Friday, November 25, 2011

Why are there so many movies that display the life and burdens of interracial relationships?

Such as; Jungle fever, Zebra stripes, and etc. But no movies (that I ever heard of) that document the life and burdens of a mixed person?





From my personal experience, society can be just as cruel to a mixed person, as any one in an interracial relationship.Why are there so many movies that display the life and burdens of interracial relationships?
What about Mr. Spock? Or Hondo? Both ';half-bred'; stories.





Art, I think the reason Hollywood doesn't delve too often into the subject is because it isn't one that immediately cuts to an identifiable stereotype or cultural shorthand.





All movies deal with a visual language that the audience doesn't have to think hard about. Think about a ';buddy movie'; one is a slob, the other a prig, ala the ';Odd Couple';. Think cop movies where the Chief is always trying to keep the maverick cop hemmed in, ala ';Beverly Hills Cop'; or ';Heat of the Night'; or any number of other films. See glasses on a girl ... she's smart; see a snotty blonde she is a soroity sister. See Halle Berry, she is just fine, ... goodness.





For your situation, there isn't a ready visual stereotype that folks can look at and immediately understand.





However, there is one film that deals with the theme you're asking about. I can't recall the name of it, but it is from the late '60s or early '70s. It starred Godfrey Cambridge and it dealt with a racist white guy who woke up black one day. His wife freaks, his kids freak and he freaks.





You might want to check it out. It deals with how this racist guy eventually deals with his situation.





I should backtrack a tad. Back in the olden days, there was an ';Urban Legend'; that if you had a drop of black blood in your veins, you could be white one day and black the next.





Another film that touches on your issue stars James Earl Jones and Robert Duval as brothers. Robert Duval is a cracker who discovers after his mother dies, that his father was black, and that he has a half brother living in Chicago.





Duval leaves his Cracker-World and heads to Chicago ...Why are there so many movies that display the life and burdens of interracial relationships?
Imitation of Life-1959, but it's a black girl that looks white


Deep in my Heart - it's all about a mixed woman's problems sort of. particularly w/ her maternal figures: a white rape victim who gives her up, a black foster mother who she's taken from and a white adoptive mother who she disconnected with.





If that helps!
Because it is the Jew run media trying to stuff diversity down our throats so that they can weaken the white man's place in this world. I don't wath much TV or movies. I prefer a good book. It is much more intelligent.
I agree. I've been in a relationship with my bf for over 3 years (he's black and I'm asian) I haven't dealt with any hardships except my parents getting used to the idea. lol
Media brainwashing the masses.





Racism is for the weak.
try the movie ';crash';
I totally know what you mean!
I know what u mean...and I agree

Why do abusive men stay in relationships with women they hate?

There's a lot of answers about why women stay in abusive relationships but I wonder why the abusive men do? I mean if their moody all the time and their either verbally or phsyically abusive to their partner, why stay in a relationship that makes you want to hit out?Why do abusive men stay in relationships with women they hate?
Being an abuser is not about love or hate for them. It is only about control. These men (and women) tend to have been abused themselves or have witnessed spousal abuse as children. They start out with an unhealthy view of relationships and a huge hit to their self esteem. This is what they know. Being abusive gives them a sense of control over overwhelming feelings of fear and insecurity. The fear of losing their partner is what drives this. As a health professional and one who has been in an abusive relationship, I can speak from experience on this issue.





Now to the issue of control. All of us feel the need to control some aspects of our lives because our nature and our operating program tells us that we have to do whatever it takes to avoid pain and seek pleasure. The anger and need to control that is part of the abuser's operating system is his/her way of avoiding pain...the pain of loss in situations of abuse.





I have included some links on human nature and what relationships should look like from a spiritual perspective. Hope you find them interesting.





Best WishesWhy do abusive men stay in relationships with women they hate?
Asking the question implies that the reason they're abusive is because the other person makes them miserable and its they're fault the person is abusive. THAT isn't what abuse is about. People who abuse have a need to manipulate and control, trust me...no matter what you do, it will not please an abusive person.


Reason why people abuse is because they aren't happy with themselves. But instead of making changes to themselves they blame everyone else and/or manipulate/control others with negativity to make themselves feel better.
Perhaps they have a sadistic love.They expressed their love by hurting their wives.Weird is not it? but that is how a Sadist man loves - that is through hurting the one he love...You Know if this abusive man does not love their wives they better just leave or file a divorce...but they stay..it only means they do also love their wives but are just sadistic in loving them.
A drug dealer needs addicts, and abusers need victims. The dealer and the abuser both thrive on controlling their subjects.





If the addict and victim choose not to break this bond, they might just as well put a gold ring on their controllers finger, because it lasts for life.





It is their intent to keep you that way, it's their euphoric high, they will not leave you and may even increase the amount of control they have over you. Your pain and suffering is music to their ears, that's why they stay.





Good Luck - Bless You








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If a man finds out he can domanate a woman and still have her while he does whats he wants to do, he will keep her around. Due to when things do not go his way he comes back and has his ice cream and cake. She is a fall back girl, some a man can fall back to when things go sour in another relationship he has on the side.
I have no idea and have never thought about it that way. I have never hit a woman and I do not like violence at all. I think those that do hit are in it for control. They like to control women. Nuts huh? I feel so badly for the women who end up with asssholes like that.
They stay because they can CONTROL their wife! They are to insecure to take their anger out on other men. If a guy were to come up to them wanting to fight, these jerks would run with their tail tucked under their legs.The Wives are their victim because they are the only ones they can control.
Because they enjoy having the power and control over their partner, and most abusive men were abused when they were younger, so they see nothing wrong with it.....as far as some of them are concerned, its normal.
Becaus they know a quality, sane woman would never want them. Please, stop putting up with abuse %26amp; become a quality, sane woman again!
It's kind of like a war lord that conquers villages and countries. This land is mine. She's property, a most loyal vicitm that he can take everything out on.
Power that is all it is plus someone to wait on then , but remember abuse is done by big brave men?
thay are abusive, thay abuse all woman that will let them if thay got another woman thay would try to do them the same way,
they dont hate them. they just want to control something. them.
It's not that they hate the woman. In fact, they may very well love her, or at the least need her. Believe it or not, people who have anger problems don't sit there and choose to be abusive. It could be just because of their abrasive personality, or more likely, with the way the were raised and or some traumatic event in their childhood. Personally, as a woman, I have anger issues as well. I'm not physically abusive, but I find when I get very angry it is VERY difficult to stop myself from yelling, screaming, and overreacting. Now, I have realized this about myself and am working to change it. Believe me though, it's actually very difficult. I know that my anger problems are very trivial compared to some, and it is EXTREMELY hard to change. You can't truly understand it unless you have problems yourself. With enough dedication and will power, you can start to act better, but you can never control those impulses. They are always there. In a lot of instances with abusive relationships, they don't truly hate the person. In fact, they often love them. They just do not know how to control or stop their anger and persistent rages. This is not an excuse for their behavior, but it is an explanation. For those who do not truly love their partner, they are often using them. Whenever they find someone who is actually willing to tolerate their hanger, they cling to it as hard as they can. If ever they feel they might be losing their hold on that person, they will often turn ';sweet'; for a little while and rope them back in.





I'm not justifying their actions, but I try not to judge because it really is a very difficult transformation to change. It's not like a drug addiction where once it's out of your system you can try and forget about it. Those rage impulses are ALWAYS there, no matter how long you try and control them. Now, someone who is truly mastering their change can control these impulses, but it's difficult and quite exhausting to be honest.

LGBT: When it comes to personal relationships, do you have the right to discriminate?

I would never judge someone by their looks, gender nationality or sexual orientation, but when it comes to a up close and personal relationship, I think you have a right to discriminate. What do you think?LGBT: When it comes to personal relationships, do you have the right to discriminate?
We do have the right to choose whom we want to associate with. If you mean friendships, personally, I don't care about gender, ethnicity, age, etc. But if you mean a romantic relationship, then I am guided by what appeals to me. Some people like blonds, some don't. Some like tall guys, some don't. Some like guys with facial hair, some don't. You can only be attracted to that which attracts you. You can't pretend to be attracted and have it work out over the long term.LGBT: When it comes to personal relationships, do you have the right to discriminate?
When it comes to personal relationships, it's not discrimination. It's choice.





I mean no one, but no one, has a ';right'; to demand a personal relationship.
No i dont think that you should discriminate against that person because you don't know how that person truly and honestly feel for you so why would you do something like that and turn that person away not knowing if this is the right person for you.
I really don't think so, but that's just me...

Why do people associate jealousy with relationships so often?

Sometimes there is a general question about jealousy with no mention of a relationship and yet the answers usually focus on relationships


There are so many issues people get jealous over - why are we not concerned as much about other issues?Why do people associate jealousy with relationships so often?
Jealousy, over time became synonymous with relationships.





Anything else it tends to called envy, even though Webster's defines it similar to jealousy along with an additional component.





I think because with jealousy and relationships, there is a fear of loss involved.





Fear of loss can do some strange things to people.





I knew a girl who broke up with a guy, an abusive jerk in fact. 2 weeks later she found out he was dating someone else, so she uncharacteristically beat that girl up and went back with that guy.





I don't understand the logic, but emotions don't always make sense, do they?Why do people associate jealousy with relationships so often?
Jealousy naturally accompanies relationships because the mating game is highly competitive. We usually don't pair up randomly or indiscriminately. Most often, we compete with each other for a subset of the mates with the highest perceived fitness. Jealousy helps provide motivation to outdo the opposition and protect our mates once we've hooked them.
I'm not sure. I actually get jealous when my best friend hangs out with someone else haha or if my mom gives my brothers girlfriend alot of attention instead of me. or when the guy i like likes my friend.stupid, but jealousy is a human emotion that effects all different situations.
The main problem in a relationship is jealousy caused by your lover paying attention to a third person whom you see as a rival. That really causes your heart racing with rage and fear of losing your lover.
Because personal relationships are where jealousy is most often seen. When we open ourselves to others we feel vulnerable and this then reveals our insecurities.

What influence does behaviour have on relationships between people with disabilities?

Does behaviour ...of a challenging nature... impact the development of relationships between people who experience disability? If so, can such behaviour work to strengthen bonds between people ...or does it simply inhibit relationships?What influence does behaviour have on relationships between people with disabilities?
It takes a kind of special person that can cope with some one that has a disability, and not have that I feel sorry for you because you have a disability.I order to really cope with it you have to be in it for the long haul because it will wear you down and put a strain on a relationship, I know for a fact because I have been a wheel chair now for over a year and I have heard my spouse say I wish he wasn't in the damn thing.What influence does behaviour have on relationships between people with disabilities?
I am not sure. I am still learning about this one. My brother, who is learning disabled, recently ran off and married a woman he met on the internet. I am still waiting to see how this is going to turn out. I would think that on his part it would strengthen it, but it could just as easily inhibit it. Especially if they have a difficulty understanding each other. You didn't mention whether you were talking about mental or physical disabilities.
well im in a wheel chair and i have had plenty of relationships in my life off of which are with normal men and its not once been a problem ive been married now for 6 years and my husband doent even think about the wheel chair. so i would say it makes no difference unless the handicapped person is opcest with it. and they are always puting a guilt trip on the other person.
in general terms, others may have pre-concieved notions that disabilities means being incapacitated in every sense of the word, not having the knowledge of the word itself. ignorance (w/ no fault in particular) can manifest into a dark underworld of denials.


one has to be open to the world of possibilities that disabilities doesnt simply inhibit relationships rather, it can and will enhance it once itself embrace and accept it. u ask a deep question........i like that!
I think behavior plays a key role in the development of a handicap person. I say this because my youngest son has Cystic Fibrosis, when we started out with a negative behavior ( like it was a tragedy happening to him) then we had a negative effect and he was more self conscious of having to do the things that help him survive. Although when we changed our attitude towards his disability to lets fight through this, and this is started doing all his treatments as just something that needs to be done, and we quit making a big deal out of it. He no longer has to stay in the hospital, and the effect it had on him rubbed of on the way he was treated by his peers. When we had the its no big deal attitude, so did his friends. And yes I do believe it does strengthen bonds between people.
Your question is confusing me

What is the point of homosexual relationships?

The whole point to relationships is reproduction.


Heterosexual relationships are only good for keeping populations from dying out, and so homosexual relationships defeat the entire purpose of relationships altogether.What is the point of homosexual relationships?
There are so many answers before me, I'm sure that I wouldn't be able to add any new perspective to this...





...so I'll just say this. HAVE A WONDERFUL DAY! =PWhat is the point of homosexual relationships?
The first statement is where you are completely incorrect.





Relationships are not about reproduction. Many heterosexuals get married, and don't have children. The point of a relationship is loving someone for who they are. And infact, you should want the population of the world to die out. Why, because there are a limited amount of jobs, and forigners are going to be taking our jobs because the boss will have them work for less pay. Also, because with more people, more funding is needed. So that includes more taxes.





You are an ignorant homophobic bastard.
The point of them is to be happy with the person you love. Human society has turned from needing reproduction to needing a stable family, and if you can find happiness in being in a relationship with the same gender and maintain a good relationship as anyone else would, then you can't change, it's how you were born! Wouldn't that also mean that condoms and birth control were useless, and that children should be having sex underage to make children earlier? That seems sick to me, well, the second one, atleast. Besides, homosexuals CAN adopt and raise children. Sure, it doesn't bring someone new into the world, but it gives someone a home, isn't that all that matters? (completely pro-gay marriage)
The world is already overpopulated, so i don't think EVERY person in the world needs to have a child. And the whole point to relationships is not reproduction. If that's the case, why don't straight people just live in testing facilities and be breeders, and the rest of us will be living our lives. The point is, not everyone is parent material. Have you seen some of the airheads in relationships? Do you really think they should have kids? A guy who is a jock and wears hollister, and a dumb blonde who is a cheerleader and probably is a closet drinker. Oh yeah, their children would be wonderful. What about two druggies that are in a relationship? Should they have kids? You need to think about what your saying here. And what if man and woman could not make a kid? Would ALL sexual relationships be shunned at that point?
Wow, I bet you get lots of ladies into bed with that line. ';Hey baby, the whole point of a relationship is to reproduce. So come on up to my room and we'll get straight to the point.';





No, the point of a man ejaculating inside a woman is to reproduce. The point of a relationship is love, support, and affection, all of which humans need to properly survive. And you can get it from a man, OR a woman.
If everyone thought that way, our world would be even more overpopulated than it is already.


More famine, war, and pollution.


THE HUMAN POPULATION IS NOT DYING OUT.


What about sterile heterosexual couples? They can't reproduce, I'm sure you've heard that a thousand times, but do they not have the right to pair up?
the point of a homosexual relationship is this








THEY WANNA FREAKIN BE TOGETHER!! GEEZ!!!





duh! there dnt have to be a point to be with someone. If there is someone that likes you and you like them back and they wanna be with you and you wanna be with them.... what is there to do?????


BE WITH THEM
uhhh there is no point to a relationship....





the point of sex is to reproduce....





but since there is much entertainment in sex it can also be used as a general activity.





Since some people are attracted to the same sex it wouldn't make sense to say that the only point sex is to reproduce....besides...i believe condoms and birth control kill your logic.
your question is like asking ';what is the point of love?';





There are plenty of way to reproduce in the world now days, so you point is invalid. Its about who you are attracted to and who you love? Not about let me just go have kids to increase the world's population.
Just because we are gay doesn't mean that we don't want someone to spend the rest of our lives with. Relationships are more about having a companion and not so much as for reproduction. If that were true, why are half the pregnancies caused by one night stands?
I would say the point if looked at from a biological point of view is to stop the population from spiralling out of control.





However the real point which applies to all relationships, is one of love. Just love...
because everyone wants to have love in their life.. what the point of having heterosexual relations if you don't plan on having children, if the wife got her ovaries taken out or if the man got a lil snip snip and cant produce sperm anymore...
That is a complete load of rubbish. If all relationships are to you is a means to reproduce I feel very sorry for you. Haven't you ever heard of love, warmth, compassion etc? You must be a very sad person.
It's just who you go well with who you're attracted to and then you end up in a relationship with them. It isn't what you think over. It just is how you feel best comfortable in.
So...if the only point to relationships is reproduction, then infertile people should be single, and old couples should divorce.





Got it. I'll send out the memo immediately.
What is the point of you asking the question for a second time and just receiving the same answer over and over again?
If the whole point to relationships is reproduction, I really feel sorry for anyone who dates you.
It's nothing to do with a ';point';. It's whomever you are sexually attracted to. Not about gender, but about love.
The only reason straight couples have sex is to make babies?? Not because it feels so good or just because they love each other?? Who knew??
It's questions like this that make me wonder if the anti-queer crowd is really, really bad at sex and hate their partners.
Homosexuals are here not as a test of their virtue but rather as a test of yours on how well you treat your fellow man.
to ensure no more ignorant uneducated people like you EVER come into existance - again.





and guess what - it's working.
ha, what a sad life u must have if u think THATS the purpose of a relationship lol
YOU are so IGNORANT!


go back into the pickle bottle you pickled-brain @sswipe!
So what? Get over it
love and the need to share
i disagree, some people should not reproduce! lol! regardless
Boy, I bet your wife just LOVES you. LOL
i bet youre gay and in disguise
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  • How might living in foster homes positively impact a childs ability to build relationships with others?

    How might living in foster homes positively impact a childs ability to build relationships with others?How might living in foster homes positively impact a childs ability to build relationships with others?
    To trust nobody and be self-sufficientHow might living in foster homes positively impact a childs ability to build relationships with others?
    Knowing that really no one wants them. Not having permanancy in their lives. Knowing that they can only depend on themselves. Knowing at a real early age, that adults can be idiots. Having adults lie to them all the time. Being labled at a young age as being defective. Moving around so much they are unable to have meaningful relationships. Having no one in your corner rooting for you. Not understanding the concept of unconditional live. Equating parental love with abuse. Oh yeah, all kids should be foster kids. Oh lets not forget, being booted out of a home when you are 18, with a couple hundred dollars and being told ';your on your own'; Ueah I get all warm and fuzzy inside think about that one.
    They will learn to become more independent, but they will also learn to become more outgoing and be better at making new friends. (in some cases, anyway)