point of love?';
There are plenty of way to reproduce in the world now days, so you point is invalid. Its about who you are attracted to and who you love? Not about let me just go have kids to increase the world's population.
Just because we are gay doesn't mean that we don't want someone to spend the rest of our lives with. Relationships are more about having a companion and not so much as for reproduction. If that were true, why are half the pregnancies caused by one night stands?
I would say the point if looked at from a biological point of view is to stop the population from spiralling out of control.
However the real point which applies to all relationships, is one of love. Just love...
because everyone wants to have love in their life.. what the point of having heterosexual relations if you don't plan on having children, if the wife got her ovaries taken out or if the man got a lil snip snip and cant produce sperm anymore...
That is a complete load of rubbish. If all relationships are to you is a means to reproduce I feel very sorry for you. Haven't you ever heard of love, warmth, compassion etc? You must be a very sad person.
It's just who you go well with who you're attracted to and then you end up in a relationship with them. It isn't what you think over. It just is how you feel best comfortable in.
So...if the only point to relationships is reproduction, then infertile people should be single, and old couples should divorce.
Got it. I'll send out the memo immediately.
What is the point of you asking the question for a second time and just receiving the same answer over and over again?
If the whole point to relationships is reproduction, I really feel sorry for anyone who dates you.
It's nothing to do with a ';point';. It's whomever you are sexually attracted to. Not about gender, but about love.
The only reason straight couples have sex is to make babies?? Not because it feels so good or just because they love each other?? Who knew??
It's questions like this that make me wonder if the anti-queer crowd is really, really bad at sex and hate their partners.
Homosexuals are here not as a test of their virtue but rather as a test of yours on how well you treat your fellow man.
to ensure no more ignorant uneducated people like you EVER come into existance - again.
and guess what - it's working.
ha, what a sad life u must have if u think THATS the purpose of a relationship lol
YOU are so IGNORANT!
go back into the pickle bottle you pickled-brain @sswipe!
So what? Get over it
love and the need to share
i disagree, some people should not reproduce! lol! regardless
Boy, I bet your wife just LOVES you. LOL
i bet youre gay and in disguise
How might living in foster homes positively impact a childs ability to build relationships with others?
How might living in foster homes positively impact a childs ability to build relationships with others?How might living in foster homes positively impact a childs ability to build relationships with others?
To trust nobody and be self-sufficientHow might living in foster homes positively impact a childs ability to build relationships with others?
Knowing that really no one wants them. Not having permanancy in their lives. Knowing that they can only depend on themselves. Knowing at a real early age, that adults can be idiots. Having adults lie to them all the time. Being labled at a young age as being defective. Moving around so much they are unable to have meaningful relationships. Having no one in your corner rooting for you. Not understanding the concept of unconditional live. Equating parental love with abuse. Oh yeah, all kids should be foster kids. Oh lets not forget, being booted out of a home when you are 18, with a couple hundred dollars and being told ';your on your own'; Ueah I get all warm and fuzzy inside think about that one.
They will learn to become more independent, but they will also learn to become more outgoing and be better at making new friends. (in some cases, anyway)
To trust nobody and be self-sufficientHow might living in foster homes positively impact a childs ability to build relationships with others?
Knowing that really no one wants them. Not having permanancy in their lives. Knowing that they can only depend on themselves. Knowing at a real early age, that adults can be idiots. Having adults lie to them all the time. Being labled at a young age as being defective. Moving around so much they are unable to have meaningful relationships. Having no one in your corner rooting for you. Not understanding the concept of unconditional live. Equating parental love with abuse. Oh yeah, all kids should be foster kids. Oh lets not forget, being booted out of a home when you are 18, with a couple hundred dollars and being told ';your on your own'; Ueah I get all warm and fuzzy inside think about that one.
They will learn to become more independent, but they will also learn to become more outgoing and be better at making new friends. (in some cases, anyway)
What are some other symbiotic relationships besides mutualism, commensalism, and parasitism?
Please verify your answer with several links.What are some other symbiotic relationships besides mutualism, commensalism, and parasitism?
There's ectosymbiosis, in which one organism lives on the surface (inner or outer) of another organism. Usually it's classified either as mutualistic or commensualistic. (1) (2)
Also there's endosymbiosis, in which one organism lives internally in another. (3) This could be the reason why some organisms evolved. (Lynn Margulis (4))
Also, there is the example of malaria (parasite) which forced the development of the sickle cell gene. As I'm sure you know, the population that was heterozygous for the gene could survive malaria, but was weakened by the single copy of the gene. (5) (6) Those with no sickle gene or who were homozygous died. I don't know if it has a different name than just parasitism.What are some other symbiotic relationships besides mutualism, commensalism, and parasitism?
I think that just about covers it. If you're a symbiont you can either help the host, harm them, or be indifferent. There isn't much else in between.
There's ectosymbiosis, in which one organism lives on the surface (inner or outer) of another organism. Usually it's classified either as mutualistic or commensualistic. (1) (2)
Also there's endosymbiosis, in which one organism lives internally in another. (3) This could be the reason why some organisms evolved. (Lynn Margulis (4))
Also, there is the example of malaria (parasite) which forced the development of the sickle cell gene. As I'm sure you know, the population that was heterozygous for the gene could survive malaria, but was weakened by the single copy of the gene. (5) (6) Those with no sickle gene or who were homozygous died. I don't know if it has a different name than just parasitism.What are some other symbiotic relationships besides mutualism, commensalism, and parasitism?
I think that just about covers it. If you're a symbiont you can either help the host, harm them, or be indifferent. There isn't much else in between.
Why is the consideration of relationships important in the study of interpersonal communication?
What is the importance of knowing the stages of relational development and deterioration to the student of interpersonal communications?
What are the advantages and disadvantages to having interpersonal relationships?
What is the advantage of considering relational violence in a study of interpersonal communicationWhy is the consideration of relationships important in the study of interpersonal communication?
This e-book is free to download and I really think you should read it. It's called 97 steps to a happy relationship. Check it out!
What are the advantages and disadvantages to having interpersonal relationships?
What is the advantage of considering relational violence in a study of interpersonal communicationWhy is the consideration of relationships important in the study of interpersonal communication?
This e-book is free to download and I really think you should read it. It's called 97 steps to a happy relationship. Check it out!
Why is the consideration of relationships important in the study of interpersonal communication?
What is the importance of knowing the stages of relational development and deterioration to the student of interpersonal communications?
What are the advantages and disadvantages to having interpersonal relationships?
What is the advantage of considering relational violence in a study of interpersonal communicationWhy is the consideration of relationships important in the study of interpersonal communication?
This e-book is free to download and I really think you should read it. It's called 97 steps to a happy relationship. Check it out!
What are the advantages and disadvantages to having interpersonal relationships?
What is the advantage of considering relational violence in a study of interpersonal communicationWhy is the consideration of relationships important in the study of interpersonal communication?
This e-book is free to download and I really think you should read it. It's called 97 steps to a happy relationship. Check it out!
Can birth order effect your relationships with people?
I've noticed that oldest child or only child people are more bossy. Then the younger tends to be more self centered and impulsive and the middle child goes with the flow.
Are these true observations and why?Can birth order effect your relationships with people?
Birth order influences personality, and your personality affects your relationships. There are a lot of variables to consider, however -- particularly age gaps and being raised in the same environment.
You'll find the following web sites of interest.
Are these true observations and why?Can birth order effect your relationships with people?
Birth order influences personality, and your personality affects your relationships. There are a lot of variables to consider, however -- particularly age gaps and being raised in the same environment.
You'll find the following web sites of interest.
Is it true that Swedish girls are excessively liberal in their attitudes towards relationships?
I keep hearing this from some British friends I have. Maybe some Europeans could help me out as I've never been to Sweden myself and thus all I have is hearsay. Thank you.Is it true that Swedish girls are excessively liberal in their attitudes towards relationships?
That kinda depends from person to personIs it true that Swedish girls are excessively liberal in their attitudes towards relationships?
Swedish in general, are more mature about sexuality than people in our country. Their laws reflect their open nature.
P.S. Always use protection....eye makeup pictures
That kinda depends from person to personIs it true that Swedish girls are excessively liberal in their attitudes towards relationships?
Swedish in general, are more mature about sexuality than people in our country. Their laws reflect their open nature.
P.S. Always use protection....
Who in the public eye has spoken out about immigration and/or interracial relationships?
I know of Bridget Bordot but that's about all i can think of.Who in the public eye has spoken out about immigration and/or interracial relationships?
All the pre-Mandela leaders of South Africa.
All the pre-Mandela leaders of South Africa.
What is the importance of relationships in your life?
I don't mean to get into peoples' business or offend anyone. I have to write an essay which I have to interview many people. I'd appreciate it if you would answer this question. ThanksWhat is the importance of relationships in your life?
Nobody Lives Alone and Exist Alone in the world,even in heavens,God is not alone,he has angels and messengers he has of course relationship with them. Imagine living Alone in a Solitary world.
As the popular saying says ';nobody is an island';...Relationships are needed for us to exist as part of being created being.To show who we are.Is not it,in order for us to know who we are We Need a Mirror?
Relationship are Mirrors to ourselves to get to know who we are.What is the importance of relationships in your life?
my reality XP! haha haha haha unique and amazing stories.
no money to survive but die die die must help the good for nothing Singapore Government Doggies to survive and her useless people in the country.
be a government informer of your partner even u know no money to survive and full of shlt DEBTS! hahaa haha
e.g. HDB resales 30 years leasehold are one of them from my ideas not doggies. if their ideas, why so LATE? haha hahaha hahaa
What kind of relationships? Lover/partner or friends? Siblings? Different types of relationships have different kinds of importance. Please clarify.
they exist to remind you once in a while that you still belong to the SAME world as theirs.
Nobody Lives Alone and Exist Alone in the world,even in heavens,God is not alone,he has angels and messengers he has of course relationship with them. Imagine living Alone in a Solitary world.
As the popular saying says ';nobody is an island';...Relationships are needed for us to exist as part of being created being.To show who we are.Is not it,in order for us to know who we are We Need a Mirror?
Relationship are Mirrors to ourselves to get to know who we are.What is the importance of relationships in your life?
my reality XP! haha haha haha unique and amazing stories.
no money to survive but die die die must help the good for nothing Singapore Government Doggies to survive and her useless people in the country.
be a government informer of your partner even u know no money to survive and full of shlt DEBTS! hahaa haha
e.g. HDB resales 30 years leasehold are one of them from my ideas not doggies. if their ideas, why so LATE? haha hahaha hahaa
What kind of relationships? Lover/partner or friends? Siblings? Different types of relationships have different kinds of importance. Please clarify.
they exist to remind you once in a while that you still belong to the SAME world as theirs.
Is it true that great relationships are often built on great friendships?
Many people say that a lot of great relationships are often built on great friendships. Would you agree with this assessment? If so, why? If not, why not?
All advice and opinion are welcome. Thank you so much in advance.Is it true that great relationships are often built on great friendships?
Yes that statement is true to a point.
I feel you cant get sucked into a good friendship before a relationship though. At the beginning there has to be that friendship that builds, whereas a great friendship that blossoms into a relationship can just put a lot of pressure on both parties.
For example.. when first dating a girl, i make it a point for her not to divulge her entire life to me, i dont want to become someone she can vent too, but as things start to build, that understanding there can defenitley start to be more opening up on both parties.Is it true that great relationships are often built on great friendships?
Some may say that a great relationship is built on great friendship, while others disagree, because in reality it rarely happens and you don't quite see it. My opinion is just that I think it's best that all relationships tend to work out, because of such great friendship with that someone. Then other times I think the relationship will fall apart due to not wanting to lose a good friendship, so i'm in the no-win situation, just in the middle of both.
I can't say for sure from personal experience and am definitely hoping it is true (see my question: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AnZ3xvMA3Hlp.q8Ti06jyyjsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20090830130706AAjAWDC ) However, judging from my closest friends, including the one I've fallen for, it has been true. There will always be cases for scenarios each way (Built off great friendship and built from scratch) but its all about the people and whether they could fall for a close friend
all i can say is not in high school, high school gfs are abt showing how bad *** YOU are, not about relationships
All advice and opinion are welcome. Thank you so much in advance.Is it true that great relationships are often built on great friendships?
Yes that statement is true to a point.
I feel you cant get sucked into a good friendship before a relationship though. At the beginning there has to be that friendship that builds, whereas a great friendship that blossoms into a relationship can just put a lot of pressure on both parties.
For example.. when first dating a girl, i make it a point for her not to divulge her entire life to me, i dont want to become someone she can vent too, but as things start to build, that understanding there can defenitley start to be more opening up on both parties.Is it true that great relationships are often built on great friendships?
Some may say that a great relationship is built on great friendship, while others disagree, because in reality it rarely happens and you don't quite see it. My opinion is just that I think it's best that all relationships tend to work out, because of such great friendship with that someone. Then other times I think the relationship will fall apart due to not wanting to lose a good friendship, so i'm in the no-win situation, just in the middle of both.
I can't say for sure from personal experience and am definitely hoping it is true (see my question: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AnZ3xvMA3Hlp.q8Ti06jyyjsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20090830130706AAjAWDC ) However, judging from my closest friends, including the one I've fallen for, it has been true. There will always be cases for scenarios each way (Built off great friendship and built from scratch) but its all about the people and whether they could fall for a close friend
all i can say is not in high school, high school gfs are abt showing how bad *** YOU are, not about relationships
How often does a romantic relationships between friends work out?
That is a REALLY difficult question, and there really is no way to determine the actual number of relationships that work out. I, however, was best friends with a guy for 2 years, he was great and listened about all my boyfriends etc. etc. We started dating and have been together for over 2 years with no plans on breaking up. It can be a very good thing, but it only works for certain types of friends... if you give me specifics i might be able to give you a better opinion.How often does a romantic relationships between friends work out?
well it really does matter how old you are and how serious the relationship will get. I am about to marry my best friend so I am a pretty big supporter. BUT I know not all people work out, some people are just mean't to be friends. I knew right away i was going to be with him for the rest of my life.
The second I realized I had feelings for him I knew he was it.
The older you are the more mature you are about the relationship, the less you take it for granted.
How often does a romantic relationships between friends work out?
hmm.... im going thur this right now. it can and does happen. just be careful! make sure of these things before you do anything: 1- make sure the person likes you the same way 2-make sure they dnt like your best frined or anyone else for that matter, because if they end up going out, u will most likley be the one they coe to for relationship advice. been there, done that.... long story short: not fun! and lastly make sure that you have a really close frinedshhip with this person. if you have knon eachother for at least a couple months to a year, it can toally work. but only a few weeks, it's possible. again, be cautious, because if you dnt flirt even a litle, they might fall for someone else because thye dnt know how you feel. again, been there done that. well, good luck! and remeber, there's always hope. it can and will work if you fight for what you know can complete you. best of luck! -- Mer Mer
My ex ex and me were best friends before we went out. And my current girlfriend and me were best friends before we went out. It is good. I just think relationships depend on much OTHER things for them to 'work out.'
its working wonderfully for me, and its long distance. were both 16, and were going on 5 months :) it works if youre determined :)
6 out of ten
50% of the time
aka friends with benefits.... not that long
its okay.. because you know already how he is like
id prolly rate it about 3 out of 10
well it really does matter how old you are and how serious the relationship will get. I am about to marry my best friend so I am a pretty big supporter. BUT I know not all people work out, some people are just mean't to be friends. I knew right away i was going to be with him for the rest of my life.
The second I realized I had feelings for him I knew he was it.
The older you are the more mature you are about the relationship, the less you take it for granted.
How often does a romantic relationships between friends work out?
hmm.... im going thur this right now. it can and does happen. just be careful! make sure of these things before you do anything: 1- make sure the person likes you the same way 2-make sure they dnt like your best frined or anyone else for that matter, because if they end up going out, u will most likley be the one they coe to for relationship advice. been there, done that.... long story short: not fun! and lastly make sure that you have a really close frinedshhip with this person. if you have knon eachother for at least a couple months to a year, it can toally work. but only a few weeks, it's possible. again, be cautious, because if you dnt flirt even a litle, they might fall for someone else because thye dnt know how you feel. again, been there done that. well, good luck! and remeber, there's always hope. it can and will work if you fight for what you know can complete you. best of luck! -- Mer Mer
My ex ex and me were best friends before we went out. And my current girlfriend and me were best friends before we went out. It is good. I just think relationships depend on much OTHER things for them to 'work out.'
its working wonderfully for me, and its long distance. were both 16, and were going on 5 months :) it works if youre determined :)
6 out of ten
50% of the time
aka friends with benefits.... not that long
its okay.. because you know already how he is like
id prolly rate it about 3 out of 10
Why is it okay for straight people to be grossed out by gay relationships, but not the opposite situation?
I hear tons of straight people saying that they are ';grossed out'; by gay relationships and the idea of two men/two women kissing, and it's considered generally acceptable. But when a gay person says they are grossed out by the idea of a man kissing a woman, they are labelled as an intolerant heterophobe.
Have you experienced this?Why is it okay for straight people to be grossed out by gay relationships, but not the opposite situation?
Nope, but I'm in favor of everybody kissing everybody elseWhy is it okay for straight people to be grossed out by gay relationships, but not the opposite situation?
it's a double standard like Why? (Cry Havoc)[Play Havoc] said.
i think it's also because some people aren't used to seeing it..heterosexual relationships have been around longer and i think they've advanced to the point where people are used to seeing it. now they think nothing of seeing a few heterosexual sex scenes (or implied sex scenes) in a movie.
i'm not sure where i'm going with that point, and i could be wrong, but i'm not sure.
yes, i've experienced it, some guys called me and a past girlfriend dykes for hugging after school once.
but i've also experienced the vice-versa version (if that's what you'd call it): as in, i had a friend attack me and call me ashamed of my sexuality and (previous) relationship for not wanting to kiss my girlfriend in public.
even if i were straight, i wouldn't participate in PDA. i don't feel comfortable with it at all.
i'm not sure how to end this..so..yeah.
I don't have a problem with people who are homosexual unless they are (1) Trying to come on to me or (2) Trying to come on to my family.
I am grossed out by gay relationships, but I won't make it an issue because people are free to do what they want and think what they want.
Therefore, the same should apply to any group, including gay people. If they are grossed out by straight relationships, let them be as it is their opinion.
I have an issue when someone of either orientation starts labeling others ';homophobe'; or ';hesterphobe'; because that is forcing an opinion. That is wrong.
I have been called a homophobe because I do not agree with homosexuality, and it irritated me because I do not force my own opinion like that.
I don't like either.
People should be able to date whoever they want to date, without condemnation from from their surroundings.
..Of course, I think it is very understandable if a straight person says *they* would be grossed out by doing stuff with a person of the same gender. Same goes for gay people being grossed out about doing stuff with a person of the opposite gender. That is all okay!
..But there is a huge difference between saying: ';*I* would never want to do that';, and ';Ugggggh, YOU people are all disgusting for doing it!!!';. ..If you see what I'm getting at.
If you don't want anal sex, that is fine, you don't have to participate in it. But at the same time, you should not condemn other people for doing it if THEY want to!
Whose rules are you playing by here, T.S. Badass?
It's OK for anybody to be ';grossed out'; by anything they want, but other people have no obligation to respect their prejudices.
I've heard people say they were grossed out by eating yougurt, seeing fat people, riding a bus, and all kinds of other things that don't bother most of us, but that doesn't mean anybody else needs to agree with them or feel bad about whatever is bothering them.
If you're grossed out at the idea that I kiss women (or men), you're within your rights, but that isn't going to make me stop doing it.
It's ok for LGBT people to say they are grossed out by straight relationships, but because we're LGBT, our opinion isn't as scarring. They often look down on us, so they don't take it to heart. It only hurts to hear something like that when it's from somewhere you care about, or rather, someone whose opinion you care about.
Most people have even str8 ppl by their str8 friends, some people are prudes, some don't give two hoots who your kissing, but we really need to break down the ';Us'; versus ';Them'; thinking.
Everyone has a purpose and it is not making more babies for our overpopulated planet.. %26lt;- if people can agree on that then its a start.
Very good point. Very, very good point :-) Thank you for raising this. I've noticed that too.
It's like they immediately think we should think like them come hell or high water. It's okay for them to be all eeewwww yuk to us but have this need for us to be all hunky dory with them.
These people minds you can't change, though.
I don't understand straight people. I just can't see myself ever being with the opposite sex. I just can't fathom that being attractive or feeling good.
Uh, Kinda?
Double standards are double standards, We have them everywhere, Now just to get rid of them.
I KNOW HOW YA FEEL SISTA!
peace :P
But seriously, that's so messed up, calling our love gross and theirs is just fine to be shoved into our faces.
yes... i tell my mother that all the time,,, eewww!
yea.eye makeup pictures
Have you experienced this?Why is it okay for straight people to be grossed out by gay relationships, but not the opposite situation?
Nope, but I'm in favor of everybody kissing everybody elseWhy is it okay for straight people to be grossed out by gay relationships, but not the opposite situation?
it's a double standard like Why? (Cry Havoc)[Play Havoc] said.
i think it's also because some people aren't used to seeing it..heterosexual relationships have been around longer and i think they've advanced to the point where people are used to seeing it. now they think nothing of seeing a few heterosexual sex scenes (or implied sex scenes) in a movie.
i'm not sure where i'm going with that point, and i could be wrong, but i'm not sure.
yes, i've experienced it, some guys called me and a past girlfriend dykes for hugging after school once.
but i've also experienced the vice-versa version (if that's what you'd call it): as in, i had a friend attack me and call me ashamed of my sexuality and (previous) relationship for not wanting to kiss my girlfriend in public.
even if i were straight, i wouldn't participate in PDA. i don't feel comfortable with it at all.
i'm not sure how to end this..so..yeah.
I don't have a problem with people who are homosexual unless they are (1) Trying to come on to me or (2) Trying to come on to my family.
I am grossed out by gay relationships, but I won't make it an issue because people are free to do what they want and think what they want.
Therefore, the same should apply to any group, including gay people. If they are grossed out by straight relationships, let them be as it is their opinion.
I have an issue when someone of either orientation starts labeling others ';homophobe'; or ';hesterphobe'; because that is forcing an opinion. That is wrong.
I have been called a homophobe because I do not agree with homosexuality, and it irritated me because I do not force my own opinion like that.
I don't like either.
People should be able to date whoever they want to date, without condemnation from from their surroundings.
..Of course, I think it is very understandable if a straight person says *they* would be grossed out by doing stuff with a person of the same gender. Same goes for gay people being grossed out about doing stuff with a person of the opposite gender. That is all okay!
..But there is a huge difference between saying: ';*I* would never want to do that';, and ';Ugggggh, YOU people are all disgusting for doing it!!!';. ..If you see what I'm getting at.
If you don't want anal sex, that is fine, you don't have to participate in it. But at the same time, you should not condemn other people for doing it if THEY want to!
Whose rules are you playing by here, T.S. Badass?
It's OK for anybody to be ';grossed out'; by anything they want, but other people have no obligation to respect their prejudices.
I've heard people say they were grossed out by eating yougurt, seeing fat people, riding a bus, and all kinds of other things that don't bother most of us, but that doesn't mean anybody else needs to agree with them or feel bad about whatever is bothering them.
If you're grossed out at the idea that I kiss women (or men), you're within your rights, but that isn't going to make me stop doing it.
It's ok for LGBT people to say they are grossed out by straight relationships, but because we're LGBT, our opinion isn't as scarring. They often look down on us, so they don't take it to heart. It only hurts to hear something like that when it's from somewhere you care about, or rather, someone whose opinion you care about.
Most people have even str8 ppl by their str8 friends, some people are prudes, some don't give two hoots who your kissing, but we really need to break down the ';Us'; versus ';Them'; thinking.
Everyone has a purpose and it is not making more babies for our overpopulated planet.. %26lt;- if people can agree on that then its a start.
Very good point. Very, very good point :-) Thank you for raising this. I've noticed that too.
It's like they immediately think we should think like them come hell or high water. It's okay for them to be all eeewwww yuk to us but have this need for us to be all hunky dory with them.
These people minds you can't change, though.
I don't understand straight people. I just can't see myself ever being with the opposite sex. I just can't fathom that being attractive or feeling good.
Uh, Kinda?
Double standards are double standards, We have them everywhere, Now just to get rid of them.
I KNOW HOW YA FEEL SISTA!
peace :P
But seriously, that's so messed up, calling our love gross and theirs is just fine to be shoved into our faces.
yes... i tell my mother that all the time,,, eewww!
yea.
How family relationships affect one's approach to other relationships?
That's the topic that I have to do my research on. I can also choose a similar topic - ';How family relationships affect one's sense of self';. So basically, I'd like to learn about the psychology of relationships between parents and their children and between siblings.
At any rate, can you guys suggest any reading material like website, magazine, journal, or book that I can use to conduct my research? I would greatly appreciate it.How family relationships affect one's approach to other relationships?
Any of:
http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?i鈥?/a>
At any rate, can you guys suggest any reading material like website, magazine, journal, or book that I can use to conduct my research? I would greatly appreciate it.How family relationships affect one's approach to other relationships?
Any of:
http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?i鈥?/a>
Why are girls in abusive relationships afraid to leave their boyfriends?
I'm writing a story about a girl who is with an abusive boyfriend, but I can't think of too many reasons why girl would be afraid to leave a guy with such bad behavior. What are some real reasons girls don't leave right away? And what are some signs of a potentially or abusive boyfriend? Thanks guys, I really appreciate the help.Why are girls in abusive relationships afraid to leave their boyfriends?
I was in a really bad relationship before.. Abusive mentally and semi physically.. and there are a few reasons why I stayed as long as I did.
One being the fact that we have a child together. I wanted to work things out for our son's sake.
Second being that he was abusive to the point where I did not have a job, he would not allow me to work, and I did not have the finances to just walk out.
Third being that I honestly loved him and believed him when he said he would change,
and the Fourth and final reason why I stayed was I did not want to be alone. It took finding another man to finally push me to take that step out of the relationship.Why are girls in abusive relationships afraid to leave their boyfriends?
and some believe that when they hit them the first time and they get over it and say sorry, they believe that they wont do it again.. the boyfriend makes them feel guilty and like its there fault so they dont feel as if they need to leave.
They believe no one else would want them.
They love them.....and therefore forgive them.
The guy has tore down her self esteem so only they give them what they need.
She is dependant on him for drugs, etc.
She believes he'll get better.
She keeps hoping he'll change and doesn't want to left him before it happens. She also gets used to it, it's a part of her reality and she feel like she needs him.
Because girls are afraid their boyfriends will find them and do somethin real bad to them.
people who are very demanding or overprotective can be potentially abusive.
They don't believe they'll be able to get a real boyfriend so they feel stuck. And they just plain outright are scared of their boyfriend.
insecurities, low self esteem issues, fear, self loathing..
cuz dey feel dey r nt gud enuf for a better boyfren ,or for sum reason dey r still madly in love wif dem
look up stockhome syndrome...
1. Does your partner tease you in a hurtful way in private or in public?
2. Does your partner call you names such as ';stupid'; or ';*****';?
3. Does your partner act jealous of your friends, family, or co-workers?
4. Does your partner get angry about clothes you wear or how you style your hair?
5. Does your partner check-up on you by calling, driving by, or getting someone else to?
6. Has your partner gone places with you or sent someone just to ';keep an eye on you';?
7. Does your partner insist on knowing who you talk with on the phone?
8. Does your partner blame you for his problems or his bad mood?
9. Does your partner get angry so easily that you feel like you're ';walking on eggshells';?
10. Does your partner hit walls, drive dangerously, or do other things to scare you?
11. Does your partner often drink or use drugs?
12. Does your partner insist that you drink or use drugs with him?
13. Have you lost friends or no longer see some of your family because of your partner?
14. Does your partner accuse you of being interested in someone else?
15. Does your partner read your mail, go through your purse, or other personal papers?
16. Does your partner keep money from you, keep you in debt, or have ';money secrets?';
17. Has your partner kept you from getting a job, or caused you to lose a job?
18. Has your partner sold your car, made you give up your license, or not repaired your car?
19. Does your partner threaten to hurt you, your children, family, friends, or pets?
20. Does your partner force you to have sex when you do not want to?
21. Does your partner force you to have sex in ways that you do not want to?
22. Does your partner threaten to kill you or himself if you leave?
23. Is your partner like ';Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde,'; acting one way in front of other people and another way when you are alone?
For more information, see www.health-first.org
If you answered yes to one or more of these questions, then you may be at risk for domestic violence. Seek assistance from National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 (www.ndvh.org)
I was in a really bad relationship before.. Abusive mentally and semi physically.. and there are a few reasons why I stayed as long as I did.
One being the fact that we have a child together. I wanted to work things out for our son's sake.
Second being that he was abusive to the point where I did not have a job, he would not allow me to work, and I did not have the finances to just walk out.
Third being that I honestly loved him and believed him when he said he would change,
and the Fourth and final reason why I stayed was I did not want to be alone. It took finding another man to finally push me to take that step out of the relationship.Why are girls in abusive relationships afraid to leave their boyfriends?
and some believe that when they hit them the first time and they get over it and say sorry, they believe that they wont do it again.. the boyfriend makes them feel guilty and like its there fault so they dont feel as if they need to leave.
They believe no one else would want them.
They love them.....and therefore forgive them.
The guy has tore down her self esteem so only they give them what they need.
She is dependant on him for drugs, etc.
She believes he'll get better.
She keeps hoping he'll change and doesn't want to left him before it happens. She also gets used to it, it's a part of her reality and she feel like she needs him.
Because girls are afraid their boyfriends will find them and do somethin real bad to them.
people who are very demanding or overprotective can be potentially abusive.
They don't believe they'll be able to get a real boyfriend so they feel stuck. And they just plain outright are scared of their boyfriend.
insecurities, low self esteem issues, fear, self loathing..
cuz dey feel dey r nt gud enuf for a better boyfren ,or for sum reason dey r still madly in love wif dem
look up stockhome syndrome...
1. Does your partner tease you in a hurtful way in private or in public?
2. Does your partner call you names such as ';stupid'; or ';*****';?
3. Does your partner act jealous of your friends, family, or co-workers?
4. Does your partner get angry about clothes you wear or how you style your hair?
5. Does your partner check-up on you by calling, driving by, or getting someone else to?
6. Has your partner gone places with you or sent someone just to ';keep an eye on you';?
7. Does your partner insist on knowing who you talk with on the phone?
8. Does your partner blame you for his problems or his bad mood?
9. Does your partner get angry so easily that you feel like you're ';walking on eggshells';?
10. Does your partner hit walls, drive dangerously, or do other things to scare you?
11. Does your partner often drink or use drugs?
12. Does your partner insist that you drink or use drugs with him?
13. Have you lost friends or no longer see some of your family because of your partner?
14. Does your partner accuse you of being interested in someone else?
15. Does your partner read your mail, go through your purse, or other personal papers?
16. Does your partner keep money from you, keep you in debt, or have ';money secrets?';
17. Has your partner kept you from getting a job, or caused you to lose a job?
18. Has your partner sold your car, made you give up your license, or not repaired your car?
19. Does your partner threaten to hurt you, your children, family, friends, or pets?
20. Does your partner force you to have sex when you do not want to?
21. Does your partner force you to have sex in ways that you do not want to?
22. Does your partner threaten to kill you or himself if you leave?
23. Is your partner like ';Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde,'; acting one way in front of other people and another way when you are alone?
For more information, see www.health-first.org
If you answered yes to one or more of these questions, then you may be at risk for domestic violence. Seek assistance from National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 (www.ndvh.org)
How to make long distance relationships easier?
How can i make my long distance relationship easier? It's so hard and so painful at times. Especially when it seems like the other person is having an easier time.How to make long distance relationships easier?
They are tough, and unfortunately, more times than not, they fail. Since your still committed to trying, you can try ';care packages';. Just basically mail a shoebox full of stuff that she really digs. You can send an old school letter, as opposed to email. Just mix it up as best you can. Good luck.How to make long distance relationships easier?
it's the worst possible type of relationship. i had 1 year of LTR and then one day he tells me that he doesn't love me anymore. that waiting does not seem like a reasonable thing to do
but i think about him every damned day... and i have no idea when i can move on (or when i will want to move on)
because i still haven't located the OFF button for my love for him :/
but to really make it easier - get busy. start working, go to courses (not boring ones though), eliminate free time. don't hang around doing nothing, kick happy couples in the stomach for being vulgar and cuddling while you're around and other things like that. but most of all the time planning - if you have stressful job, it will lead to not thinking about your significant other like a psychomaniac
I know how you feel, it does get hard and heartbreaking at times. You have to really look into it. Ask yourself, is this person really worth the pain? If so, then talk to them about this, communicate more, perhaps move closer if that is possible. If not, then maybe you should just let them go, and move on.
Good luck!
I think you should tell him him/her to vist you or you could either go visit or move with him/her.
be loyal, loving and caring. nothingelse u have to do to make yr relationship lasts forever, but u have to get ready/prepare for it honestly first. as the other one is far away, keep in contact. talk through phone, messenger, pc-pc and keep send sms to let the person know how much u love and care.
use these urls to keep the relationship alive:
http://www.oovoo.com
http://www.justvoip.com
http://www.paltalk.com
lots of free sms service available now, just search in google.
all the best!
Long distance relationships can work, but they're a lot more work than you may realize. It will never be easy. If you want closeness, you obviously can't get it from someone who lives far away. If you really love this person, you should move closer to. Otherwise, you'll be more lonely than you can ever imagine.
my sister was in a long dstance relationship when she met her bf she got through it and they now live together
If you havent been together long, I wouldnt even try.
If they sound like there having a good time. They probably are.... :/
If its a longer realtionship and you really have feelings for eachother.
Just talk to them everyday!
Maybe send them some pictures or cute short notes sometimes.
Still think of the little things.
Maybe they will to.
Maybe they have a webcam that would be nice.
move to where he/she is
I have spent 3 years in a long distance relationship. Now we have lived together for 2. You just need to find alot that you guys can talk about. We would talk on the computer alot and the phone. Just make sure that you guys have an understanding that some times the other one wants to do stuff and that they aren't trying to be mean. Just some times it is nice to get out of the house. Save money for plane tickets. Just be thoughtful of one another also.
dont have one!!!! duh
I understand what you're going through. My boyfriend and I have been going to different schools and I've always felt that he was taking the distance a lot easier than I was. We have made a few adjustments and are about to celebrate 4 years together! Have daily conversations. Communication is essential in any kind of relationship, especially long distance ones. Try and have a good conversation each day, whether it be 15 minutes long or 3 hours long. Invest in a web cam if you don't have one and have some of your conversation via video chat. I use skype...just seeing the person helps a lot. Try extra hard not to get into fights, its makes things so much worse. Be positive. If you feel like you two can do this, then there is nothing stopping you. Good luck and I really hope this helps.
I love a girl but she lives in New Mexico and I live in California. She says she loves me to, but i really wish i could see her. I guess talking on the phone helps, cause you get to talk to her everyday. but yeah, i dont know how to make it easier. hope it goes well between you two.
yeah, I've been in a similar situation for a while now - we were together for 2 years and now a year and a half hundreds of miles apart. Skype is a lifesaver - great to chat face-to-face every now and then.
Ultimately, things will settle only as you learn to trust each other more. It hurt me intensely the first time she had to go. Even when you're willing to say you trust somebody completely, it's only time together and time apart that will really help you to understand how you feel. She's just on the bus home right now, which isn't easy for me - but it's something I'm also strangely comfortable with, simply because we know each other better than anybody. I'm not worried about her, and she's not worried about me. It's just time to tick away, and it goes faster than you'd ever be willing to believe.
just have you meet this person once and a while.
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
Every night phone calls help. Also, email each other daily about your day. It worked for me. Long distant for 6 months, then married her.
They are too painful for my heart. Too unhealthy.
I know exactly what you mean. Every time I talk to him I can tell that he is having an easier time.
It does hurt a lot but I can't give up
never give up on eachother ! Talk constantly and always know they love you
i dont think there is a way to make it easier. sorry to say this but i dont think it would work. what can you do in long distance relationships? talk on the phone, myspace. allll boring. but thats just my opinion.
always know that you will be together sometime and tell her that
LOTS OF COMMUNICATION
availability
if u can call him/her anytime and talk for longer then 10-15 min then its all good
visit often
talk to eachother as much as possible and try to make an arrangement for when you two can meet up and be together. It gives you guys something to look forward to.
maybe get webcams?
regular visits.
regular phone convos.
basically they suck..
Love each other unconditionally is the best advice
Move closer.
Trust each other, and think whether you really need it! I DO believe that this kind of relationship can work out, but one has to try hard! Talk to each other, chat, send NORMAL letters not e-mails. It'll make it easier!
short distance
They are tough, and unfortunately, more times than not, they fail. Since your still committed to trying, you can try ';care packages';. Just basically mail a shoebox full of stuff that she really digs. You can send an old school letter, as opposed to email. Just mix it up as best you can. Good luck.How to make long distance relationships easier?
it's the worst possible type of relationship. i had 1 year of LTR and then one day he tells me that he doesn't love me anymore. that waiting does not seem like a reasonable thing to do
but i think about him every damned day... and i have no idea when i can move on (or when i will want to move on)
because i still haven't located the OFF button for my love for him :/
but to really make it easier - get busy. start working, go to courses (not boring ones though), eliminate free time. don't hang around doing nothing, kick happy couples in the stomach for being vulgar and cuddling while you're around and other things like that. but most of all the time planning - if you have stressful job, it will lead to not thinking about your significant other like a psychomaniac
I know how you feel, it does get hard and heartbreaking at times. You have to really look into it. Ask yourself, is this person really worth the pain? If so, then talk to them about this, communicate more, perhaps move closer if that is possible. If not, then maybe you should just let them go, and move on.
Good luck!
I think you should tell him him/her to vist you or you could either go visit or move with him/her.
be loyal, loving and caring. nothingelse u have to do to make yr relationship lasts forever, but u have to get ready/prepare for it honestly first. as the other one is far away, keep in contact. talk through phone, messenger, pc-pc and keep send sms to let the person know how much u love and care.
use these urls to keep the relationship alive:
http://www.oovoo.com
http://www.justvoip.com
http://www.paltalk.com
lots of free sms service available now, just search in google.
all the best!
Long distance relationships can work, but they're a lot more work than you may realize. It will never be easy. If you want closeness, you obviously can't get it from someone who lives far away. If you really love this person, you should move closer to. Otherwise, you'll be more lonely than you can ever imagine.
my sister was in a long dstance relationship when she met her bf she got through it and they now live together
If you havent been together long, I wouldnt even try.
If they sound like there having a good time. They probably are.... :/
If its a longer realtionship and you really have feelings for eachother.
Just talk to them everyday!
Maybe send them some pictures or cute short notes sometimes.
Still think of the little things.
Maybe they will to.
Maybe they have a webcam that would be nice.
move to where he/she is
I have spent 3 years in a long distance relationship. Now we have lived together for 2. You just need to find alot that you guys can talk about. We would talk on the computer alot and the phone. Just make sure that you guys have an understanding that some times the other one wants to do stuff and that they aren't trying to be mean. Just some times it is nice to get out of the house. Save money for plane tickets. Just be thoughtful of one another also.
dont have one!!!! duh
I understand what you're going through. My boyfriend and I have been going to different schools and I've always felt that he was taking the distance a lot easier than I was. We have made a few adjustments and are about to celebrate 4 years together! Have daily conversations. Communication is essential in any kind of relationship, especially long distance ones. Try and have a good conversation each day, whether it be 15 minutes long or 3 hours long. Invest in a web cam if you don't have one and have some of your conversation via video chat. I use skype...just seeing the person helps a lot. Try extra hard not to get into fights, its makes things so much worse. Be positive. If you feel like you two can do this, then there is nothing stopping you. Good luck and I really hope this helps.
I love a girl but she lives in New Mexico and I live in California. She says she loves me to, but i really wish i could see her. I guess talking on the phone helps, cause you get to talk to her everyday. but yeah, i dont know how to make it easier. hope it goes well between you two.
yeah, I've been in a similar situation for a while now - we were together for 2 years and now a year and a half hundreds of miles apart. Skype is a lifesaver - great to chat face-to-face every now and then.
Ultimately, things will settle only as you learn to trust each other more. It hurt me intensely the first time she had to go. Even when you're willing to say you trust somebody completely, it's only time together and time apart that will really help you to understand how you feel. She's just on the bus home right now, which isn't easy for me - but it's something I'm also strangely comfortable with, simply because we know each other better than anybody. I'm not worried about her, and she's not worried about me. It's just time to tick away, and it goes faster than you'd ever be willing to believe.
just have you meet this person once and a while.
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
Every night phone calls help. Also, email each other daily about your day. It worked for me. Long distant for 6 months, then married her.
They are too painful for my heart. Too unhealthy.
I know exactly what you mean. Every time I talk to him I can tell that he is having an easier time.
It does hurt a lot but I can't give up
never give up on eachother ! Talk constantly and always know they love you
i dont think there is a way to make it easier. sorry to say this but i dont think it would work. what can you do in long distance relationships? talk on the phone, myspace. allll boring. but thats just my opinion.
always know that you will be together sometime and tell her that
LOTS OF COMMUNICATION
availability
if u can call him/her anytime and talk for longer then 10-15 min then its all good
visit often
talk to eachother as much as possible and try to make an arrangement for when you two can meet up and be together. It gives you guys something to look forward to.
maybe get webcams?
regular visits.
regular phone convos.
basically they suck..
Love each other unconditionally is the best advice
Move closer.
Trust each other, and think whether you really need it! I DO believe that this kind of relationship can work out, but one has to try hard! Talk to each other, chat, send NORMAL letters not e-mails. It'll make it easier!
short distance
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